Ingxaki yokusela utywala phakathi kwabasetyhini ayikho into efana neyobugcisa njengabantu. Sekunjalo, kwisilinganisi esilinganiselweyo samanxila abesetyhini aphantsi. Kodwa kukho enye ingxaki, kungekho ngaphantsi kweendlela - ukuyeka ukusela utywala ngokwakho kumfazi, kuba utywala obunxinxile lukhuni kakhulu ukunyanga ngenxa yokuxhomekeka okunzulu, okubhekisele ngakumbi kubasetyhini. Yaye ngelixa umfazi, ehlanjelwa ekudakwa ngokungapheliyo akayi kukwazi ukutshintsha ebomini, akukho mntu uya kumnceda.
Naluphi na imeko kunye nezimbangela zokuxiliswa kotywala, umfazi akanalo ilungelo lokulibala ukuba uyintombi, umfazi, unina. Nangona yonke into embi kwintsapho, umntu akafanele alahlekelwe isithunzi sakhe somntu. Simele sizame ukuthabatha imeko.
Izizathu ezinokwenzeka zokusela utywala kwabasetyhini
Izazi zeNarcologists zithi kunzima kowesifazane ukuba alawule isixa esinxilisayo, ulahlekelwe ukukwazi ukuqonda, ukubeka imida. Ngokusemgangathweni, ezi zimpawu zibonakalisa zonke izidakwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuba isini. Kodwa lona wesifazane, kwakhona, uchaza isicaka sengqondo esingamvumeli ukuba acinge ngakumbi.
Ukongeza, izinga lokunyamezela utywala kwabasetyhini liphantsi. Ngenxa yoko zonke iingxaki. Yaye amakhaya ahlupheke ngakumbi, kuba akukho nto iyingozi kunomama onxilisayo. Abasetyhini abaninzi bayaqonda ukuba basesikhungweni esichukumisayo. Umbuzo wendlela yokuphuma kuyo, nokuba ingaba kwenzeka. Kakade, yonke into inokwenzeka. Kodwa kuya kuba nzima kakhulu, kuya kubakho ukungaphumeleli, ukudandatheka , i-hangover syndrome. Oku kuphuhliso lwezendalo. Into ephambili akuyi kuphuka kwaye ungayishiyi.
Esinye sezizathu eziqhelekileyo zokuxhomekeka kukuxhamla, ukungoneleliseki ebomini, nokuba ngaba umfazi usatshatile, unabantwana. Kukhona inzame yokuphepha kwiingxaki, ukusukela kuwe uncedo lonxila. Kodwa oku kuyingcamango nje. Ukucima ubuhlungu nokuphelelwa yithemba kwibhotile yindlela ebi kakhulu. Kwaye ukuze uphume kwesi sihogo esinxilisayo, kuya kuthatha inqabileyo, imizamo, iindlela, iindlela, iindlela. Into yokugqibela ithi unokukwazi ukuphuma.
Oogqirha-i-narcologists bahlala bejamelana nengxaki yokusela utywala kwabasetyhini emva kweminyaka engama-35 ukuya kwe-40. Mhlawumbi oku kungenxa yentlekele yobudala obuphakathi, xa umfazi eqonda ukuba ixesha alixhomekekanga, ukuba ulutsha luhamba, kunye nalo ubuhle, impumelelo kunye nesini esahlukileyo. Nangona, xa sele uqale ukusela, umfazi akanako ukunceda kodwa uqaphele indlela ajika ngayo kumfazi omdala ogulayo ngoku. Ngeli nqanaba, enye indlela okanye enye, ibhinqa liya kuba nombuzo-indlela yokuyeka ukusela kuphela.
Unokuyeka njani abafazi bokusela?
1. Ibhinqa elisebenzisa kakubi utywala linokusetyenziswa ngokuthe ngcipheko ekunciphiseni umthamo we-vodka, njengokuba umfazi angakwazi ukuyeka ukusela ubhiya. Ngokuchanekileyo - kancane kancane!
2. Ngexesha lokubuyiselwa kwiinkathazo ezinxulumene nokuxhomekeka kotywala, kubalulekile ukuba umntu osondeleyo uzifumene, njengenkxaso.
Uncedo lugqirha alubalulekanga ukuba lunqobe umlutha. Ewe, apha izichaso ziqala. Ukunyusa umfazi ukuba aqale unyango akulula. Unesizathu salo:
- akafuni ukunyamezela "ilinen ecocekileyo esuka kwindlu";
- akukho mnqweno wokuxoxa ngeengxaki zabo kunye nomntu ongaphandle;
- ukoyika ukuhlaziswa nokungaqondani;
- zimbi kubagqirha;
- ayiboni ingxaki yangempela.
4. Ukufumana unyango olupheleleyo ngaphandle kokuba uphando luyimfuneko.
5. Iindlela zabantu zokulwa ezifana nokuya kumama ngokuncedisa nge-chamomile uncedo, kodwa alukwazi ukulwa nokugula kwangempela kokuxila.
Ukuyeka ukusela utywala kumfazi?
Ukuphuma okubonakalayo kwiimeko ezinzima - kuphela ngo kunceda unyango lweziyobisi. Kukho izindlu ezikhethiweyo zebhodi ezijongene nale ngxaki.
Iingcali zengqondo zicebise kwinkqubo yokonyango ekudakwa utywala ukuze kuhlaziywe isangqa sahlobo lwabo, ngokungenabubele ukuphula zonke iinkcukacha ezinobungozi, ukufumana abaqhelana nabo, mhlawumbi kunye "nabazalwana kunye noodade abahluphekileyo". Kukho iimeko xa uthando olungalindelekanga luncede ukuba umntu aphuze ngokuphuza. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amava anamandla (okwenene, akhuthazayo) anokuthintela ukuxiliswa kotywala kwabasetyhini.