Ukuba ukholwa ngamabango enzululwazi, ke iindlela zokuphuma kwixinzelelo zifakwa kuwo wonke umntu. Ngamanye amaxesha oku kufuna uncedo lomgqirha, kodwa sinokutshintsha iingqondo zethu, indawo yethu, ukutya kwethu kunye neendlela zethu zokulala.
Abantu abaninzi banamhlanje banengxaki yokudandatheka. Eli rhulumente lenza ubomi bethu bube buze kwaye buvuyo. Amawaka abantu ehlabathini lonke bayazibuza umbuzo othi "Yintoni enokuyenza ngokudandatheka okukhulu?" Iimeko ezibuthathakayo ziqala ukungabonakali, kodwa ngokukhawuleza zihamba zihlala zihlala zihlala kwaye ziba nzima ukuba umntu abuyele kwiimeko ezintle. Kule mvelaphi, kukho ukukhathala, ukunganakwa , ukungafuni ukwenza into kwaye ngokuvusa ukuvuka ekuseni. Mhlawumbi, wonke umntu ufumene oku. Masisebenze kunye kunye nantoni na ukuba senze ntoni ukuba kunokudakumba.
Ukudandatheka kubantu
Kuwo wonke umntu, ukuxinezeleka kunokubonakaliswa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Abanye badabukile kwaye bahoxiswa, abanye bacatshukiswa kwaye banobundlobongela, abanye baya emsebenzini baze basele utywala obuninzi. Iingxaki zinokuba yizinto ezahlukeneyo-ukungaphumeleli emsebenzini, ebomini bomntu, kwisigxina seminyaka ephakathi. Ngelishwa, amadoda angakwazi ukuziguqula kakuhle, ngoko ngamanye amaxesha kunzima kunzima ukufumanisa ukuba okanye ungazixinekile. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba amadoda ahlupheke kakhulu ngenxa yokudandatheka, kuba baphoqeleka ukuba bagcine yonke into ngokwabo. Ibhinqa lilula ukwabelana nosizi lwakhe, inokuthetha nomhlobo, ukuthetha, ukukhala kunye nokuzola.
Amanqaku asitshela ukuba uninzi lwabazibulala bahlala kwisiqingatha sabantu.
Indlela yokufumana umntu ngaphandle kokudandatheka?
Zama ukuthetha nomntu kwaye uqonde ingxaki yakhe. Ukuba usondele ngokwaneleyo, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuba nako ukucacisa isizathu saloo rhulumente ngokwakho. Ukongezelela, ukuxhasa amadoda kubaluleke kakhulu, iingcebiso ezinobungane kunye nexesha lokubambisana.
Ukuxinezeleka kwabasetyhini
Abasetyhini baninzi banokudandatheka ngenxa yokuba banentlonelo kwaye banenkxalabo ngezinto ezibonakala zingabalulekanga. Ukuhlambalaza okulula kunokuhlaselwa kukuphelelwa yithemba, ukudandatheka nokunganakwa. Eli bhinqa lithinteka kakhulu kwizinto zangaphakathi nangaphandle. Ukuxinwa kunye nokuxinzezeleka okuqhubekayo kudala nokudakumba. Abafazi abaninzi banyanzelekile ukuba baphile baze bavelise abantwana ngexesha elinye. Kuyaqondakala ukuba imali yesondlo ayinakwanela, kufuneka ulondoloze kuyo yonke into kwaye kuqala kokunye. Kwaba besetyhini-kunzima kakhulu. Kule nkalo, abanye abantu bayazibuza umbuzo othi: "Yintoni enokuyenza xa umfazi ecinezelekile?" Kulo mzekelo, kufuneka uxoxe nomthandi wakho uze uzame ukuyiqonda. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni, kufuneka uhlangane kunye nesisombululo kule ngxaki.
Kuthiwani ukuba ukuxinezeleka kwaqala?
Kukho iintlobo ezahlukahlukeneyo zendawo yokudandatheka yokuba abantu abahlukeneyo bahlupheka ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ukuba unenkxalabo malunga neengxaki, zama ukucwangcisa usuku lwakho kwaye ubone ixesha elilodwa. Into ephambili kule nkqubo kukulandela ngokucacileyo isicwangciso sakho ngokuqaphela ukuba ixesha elikhethekileyo linikezelwa kwintlalo kunye nesisombululo sombuzo.
Yintoni oyenzayo ngexesha lokudakumba?
Qinisekisa ukwenza imidlalo, ungabhalisa kumdaniso, uthathe isilazi epholile, mamela umculo ozithandayo uze ufunde imisebenzi oyithandayo.
Omnye umntu omkhulu wathi isenzo sonyango elifanelekileyo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, ukwesaba kuvela kukungasebenzi, ngoko udibanise kunye kwaye uqhubeke uhlala uthembele ngokupheleleyo ukuba ngexesha elifanayo unokukwazi ukujamelana neengxaki zabo ngokukhawuleza.