Uninazala kunye nomkhwenyana wabantu ababini babumbene ngumntu ozalelwe kubo bobabini, kodwa oku mhlawumbi konke okufanayo. Inyaniso yokuba aba bantu bakuthola kunzima ukuhambelana nayo yonke into iyazi yonke into kwaye yaziwa ngamashumi eminyaka emininzi. Ehlabathini lamahlazi, kukho amahlaya amaninzi malunga noninazala njengama-blondes. Ewe, kukho abantu abanenhlanhla abakwazi ukufumana ulwimi olufanayo nomama wabo umfazi okokuqala, kodwa kukho abo abangenako ukuseka ubudlelwane naye.
Intsapho encinci inemingcele enzulu kakhulu. Kwaye ioli iyongezwa emlilweni ngabantu abavela kuyo, abasandul 'ukutshata banethuba elingaphantsi lokuphila kunye neentlungu zokuqala zentsapho, baqina ngakumbi ngexesha elinye. Kuwo wonke umntu, nokuba yintoni ubuhlobo bakhe nabazali bakhe, badlala indima ebalulekileyo. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba baninzi kangakanani iminyaka abantwana, abazali baya kuhlala bezama ukuzisa iingcebiso zabo ebomini babo, nangona ukuba umntwana wabo unentloko yakhe emagxeni akhe, kwaye uyazi ngokuthatha izigqibo ezibalulekileyo.
Ubudlelwane phakathi komkhwekazi nomkhwenyana
Amadoda abavakalelwa kukuba umama wakhe othandekayo uyonwabile ngenxa yokukhethwa kwendoda yakhe nentombi yakhe kwaye ngubani ongakwazi ukuhamba kunye nonina nomfazi. Kodwa abo bakuva imihla ngemihla ukuba uhlala esenza into engalunganga, ngakumbi. Cinga ngezizathu zokungquzulana phakathi komkhwekazi nomkhwenyana kunye nokuzama ukuqonda ukuba kutheni umama-mkhwenkwe kwiimeko ezininzi ezichasene nomkhwenyana.
- Kwiimeko ezininzi, imbangela ebalulekileyo yeengxabano yintombi encinci yomkhwekazi. Akakwazi ukucombulula nayiphi na imeko engundoqo ngaphandle kweengcebiso ngonina. Umkhwenyana kamva unombuzo: ngubani na owathathayo-intombazana okanye umfazi omdala? Ngenxa yoko, konke ukunganeliseki wakhe nomfazi wakhe, wenza iprojekthi kumamazala kamasipala.
Isigqibo: umkhwenyana kufuneka abonise ukuba nguye onoxanduva kunye nozimeleyo onokuthenjwa yintombi yakhe.
- Isizathu sesibini kwimpikiswano nomamazala siyakwazi ukufihla ubudlelwane obuyingxaki, iingxabano ezingaphendululwanga, izikhalazo zabantwana kunye nokudumala komyeni wakhe nonina. Ngenxa yoko, ngokungazi uyadlulisela ubu budlelwane obu bunzima kubudlelwane nomamazala. Ithukusa yonke into encinane kwizenzo zomama wakhe umfazi. Nangona umama-mkhwe unokuba ngumntu omangalisayo, kodwa kule meko uza kuhlawula ngabanye abantu.
Isigqibo: umama-mkhwenkwe kule meko kuyimfuneko ukucinywa kwaye angayimvumeli ngoluvo malunga naluphi na iingxaki zeentsapho, kodwa ngoko ukuphendulwa kwezicelo, ungafuneki ukubulela kwimpendulo
. - Kwaye isizathu esilandelayo sokungquzulana sifihliwe kwimvelo yothando-noninazala, inzondelelo yakhe yokulawula yonke into. Uzolile kwaye anelisekile kuphela xa wonke umntu evumelana naye kwaye wenza oko akutshoyo. Kwaye ukuba umama akazange amthande umkhwe wakhe, ugxininisa onke amandla akhe ekuphumeleleni ukulwa nomkhwenyana wakhe ukususela ngosuku lokuqala lomtshato.
Isisombululo: indlela ephela yokuzincoma umkhwekazi kukuvumela ukuba azive njengowesifazane obuthathaka kwaye, ekugqibeleni, njengesibonakaliso sokubulela, uya kushiya isidleke sakho sekhaya.
- Ukuba umama-mkhwenyana wedwa wakhulisa intombi, kunokwenzeka ukuba uya kumprobela ubomi bakhe bentsapho ebomngcipheko kumntwana wakhe. Kwaye kulo mzekelo, inyathelo ngalinye lomkhwenyana uza kugxekwa. Uninazala uthelekisa nomyeni wakhe.
Isisombululo: kuyimfuneko ukunika umfazi onesizungu unomvakalelo, njengokungathi unomntu onokuzithemba kuye, kokubili ubomi bomhla ngemihla nasemphefumlweni wakhe.
- Ubudlelwane phakathi komama-mkhwenkwe kunye nomkhwenyana wandisa umgangatho wokuhlala
kunye nobomi. Okubi nakwimeko ukuba umkhwenkwe uyaxhomekeka kwimama yomtshakazi. Isisombululo: inketho engcono kukuba uhlukanise nomamazala, fumana indawo yakho yokuhlala kunye nemali.
- Ukuba okwangoku, le nto iphela iphupha, umkhwenyana uyimfuneko ukuze alondoloze ubudlelwane obuhle kunye noninazala:
- musa ukulibala ukuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo kuye;
- kuyinqweneleka ukuyibiza umama. Oku kunciphisa umgama wengqondo kunye nokuphucula ubudlelwane
- akukho naphantsi kweemeko ezingafanelekanga ukugxekisa uninazala njengento engenamsebenzi.