Kungakhathaliseki isizathu, abantu baqala inkosikazi, nangona bodwa batshatile kwaye bethandwa ngokwenene-abantu abaninzi banomdla kule mibuzo.
Ukuthetha ngesizathu sokuba umthandi osetshatileyo uqala umfazi ohlukileyo, ngokuqhelekileyo isizathu sokuba umnqweno wokwanelisa iimpawu zakhe zenyama. Kodwa kukho ezinye iinkcazo zezi mpawu.
Kutheni amadoda ephosa?
- Akukho nantlukwano . Amadoda amaninzi athi aqala inkosikazi kungekudala emva komtshato kwaye kungekhona ekuqaleni kwentsapho yobomi, kodwa ngelixa umfazi wakhe eyeka ukwanelisekile ngesondo, ngoko ukhangele indlela efanelekileyo apho ekwazi ukuyiqonda ngokupheleleyo loo nto ufuna.
- Ukungaphumeleli kwemvelo kunye ne-hormonal . Kule meko, i-psychology ibonisa ukuba umthandi otshatileyo unokuya ku fumana inkosikazi ngenxa yokuba umzimba wakhe unobungozi obunzima be-hormonal okanye obuthakathaka, ngenxa yokuba ukukhanga kwakhe kubanzi. Amanye amadoda akazange aqikelele ngokufumana inkosikazi, kodwa kwezinye iimeko imeko inganyanzelisa: ukugula komfazi okanye enye into.
- Ukuguga kwangaphambili . Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba ibhinqa lidala kakhulu kunomntu, ngoko indoda "njengezilwanyana" inzame ukufumana ukhetho olungcono "olutsha" kuye kwaye ayiyikuyeka ukukhankanya ngengozi kwanoma isiphi isondo. Kodwa ngaphandle kwayo yonke into, umthandi onjalo otshatileyo ngenxa yesizathu esithile uqhubeka ekhwele umkakhe. Oku kukho konke ukuba ukholelwa ukuba lo ngumfazi wakhe kwaye akukho mntu ufanele amkhangele.
- Mfundisi kunye nekhredithi . Ngokuqinisekileyo, abaninzi banokuqonda oko kusemgangathweni apha. Ewe, ngokwenene, nangona umthandana otshatileyo, nokuba ngaba ngumthandi otshatileyo, abanako ukuqonda ukuba bawasebenzisa nje, bakhupha imali eninzi kunokwenzeka. Kodwa, lo mthandi otshatileyo ukholelwa ukuba kufuneka athengise ukuthanda kwakhe ngezipho, athenge yonke into ayifunayo, kwaye uhlawule ngesondo esifanelekileyo. Ewe, umthandi otshatileyo akakwazi ukunika imali umnqweno wakhe, kuba ukholelwa ukuba uyamboleka. Kodwa ngaba kunjalo ngokwenene? Ewe, kwimeko efanelekileyo kunokwenzeka, kodwa kungekho rhoqo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, inkosikazi izakukhupha yonke imali kwaye ithi ayifuni, kwaye iya kukhangela okulandelayo. Yaye yintoni ehleliyo kumntu osweleyo osweleyo? Ewe, hamba phantsi kwephiko lomfazi wakhe.
- LeMfundo . Esinye isizathu sokuba indoda ikopela umfazi kukuba yenzelwe nje ngendlela engafanelekanga njengomntwana. Ngokuqinisekileyo, waxelelwa ebuntwaneni bakhe ukuba indoda inokuba namabhinqa amaninzi, njengoko ufuna. Kodwa, ngokuqinisekileyo, abazali bayalibala ukukhankanya ukuba ibhinqa labo (omnye omnye) kufuneka lihlonishwe, kwaye lingakhubeki. Oku akusebenzi nakowuphina umzimba
izinto, kodwa luhlobo lwemfundo engcolileyo.
Kwakhona kukufanelekile ukuba sicinge ukuba izibini ezitshatileyo ezatshatyalaliswa emva komtshato, kufuneka zithathwe ngokukrakra. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umntu uhlala efuna ukulala ngesondo, kwaye umfazi ube kanye ngeveki ngokwaneleyo, ngoko umntu unokutsho ukuba olu dlelwane aluzange lwenzeke, kwaye balindele ukuphuka okungenakukhunjulwa okanye i-adventure kwicala.
Nomaphi apho wayenabo kunye nomntu owayethandana naye, wayesenomona ngomkakhe. Kwaye, nokuba mhlawumbi kwindawo yoshishino wadibana nendoda ethile kwaye bebenomsebenzi osisigxina, le ndoda ayigxininise kulo, kuba umfazi akayi kukwazi malunga nayo, kwaye ngoko ke uya ekhaya elinesazela esicacileyo. Kubonakala ngathi yinto yonke ifanele ibe.