Kwiimeko ezinzima, abantu baninzi badinga iingcebiso ezilungileyo, kodwa ngakwelinye icala, ekunyameni komphefumlo, kukho ukuqaphela ukuba yonke into iyaziwa kwaye iyaqondakala ngaphandle kweenkcukacha eziqhelekileyo, ingakumbi ukuba ezi ngcebiso zihambelana nolwalamano lwentsapho.
Kodwa kunjalo, kodwa kungcono ukuphulaphula iingcebiso uze wenze isigqibo sokuba uyayilandela okanye cha. Nangona iziphakamiso zeengcali eziyazi malunga neengqondo zentsapho zobudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomyeni, kuyafaneleka ukuphulaphula, ukuba ufuna ukugcina ukufudumala kwentsapho yakho, ukuqonda nokuthanda. Kodwa indlela yokwenza oko, kubalulekile ukuqonda.
Ingqondo yezobudlelwane bomtshato
Ukujongana neengqondo zobomi bentsapho, umntu kufuneka aphulaphule iingcebiso ezinokunceda ukugcina intsapho. Ngoko:
- Ungalokothi ufune ukulahlekelwa oqhagamshelwano lwengqondo kunye nentembelo ebuhlotsheni. Kudingeka sixoxe ngomnye nomnye zonke iingxaki kunye nobunzima. Oko kukuthi, kufuneka ukholose kwaye ungesabi ukuxelela abanye imizwa yakho. Nangona into ebonakala ngathi ihlakisayo kwizenzo okanye ngamazwi omlingane, akudingeki ukuba uqokelele izikhalazo, kuba ngexesha "lingatshisa ngamanzi abilayo", oko kubangela ukuba intshabalalo inkulu yintsapho.
- Musa ukulibala ngokunyaniseka. Ukuba ebomini obunxulumene ezithile iimpawu ezithile zomntu zityhilwa, ngoko ke umntu makangakulungeli ukulungisa umlingane wakhe. Awudingi ukukhangela iimpazamo kulo, kodwa ngokuchaseneyo, kukulungele ukugxininisa ngokuphindaphindiweyo ezi mpawu ezintle awayezithanda ngazo. Umthandayo kufuneka ahlale kunye naye.
- Kufuneka ufunde ukungafuneki, kodwa uchaze iimfuno zakho. Musa ukucaphuka, kufuneka uthabathe yonke into, njengoko kukho kwaye ungakhohlwa ukubulela omnye nomnye, kwaneenkonzo ezincinci kunye noncedo oluncinane.
Ingqondo yeentlalontle zentsapho: umona nokukrexeza
Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba elinye iqabane likhwele omnye, libonisa ukungathembeki okungapheliyo, ilitsho into ethile. Kwaye kwenzeka okungafaniyo: umntu ucinga ngokunyaniseka. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umfazi uhlala ephikisana nomyeni wakhe ngesizathu, indoda iqala ukucinga ukuba iimvakalelo
Iindaba zokungcatsha iqabane likhokelela ekugxininiseni kumacala amabini. Kodwa ukuba ubani otshintshileyo, ngokukhawuleza ufumanisa izizathu eziyimfuneko, ngoko ukhohlisayo uya kuhlupheka. Kulo rhulumente, kunzima umntu ukuba athole indawo, ekhokelela kwiipazamo nezenzo ezingenakucinganiswa.
Ngokutsho kwengqondo yezobudlelwane ebomini obusetyhini, imilinganiselo imele ihlale, ingqiqo, abantu kufuneka bafunde ukufuna ukudibanisa, ukuthetha nabanye.