Abasetyhini kunye namadoda bayabiza ngokwahlukileyo, ngokwembono yokuqala, kukukhushulwa, ngelixa ekugqibeleni kuthathwa njengokwenziwa kwengqondo, ukujonga, njl njl. Ngokuya kubameli bezesondo ezibuthathaka, konke abakwenzayo kungenxa yokuhlelwa kobudlelwane, kwaye kungekhona ukuhlazisa okanye ukuhlambalaza umthandayo. Ukuze uqonde ngokupheleleyo le ngxaki, kuyimfuneko ukuphulaphula umbono wezo zombini.
Iimbono zabantu
Phantse yonke ilungu lezesondo eziqinileyo, zonke iireveli ziyakhula ngendlela efanayo. Ekuqaleni, yonke into ibonakala njengengqondo yamagama. Uthando , uthando, uzive njengeqhawe, kodwa ngoko ulwalamano luya kwinqanaba elitsha kwaye sele usabelana ngesahlulo sesibini sendawo yokuhlala. Yilapho uqala ukuzonwabisa. Ngesizathu esithile, indoda ethandekayo iphenduka isidalwa esingenasici, esiphila kulo mbomi ayikwazi ukuyenza nayiphi na into. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukwenzela ukuba umntu akenzi, uya kuba netyala into ethile, kwaye kunzima ukuhlala njengalokhu, kwaye akunakunzima. Nasi, umzekelo, yimeko eqhelekileyo: "Ibhinqa lilungisa isidlo sakusihlwa kwaye licela ukuba umntu othandekayo athenge iimifuno, kwaye uhlala ebalahle. Njengomphumo wehlazo, uphinde abuyele kwivenkile kwaye azisa intonga enkulu yeparsley ethembeni lokuva amazwi okudumisa. Kodwa kunoko, intanda ephuma emnyango uyabuza, kwaye ayikwazanga ukuthenga isonka, kuba wayesazi ukuba wayephelile. " Ngelo xesha, wonke umntu ufuna ukuxhaphaza ukuphonsa le mihlaza ebusweni bakhe abathandekayo bayaguquka baze bahambe. Oku kubakho kwaye kukho ukubonwa nokususwa kwengqondo.
Sisiphi isizathu?
Yonke ityala liqhelekileyo ukungaqondi kakuhle. Ngesizathu esithile, abaninzi abafazi bacinga ukuba amadoda enza konke ngokukhawuleza, umzekelo, ukulibala ukuthenga into ethile, vuyisana nomzala wakho ngosuku lwakhe lokuzalwa, ubizele kwiplasela, njl njl. Kubalulekile ukuqonda oko kusengqondweni yomntu wonke, kwaye loo mntu akayikho into ekhethekileyo, ixabiso elininzi lolwazi kunye neengqondo ngamanye amaxesha kunzima kakhulu ukuba ungazikhumbuli igama lakho. Ngoko ke, ukuphepha zonke iintlobo zokuhlambalaza kunye nezihlazo, khawukhumbuze wakho othandekayo kwakhona oko akufunayo ukukwenza, ngoko akukho nto iyakubakho.
Mhlawumbi, kubafazi abaninzi banengxaki yangempela, kuba banokuthi: "Awukwazi ukwenza nantoni na, bonke abantu banjengabantu, kwaye awunanto. Yonke imihla kuwe ndiyenza konke okusemandleni kwaye akunakwenzeka ... ", endaweni yokutshintsha yonke ibinzana eliqhelekileyo:" Thatha inkunkuma ". Ndikholelwe, akukho mntu uya kuqonda isicelo, ukuba uthetha yonke into njengowokuqala, funda indlela yokubonisa iingcamango zakho ngokucacileyo nangokucacileyo.
Ukungabikho okupheleleyo
Indoda enothando isoloko izalisekisa izicelo zowesifazane wayo, ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ngaba zizathu. Kodwa xa iinqwenela zakho ziguqula zonke ihafu zesixa, umzekelo, zenze, cha, musa ukwenza, njl njl. Indoda iya kuthathwa njengeyabona kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo iya kuthi awukwazi into oyifunayo. Ngoko ke, ngaphambi kokuba ucele into ethile, cacisa ngokucacileyo oko ufunayo uze wuchaze ingcamango yakho.
Ukufunda ukuhluka
Ukuba uyaqwalasela zonke ezi nqwenela kwaye uqale ukuziphatha njengowesifazane ozilumko , akukho nto yokuyinquma. Ukwabelana ngesondo ngokuqinileyo, kunjalo, unokukwazi kakhulu, kodwa nje ungayifunde ingcamango, ngoko ukuba ufuna into ethile, ungalindelanga ukuba uya kuqiqa, kodwa usho njalo. Ngaloo ndlela, awuyi kudideka kuye, kwaye akayi kutyhawula ubuchopho bakhe kwaye acinga ukuba yintoni isizathu sokuba "imilomo yakho" ilandelwe. Ibhinqa elinetalente elinjalo lingabalulekanga, indoda iya kuba ilungele ukuhamba nawe ezandleni zayo ize izalise zonke iimfuno kunye nezifiso.