Kungakhathaliseki isizathu, kukho i-gap, ihlala ibuhlungu kwaye ihlasela ngokuzithemba . Yaye nangona amaqabane enza inxaxheba ngokuvumelana kunye kwaye ahlale engumhlobo, oku akubandakanyi ukuhlushwa kwengqondo nokuhlushwa. Indlela yokuyeka ubudlelwane obudala kunye nokuyeka ukukhathazeka, kuya kuxelwa kule nqaku.
Indlela yokuyeka ulwalamano oludlulileyo ngokwezengqondo?
Okokuqala, kufuneka uyeke ukuzitshozela, ukugxeka iimpazamo kunye nokwenza ntoni. Ukuhlakulela isohlwayo kunye nentlungu ngaphakathi kwakho, unokuyandisa ixesha elide. Yaye ukuba ukhangele le meko kwimeko yomntu okhululekileyo kunye nokwanelisayo, unokuqonda ukuba olu lwalamano lwazisa amava athile, bafundisa kakhulu kwaye ngokubanzi, kuhle ukuba bekunjalo, kuba kungekhona wonke umntu onokufumana ulonwabo lokwenene ebomini.
Ukucela indlela yokuyeka ulwalamano oludlulileyo, kubalulekile ukuyeka ukubambelela kubo. Ukuphila kwixesha elidlulileyo, sivala umnyango kwixesha elizayo. Yonke into ekhumbuza umthandayo kufuneka isuswe emehlweni, kungenxa yesi sizathu ukuba umntu akafanele avume ubungane xa umntu ebona ngaphambili okanye obunzima. Kungcono ukuya kwindawo ethile kwithuba elithile, kwaye kwezinye iimeko kuyafaneleka ukuqwalasela ukhetho lokuthuthela kwesinye isixeko okanye kwisithili. Ukucinga malunga nendlela yokuyeka ulwalamano kunye nokuyeka ukukhathazeka, akufanele ubenqande ukuziva. Zonke iimvakalelo ezinomdla, ezifana nentukuthelo, ukudandatheka, ukudandatheka kufuneka zitshathwe ukuze zilahleke, kunye nokunciphisa eli xesha, ukucamngca kunye nezinto ezithandwayo ziza kunceda.
Ukuba nomdla kwindlela yokuyeka ubudlelwane obudala, kubalulekile ukuthatha iingcinga kunye nexesha lakho ngenye into: ukubhalisa kwizifundo zolwimi zangaphandle, uqale ukuya kwimidanso , njl. Kwaye nangona ukukhunjulwa kobudlelwane obudala bengayi ndawo, ekugqibeleni baya kuba yingxenye yabo. Umntu uya kuhlala nabo, kwaye xa axolelaniswa, uxolo luya kufika.