Wonke amabhinqa amaphupha okuba yintanda kunye neyayifunayo, ngokokuba njengomabhayisikobho: ukuthanda uthando, amagama anothando kunye nezipho ezinjalo, kwaye akunjalo kanye ngonyaka ngenxa yokuzalwa kwakhe. Kodwa yintoni enokuyenza, indlela yokuba yedwa, intombi ethandekayo nomfazi oyifunayo kumyeni, okanye nokuba ngamadoda amaninzi, ukuba angene kwizihlwele?
Ubuhle buya kulondoloza ihlabathi?
Amantombazana amaninzi acinga ukuba bayayazi impendulo yalo mbuzo kuphela kufuneka ukuba ibe yinto enhle njengomzekelo, kwaye baya kwamkeleka kakhulu kubafana. Ingqolowa enengqiqo kule miba kukuba, ubuhle bungenomdla kumntu, kodwa kangakanani? Iingxoxo zengxelo zibonisa ukuba amadoda amaninzi ayithandeka ukuba azinqwenela ukulungiswa kwe-silicone, kodwa ngabafazi, nabani na onokuxoxa ngazo ngeendaba zakutshanje, kwaye bamkele ngokukhawuleza ukutshona kwelanga. Ngoko unokwenza ngokwezifiso ngokwakho kwimigangatho yobuhle (awaziwa kodwa ngubani na owenziwe, ngendlela), kodwa umphumo odlala ixesha elide awuyi kunika. Amadoda afuna ukuba ibhinqa ibe yibhokisi enezantsi ephindwe kabini, imfihlelo engazange ibe yinqwelo yokuqagela. Ngoko, xa ixesha elizayo uza kuthenga ezinye iimpahla eziqhakazileyo, ezikugciniwe kwi-wardrobe sele zikhulu, cingisisa ngazo, mhlawumbi ungathenga incwadi ngemali efanayo, kuya kuba luncedo ngakumbi.
Hayi, ewe, ukuzinyamekela nokuzibukela ngokwakho, umfazi ongenalutho akayi kumnceda nabani na, kodwa akufanelekanga ngelixa elibala ngehlabathi elingaphakathi, ekuthatyathwa ngokubonakala. Umxholo kufanele uqhathanise ngaphandle, kakuhle, uzicabange wena, ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuvelisa i-chocolate carrier, silindele ukubona khona i-caramel encinane? Nalapha nantombazana, ithathwa ngokupompa i-silicone kuzo zonke iindawo ezifunekayo kunye nokulibala malunga nenye into, i-wrapper iyamangalisa, ibangele ukuba umnqweno uvele, kwaye ukudideka okupheleleyo kumntu. Ngoku ke asikho ukuthetha ngabo bafana abakhangela ibhinqa njengempawu eqinisekisa ubungqina babo, kodwa iikopi ezinjalo azikho umdla kuni, ngaba kunjalo?
Abafazi abanjengaye abathandi amadoda ...
Yaye ngubani na onitshele ukuba, ndingamcela? Imilinganiselo engafaniyo yobuhle ayikho kwaye ayikwazi ukuba, bonke abantu bahlukileyo kwaye umntu ngamnye unomdla wakhe, kunye nobuhle besifazane, naye. Ngokuqhelekileyo aqhelekanga athandwayo phakathi kwamadoda ngabasetyhini abangenasisiseko, kungekhona kwabo bonke abangafikeli amantombazana avela kwiphepha ngandlela-thile. Ngoko ukuzithemba ukuphuhlisa kuyimfuneko. Unomdla nanini na emini nobusuku, kwiofisi yeofisi nakwi-swimsuit, kwaye ngaphandle kwayo, uyazi ukuba, akunjalo? Kutheni ucinga ukuba umntu akanakukuxabisa? Ukulahla ukwesaba osisiphukuphuku, sigqoke ingubo efanelekileyo kunye nentloko ephakanyisiwe ehamba ngezitrato, ukhangela amehlo kubantu abathandekayo. Ewe, waphawula? Hayi? Kulungile, uye kwisibuko uze uphinde udwebe "ukutshiza" ngamehlo akho. Yaye yintoni le? Yisiphi isiqhaqhaqhaqhaqhaqha, esilumkile sisuka phantsi kwephambili yakhe, apho ukumomotheka, apho kukho intlaba emehlweni akhe, kwaye ekugqibeleni, ukunyelisa? Ngaba ulungele ukutshatyalaliswa okulungileyo? Emva koko lixesha lokuthabatha ilanga lesibini, kungcono, kunene? Ewe, akusiyo yonke into kanye, yonke into idinga ukufundwa, kunye nokwazisa kokwakhe kumtsalane.
Abafazi abanqwenelayo bayazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba bayabhenkco,