Ukutshata kwakhona

Amantombazana ahlala ecinga ukuba ubomi babo bentsapho buza kwenzeka. Nangona ubude bebudlelwane obugqibeleleyo kwiintsapho ezininzi, abo abangabafumananga, banethemba lokuba baya kuba neento ezahlukeneyo, kanye kunye nobomi. Uthando oluhle kwingcwaba ingcamango njengokuba izazi zeengqondo zithi zingabonakali kakuhle, ngoko kuya kwenzeka ukuba akunakwenzeka ukufumana ulonwabo kumtshato wokuqala.

Izibalo zemitshato ephindaphindiweyo kwintsimi yelizwe lethu ibonisa ukuba abangaphezu kwe-30% yezibini abakwazanga ukugcina umtshato wabo wokuqala. Iingxaki zivame ukuvela emva kokuba abatshatileyo belahlekelwe yintliziyo yokuthandana kunye nazo zonke iimpawu ezingamkelekanga zomlingani womlingane, ziqiniswe ngenxa yeengxabano zemihla ngemihla, zize zingenakunzima.

Psychology of remarriage

Ngokwezizwana ezingazange zenzeke emtshatweni wokuqala, ukubhaliselwa komtshato kwakhona kukuvumela ukuxazulula zonke iingxaki kunye nokulandelwa kwamanani amaninzi kwiimeko ezi zinto ziyinyaniso, njengoko imitshato ephindaphindiweyo izinzile.

Iingxaki zeengqondo zokutshata kwakhona

Imitshato ephindaphindiweyo ineentlobo ezininzi, ezijongene nokuvela kweentlobo ezahlukeneyo zeengxaki:

  1. Ubume bokupheliswa kobudlelwane obudlulileyo. Ulwalamano olusenyongweni lwentsapho lunokuba luxabiseke kakhulu kubo bobabini. Ukuprintwa kwexesha elidlulileyo, uhlobo oluthile lolwalamano lwentsapho, ngokuqhelekileyo lubangela ukutshabalaliswa komtshato ngokuphindaphindiweyo.
  2. Ukuba nolwalamano lwentsapho. Ingquzulwano kwintsapho inokuvela ngesiseko sokungazilungeli omnye wabatshatileyo kwiintsapho zentsapho.
  3. Umehluko kwiminyaka phakathi kwabalingani.

Ukwahlukana nokutshata kwakhona

Ukutshatyalaliswa kwendoda kunye nomyeni wangaphambili unokuphumelela ngakumbi kunomyeni oyintloko, kuba ngokuhamba kwesikhathi abantu baba bulumko kwaye babuye babuye bahlaziya iimpawu zabo, bayaziqonda iindleko zamaphutha ezenziweyo ngaphambili kwaye bathathe izifundo ezithile ebomini.

Ukutshata kwakhona kunye nabantwana

Abantwana kwimitshato yangaphambili, musa ukuqhawula umtshato nabazali nokungena kwintsapho yomntu omtsha. Umntwana kufuneka aziva uthando lwabazali bobabini, ngubani na omele enze umlinganiso olinganayo ekukhuliseni kwakhe.

Ekufikeni kwentsha, umntwana ufuna intsapho eqinileyo neqondayo, kuba kule minyaka yobuqhelwaniso kunye neembono kwi-orientation yezobugcisa kunye nobomi bomntu bodwa. Amava angahlekanga omnye wabazali angahlala ehlala engqondweni yomntwana osemtsha umfanekiso womntu ongenamdla, kwaye ukungafuni ukuzuza kuye.