Kwenzekile ukuba umsebenzi wokugcina intsapho yowesifazane, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha kunokuba nzima. Ewe, ekuxabaneni kwintsapho, bobabini abalingani bahlala bebeka ityala, kodwa kukho amaxesha apho kubonakala ngathi umyeni akavumi ukuva amazwi athethwe kuye. Emva koko umbuzo uphawula indlela yokufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo nomyeni ukwenzela ukunciphisa inani lokungaqondani, ngenxa yokuba ezininzi iingxabano zenzeka ngokuchanekileyo kwesi sizathu.
Indlela yokufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo nendoda?
Ngaphambi kokuba ucinge ngokuphendula lo mbuzo, kufuneka uqonde oko kuthetha ukuthatha ulwimi oluqhelekileyo. Kakade, asikhulumi ngomqobo weelwimi, ngenxa yokungakwazi ukuveza iingcamango zomntu kwiqabane. Inyaniso kukuba iintlobo zesintu kunye neentlobo zokucinga zihlukile, ngoko ke, naphi na apho sibona isicelo esifanayo, indoda iyaqonda ukuxhatshazwa. Kuvela ukuba ufumane ulwimi oluqhelekileyo nomyeni wakhe, owayengumfana, owayengumfana, naluphi na umntu, kufuneka uqonde ukuba ubona njani imeko, ukhangele ngenyameko imeko enomdla ngayo amehlo akhe. Makhe sibuke umzekelo wezinto ezimbalwa zezona zihlandlo eziqhelekileyo zeembono ezahlukeneyo zezinto.
- Ndiyakwenza yonke into ngokwam . Basetyhini banamhlanje bafuna ukuzimela ngokuzimeleyo, kwaye benza kakuhle, kodwa kubomi bentsapho, ukugqithiseleka komgangatho ongeke wamukeleke. Indoda inokuqonda into enjalo njengomzamo wokumkhawulelana naye, nangona ibhinqa lifuna nje ukwenza ubomi bakhe bube lula. Kule meko, umyeni uzive engadingekile, engayiqondi intsingiselo yokuhlala, xa ehlala ezama ukuzidela.
- Indoda yintloko yentsapho . Le yimbi enye, apho abafazi bahlala bewa khona. Enyanisweni, kwimibandela eninzi ngababameli besondo esomeleleyo esenza isigqibo sokugqibela, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka kube njalo. Umfazi unokucinga ukuba ukunika indoda yakhe i-blanche card ekuxazululeni yonke imiba, inika ithemba kuye, kwaye uyayibona njengomnqweno wokumenza ube ngumthwalo wedwa kubomi bentsapho.
- Thetha kwimeko . Iingxowa zivame ukuphakama kuba ibhinqa ivakalelwa ukungabikho kokuqwalasela amagama akhe. Ngokomgaqo, oku kunjalo, kunzima kakhulu ukuba amadoda alandele imizila emininzi yencoko, esoloko esenza isono. Ngoko ke, ukuba ufuna ukusombulula ingxaki, thetha ngokufanelekileyo ngokuyeka ukukhankanya iinkcukacha ezincinane njengezicathulo zomhlobo omtsha kunye nekati elimnyama elimnyama eliwela umendo wakho.
- Ngaphandle kwamacebo . Ingqondo yomntu iqulethe iinkcukacha ezingenayo ayikho njengowesifazane, ngenxa yoko, ukufumana indoda enolwimi oluqhelekileyo kunzima kakhulu. Umfazi angacela umyeni wakhe ngeeyure eziliqela
yenza imisebenzi yendlu kwaye uyamangalisa ukungahambi kwakhe xa engacacanga ukuba kutheni kwenziwe ngokukhawuleza. Ngoko ukuba ufuna into ethile kumntu, cacisa ngokucacileyo nangokucacileyo ukuba kwaye nini na ukuyenza. Kodwa ibinzana elithi "unako ..." kwaye "Ndingathanda ..." kungcono kushiywe kwiimeko ezingabalulekanga.
Njengoko sibona, ngokuqhelekileyo, isizathu sokungaqondi kakuhle ngokuchanekileyo ngokucacileyo phakathi kokucinga kwabantu besilisa nabesifazane. Ngoko ke, xa usebenzisana nendoda, kufuneka uqwalasele le nto. Kwaye endaweni yokukhathazeka ngokungabikho kwengqalelo kwindoda yakhe, mxelele ngokuthe ngqo ngalo, ngaphandle kweengcebiso.