Incwadi ethandwayo kaWilliam Atkinson I-Power of Thought, okanye iMagnetism of Personality, inikezela wonke umntu ukuba afunde izifundo ezili-15 ezivumela ukuchaphazela abanye abantu. Akumangalisi ukuba le ncwadi iphumelele ngokukhawuleza: phantse wonke umntu amaphupha okuba nesipho sokukholisa nokukwazi ukufuna kwabanye abantu. Nangona kunjalo, amandla amakhulu okucinga angasetyenziswanga kuphela ngemigaqo yeAtkinson.
Umthambo womntu wemvelo
Abanye abantu ngokwemvelo banalo umbane womntu -ubuchule obukhethekileyo ngaphandle komgudu wokutsala ingqalelo kwabanye, ukuba babonakale kubo, umntu onobungqina, ongeyimfihlakalo, onobuqili, ukuba yimfihlo yokuba ngubani ofuna ukuwuchaphazela. Ubuntu bendalo, njengomthetho, akwazi ukuba la magunya avela ngaphaya kweengqondo zabantu, kodwa ngokukhawuleza ufunda ukuyisebenzisa ngenzuzo.
Qaphela ukuba umntu onjalo unokuba lula: ukhangela, ukhuthaza ukuzithemba, uvakalelwa ngamandla angaphakathi. Awusoze wambona umntu onjalo engaqiniseki ngamazwi akhe - ukuzithemba kwakhe kubonakalisa emehlweni, iingxoxo, imiqondiso. Njengomthetho, abantu baya kubantu abakhulu, bahlonishwa, balaphula umbono wabo.
Indlela yokusebenzisa amandla okucinga?
Nangona ungeyena phakathi kweenhlanhla enikwe amandla okuzalwa, unokukwazi ukufezekisa okufunayo. Amandla okucinga aya kunceda ekuthandweni, emakhondweni, ekukhuleni komntu kunye naliphi na indawo yentsimi. Kubalulekile ukufunda indlela yokuyisebenzisa ngokuchanekileyo.
Umzekelo, ufuna ukufumana ukuthandwa, ufuna abantu bafikelele kuwe, cela icebiso lakho. Kule meko, kufuneka usebenze kwiinkolelo zakho nokuziphatha, kwaye amandla okucinga anokukunceda ukuba ufezekise oko ufuna.
Cinga ukuba unakho na iinkolelo ezimbi. Umzekelo: "Andiyithandi abantu", "akukho mntu uyandithandayo", "andibukeli 100". Naluphi na inkolelo eye yazinza entloko yakho, ingqondo iyibona njengeqela. Ngenxa yoko, ubeka ingqalelo kuphela kwezo ziganeko ezixhasa ingcinga. Ukulungisa kwakhona ubuntu bakho, kufuneka utshintshe iinkolelo zakho zibe zilungileyo.
Ngokomzekelo, esikhundleni sokuba "andithandi mntu" kufuneka ufundise ukuba ucinge "Ndiyathanda abantu, bafikelela kum". Bhengeza le ngcamango kangangeentsuku ngosuku, kwaye kuya kubonakala ngengqondo njengeqela. Ngenxa yoko, i-angle yembono iya kutshintsha, kwaye wena, ngokuchaseneyo, uya kugxininisa kwiimeko apho abantu bathathwe kuwe, ukudibanisa le nkolelo nokufumana isiqinisekiso.
Ngokufanayo, umntu unokusebenza kunye nenkolelo kuyo nayiphi na intsimi. Ungalindelanga iziphumo ezikhawulezayo: kufuneka ubeke iingcamango ezingendawo kunye nezinto ezintle ezinsukwini ezili-15 ukuya kwe-20, ngaphambi kokuba umgwebo omtsha ujwayele ukuba uyenze entloko yakho kwaye uqale ukwenza.