Amagama eengoma zabantwana abadumileyo "umhlobo osweleyo akayikuyeka" ngumzekelo ocacileyo wendlela umntu aqonda ngayo ubudlelwane obuhle. Yintoni ubuhlobo nokuba ingaba kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, apho abantu banxibelelana ngokunxibelelwano lwezentlalo, kwaye kunqabile ukuba kwenzeke ngobomi bokwenene.
Ngaba kukho ubuhlobo?
Ingcamango yobuhlobo yayixutyushwa ngeenkulungwane ezininzi ngabameli beengcongolo ezahlukeneyo zefilosofi, kodwa abaphandi abakhulu babhali, ababhali beengcali kunye neengqondo. Ubungqina bobuhlobo abuphelelanga kwisakhelo esithile, kodwa ngokubhekiselele kubantu abaninzi, ubudlelwane buhlobo olusondeleyo noluthembayo phakathi kwabantu, ngokusekelwe ekuthandweni ngokubambisana, indlela yokuphila kunye nokuqonda okunengqondo komnye nomnye.
Psychology of Friendship
Ingxaki yobuninzi ikhona, i-sociologists ikholelwa. Ngethuba elikhawulezayo lobuchwepheshe bekhompyutheni, abantu banqwenela ukuthetha ngeendlela eziphathekayo, ngelixa kudla ukuba akukho nxaxheba kwintlanganiso. Abantu balahlekelwa lukhulu: akukho makhelwane onobuhle kumagxa, ukudibanisa okubonakalayo, kunye nokunyaniseka kungabikho. Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba ukubaluleka kobudlelwane kuseziintlanganisweni, ukunxibelelana ngokuthe ngqo, kunye nokungabikho koqhagamshelwano olupheleleyo kunokubangela ukudakumba . Iingqondo zobungane zigqitywa kwizinto ezintle:
- uziva "andiye ndodwa!" ngokuchasene nokuzihlalisa kunye nokodwa;
- kuphela ebusweni bezinye izinto ezibalulekileyo, umntu uzibonakalisa njengomntu kwaye ufunda ukuba ngumhlobo.
Iintlobo zobungane
Kutheni abantu behlobo? Ukukhankanywa kokuqala kokubaluleka kobuhlobo kufumaneka nakwiindawo zamandulo. Iindlozi zizukisa ixabiso legxalaba, elizifumana kwisigxina esinzima kunye nomnqweno wokwenza iimvakalelo ezinobomi kulo lonke ubomi. Kwintlalo, kuqhelekile ukwabelana ngobuhlobo ngokwexesha lobudala kunye nesini. Iintlobo zobungane:
- Umntwana - umntwana ufunda ihlabathi kwaye uzama ukwakha ubudlelwane nabanye, ukufunda kunye into entsha inomdla. Iintlanganiso zezingane ngeemidlalo ezifanayo.
- Ulutsha - imfuno ephakamileyo yokuzithetha, iimvakalelo zakho. Ubuhlobo kule minyaka bunzima. Iimpawu zomnye zixhaswa kwaye ziphakanyisiwe - ngendlela efanelekileyo inceda ukusinda kwiimeko ezinzima ebomini: ukungaqondakali kwabazali, iimvakalelo zokungabi phantsi. Ubuhlobo bolutsha lukhula lube luthando.
- Abadala - ngamanye amaxesha lobu buhlobo obunjengobuntwaneni kunye nokuqiniswa kwiminyaka. Abahlobo abanjalo bayazi zonke iintsimbi kunye nokuphuma komnye omnye - ubuhlobo obunjalo buyinto engavamile kakhulu, ngoko ke ibaluleke gqitha. Kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zobuhlobo bomntu omdala: imeko, ubuhlobo, ishishini.
- Ubuhlobo besilisa - iimbali zakhiwa ngaye, ezininzi iingoma ziyavunywa kunye neencwadi ezibhalwe. Ubani ubuhlobo besilisa, obuboniswa kakuhle kwifilimu yaseSoviet "AbakwaMatketeers abathathu": ukuxhasana, ukwamukelwa komntu ngokupheleleyo kunye nazo zonke iziphoso zakhe, ukuzithemba nokubanceda nakwiimeko apho umhlobo wayenenkathazo ngaye. Ngokuqhelekileyo kubasetyhini, ubuhlobo besilisa bubangela ukungaqondi kunye nomona.
- Ubuhlobo bamabhinqa - amadoda akholelwa ukuba ngokwemvelo akakho. Uhlobo lwabafazi lubonakala njani kumzekelo wefilimu ethi "Ubulili kunye neSixeko".
Kubalulekile ukuba ubulili obuhle kubungani:
- uvelwano novelwano;
- ukuthembeka;
- nya niseka;
- olunye uluvo ngolu hlobo;
- ubudlelwane obuyimfihlo;
- ithuba lokufumana inkxaso efunekayo nanini na imini okanye ebusuku.
Yintoni ubuhlobo bokwenene?
Kuthetha ukuthini ukuba ngabahlobo - kungekhona nje ukuhlangana kunye nokusela iikhofi ndawonye kunye ngamaxesha, kodwa ngokwenene? Abantu abangenabo abahlobo bavakalelwa kukuba banelisekile kwaye banqwenela. Ubuhlobo bokwenene buhlala kwindawo yokubandakanyeka kunye nomdla wokwenene kumntu othandekayo, xa abahlobo babelana ngokudabuka novuyo. Imiphefumlo ehambelanayo - enye yeengcamango zokuphindukuzalwa kwakhona ichaza ubungqina bobuhlobo ngokuzibandakanya ngokubambisene nobomi obudlulileyo. Imiphefumlo izama ukufumana kunye kwaye kamva, xa idibana, kukho ukuvakalelwa kwimbono yokuba bayayazi ixesha elide, xa badibana okokuqala.
Uhlobo lunikezela umntu?
Ubungane ebomini bomntu ngenye yexabiso eliphezulu elihamba emva kwentsapho. Umhlobo isibuko apho ubona ukucinga kwakho. Ziziphi izixabiso ubungani obongezeleleko kulwalamano:
- ukuzalisana ngokubambisana kweempawu ezintle zomnye;
- uvakalelo lwenkxaso;
- lixesha elihle;
- uncedo kunye kunye nokufumana ngexesha elinzima;
- ufundisa ukungabi nabugovu nokuzinikela;
- iimvakalelo ezintle .
Yintoni ebalulekileyo ebusini?
Kubuhlobo obuninzi kuthiwa buhlobo, kodwa njani ukukhetha ukuba yeyiphi ipharamitha ebaluleke kakhulu kulwalamano kwaye ngubani onomhlobo wangempela? Umntu ngamnye unombono wakhe ngobuncwane bobuhlobo bomhlobo: kumntu kukunyaniseka kunye nethuba lokuthemba zonke iimfihlelo, eziqhelekileyo kubasetyhini, ngamadoda - ezi zinto zihlangene: ukuloba, ukuhamba, ukuzingela. Inkqubo eqhelekileyo yobungqina yizinto ezinaphakade ezingunaphakade: ukuhlonipha, ububele kunye nomdla onyanisekileyo omnye komnye.
Indlela yokufunda ukuba ngabahlobo?
Kwabanye abantu, ingxaki yenkxalabo yokwakha ubudlelwane nabantu yinyani kwaye, ngenxa yoko, i-lonicity is formed. Abantu abaninzi bafuna ukuba nabahlobo abasondeleyo, kodwa ngenxa yezizathu ezininzi abanako ukugcina oonxibelelwano olusemthethweni. Indlela yokuba ngabahlobo kwaye kukho imigaqo ethile yobungane? Iingcali zengqondo zentlalo zinika inani leengcebiso ezikunceda ukuqhagamshelana nomntu oyithandayo kwaye uhlakulele ubudlelwane obunokuba ngumhlobo, oku kufuneka:
- ukunqoba iintloni nokuziqhelanisa;
- uthathe inyathelo lokuzibandakanya ezandleni zabo;
- ukuba ngumntu ovulekile;
- phuhlisa uvelwano ;
- bafunde ukuphulaphula omnye;
- inkxaso kwiimeko ezinzima;
- siqonde ukuba uphuhliso lwentsebenziswano lufuna ixesha elide, umgudu nomsebenzi.
Yintoni eyonakalisa ubuhlobo?
Uvavanyo lobuhlobo lwenzeka ngexesha. Abantu ndawonye bahamba kwiinqanaba ezithile zobomi kunye neemvavanyo ezahlukahlukeneyo, kungekhona bonke basinda. Izizathu zokuba kutheni izibophelelo ezinobungqinqa ezinamandla kunokuba zidibane:
- Uthando olusondeleyo lwabahlobo ngomntu omnye.
- Omnye wabahlobo uyasisityebi ngokukhawuleza, okwesibini kunzima ukwamukela isimo esithile sentlalo.
- Ukukhohliswa nokunyaniseka. Izizathu ziyakwazi ukuhluka - kodwa kwenzeke (umhlobo / intombi enhle kakhulu ithatha umfazi / umyeni).
Iincwadi malunga nobuhlobo
Ubungakanani bobuhlobo budunyiswa ngababongi nabalobi. Indlela yokuba ngumhlobo nabantu kwaye ube ngumhlobo wangempela-ezi zifundo ezibalulekileyo zinokufundwa kwiincwadi zeencwadi zakudala nezangoku:
- "AbakwaMusketeers abathathu." A. Dumas . - Incwadi ngokuphathelele uthando, ukuzinikela kwimbeko kunye nemigaqo. Lo msebenzi ngowona uphezulu kwihlabathi lonke.
- "Iintliziyo Zintathu". D. London . - Inombolo malunga nokuzidela ngenxa yomhlobo nokuba akukho butyebi obuya kutshintsha uthando kunye nobuhlobo.
- "Abakwa-Comrades abathathu," u-Erich Maria Remarque . - Incwadi ngokuphathelele ngokwenene, iimvakalelo ezithembekileyo, ezenziwe ngumbhali.
- "UJane Eyre. S. Bronte . " - Ukungabi nantoni kunye nobuhlobo phakathi kwabalingani abakhulu, bakhula baba yintando.
- "Ikati yesitalato egama linguBob . " J. Bowen. - Ubuhlobo, phakathi kwindoda kunye nesilwanyana, kunceda ukunqoba ukuxinezeleka kukaJames kunye nokulutha.