Kungakhathaliseki ukuba unina umthanda kangakanani umntwana wakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ufuna ukuba naye rhoqo kwaye abe ngumhlobo wakhe omhle, entliziyweni yakhe uyaqonda ukuba uthando lwabazali alukho konke, umntwana ufuna abahlobo bakhe. Ubuhlobo kubantwana akuyona nto kodwa ngowona kuqala lolwalamano olusondeleyo ngokomoya. Ngethuba ekwakheni ubudlelwane obunobungane, inkunzi ifunda ukuthetha nabanye abantu ngokulingana, ukuhlangabezana nokuzingca, ukubonisa inhlonipho ngoluvo lwabanye abantu, ukuza kunceda, ukuxolela nokucela ukuxolelwa, ukwabelana kunye nokunyamekela. Iingcali zengqondo ziqaphele ukuba ubuhlobo bomntwana kunye nabahlobo bakhe bukhula, ukukhula kwengqondo, ngokomzimba, ngokwengqondo nangokomoya kuxhomekeke kuninzi. Ukuba umntwana akakwazi ukufumana abahlobo, ngoko-ke ulwalamano lwabantu luhlala lufikeleleke kuye, ihlabathi elikhulu lihlala, imfihlakalo ezele izifihla-mfihlelo, imizobo, imidlalo, imfesane kunye neengxabano, ezihlala zihlala "ngonaphakade."
Imithetho yobungani kubantwana ilula - ebusheni, abantwana bakhetha abahlobo ngo-intuitively, ngokwemiqathango ethi "like-like". Ezinye iintsana zivulekile ukuhlangabezana nabantu abatsha kunye nolwazi olonwabileyo kunaliphi iqela ukuba lize libe lenu. Ngokukhawuleza bafumana abahlobo-abahlobo. Kuthekani ukuba umntwana ngokunyanisekileyo akanamahloni kwaye akakwazi ukufumana abahlobo? Kuthekani ukuba akakwazi nje ukuba ngabahlobo? Ngaphandle koloncedo lwabazali nenkxaso kulo mzekelo, akakwazi ukwenza.
Indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba abe ngumhlobo?
- Nawuphi na ubuhlobo buqala ngokuthandana. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana akafuni ukuba ngabahlobo, kuba akazi nje ukuba uyazi njani. Fundisa umntwana wakho lo bugcisa, edlala neentlobo zakhe ezithandayo zokudlala ngokuphathelele kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo. Cacisa ukuba kakhulu kuxhomekeke kwintetho yesimo kunye nesibonakaliso sobuso, ngoko xa udibana nawe awukwazi ukuba yi-beech kunye ne-frown. Kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo akufanelekile ukuwela ekuphelelwe lithemba, ukuba ngokuphendula kwisibonelelo sokungazi ngokuchasa, kufuneka nje uzame kwakhona emva koko.
- Bonisa umntwana ukuzaliseka kunye nenkohlakalo yobudlelwano bobuhlobo ngomzekelo-xelela malunga nabantwana bakho abantwana, malunga neyiphi imidlalo oyidlalayo, indlela owachitha ixesha kunye, yiziphi iimfihlo eziqhelekileyo onayo, indlela owaphikisana ngayo kunye nokuxolelana. Thetha naye malunga nobuhlobo obunjani, oko kubaluleke kubantwana nakubantu abadala.
- Mhlawumbi isizathu sokuba akukho mntu ungumhlobo nomntwana ofihliweyo enoba unomona kakhulu ngamathoyizi akhe kwaye akabi nabani na. Xoxa ngalo ngane, mchazela ukuba akuyimfuneko ukuthatha amathoyizi athandwayo kakhulu, kodwa ezo kufuneka uzinike ukudlala abanye abantwana. Mema umntwana ukuba aphathe ezinye iisana ngeesekese, iipulo okanye ii-cookies.
- Hlanganisa abantwana basekuhlaleni uhlobo oluthile lomsebenzi oqhelekileyo - ukudlala ibhola, ukuvula i-kite, ukuya kwibala lezemidlalo, i-movie okanye i-zoo. Abantwana baya kufumana iimvakalelo ezimnandi kwaye baya kuba nezihloko zeengxoxo ezidibeneyo.
- Musa ukuthi "hayi" ukuba inkunzi ifuna ukumema omnye wabahlobo bakhe ukutyelela. Makube phakathi kweetayiti zezinto eziza kubakho ukuba ziyamnandi kwaye zithandeka ukudlala nabahlobo.
Musa ukuvila ukujoyina imidlalo yezingane, kodwa ungathathi indawo ehamba phambili. - Ngexesha elide, cela umntwana ukuba izinto zinjani nabahlobo bakhe. Kwintetho, badla ngokudumisa abantwana abantwana bakho abakhethileyo njengabahlobo, mvumele abe neva inkxaso yakho kwaye avunywe.
- Shiya ilungelo lokukhetha abahlobo kumntwana ngokwakhe. Musa ukubeka abaviwa abafanelekileyo ngakumbi kwimbono yakho, ngale nto uvusa umnqweno womntwana ukuba enze ngokukhawuleza.
Fundisa umntwana wakho ukuba abe ngabahlobo, kuba abanye abahlobo bamabantwana baba ngabahlobo bokwenene ebomini bethu nakwixesha elizayo.