Ukukhathala kokuphulaphula izimvo malunga nokuba ungendawo kangakanani? Emva koko kukho iindlela ezimbini zokuphuma - ukucoca iindlebe zakho okanye ukucinga malunga nokuba unokutshintsha uhlamvu lwakho nendlela yokwenza.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukutshintsha umlingiswa?
Ukuthetha ukuba unokutshintsha uhlamvu lwakho, kufuneka uqale uchaze eli thuba. Ukususela kwisiGrike, igama elithi "umlingiswa" liguqulelwe njengeprint. Ngokuqinisekileyo, le ngcamango ifaka impawu zobuntu ezibonakalisa ngokwabo kwimikhwa yomntu, izenzo zakhe kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo kunye nesimo sengqondo somntu kwihlabathi elikujikelezile. Ngaphezu koko, umlingiswa wenziwa rhoqo, impembelelo kuwo inikwe iimeko ezahlukeneyo-ubudala, imfundo, umsebenzi, indawo yokuhlala, njl njl. Yingakho ngamanye amaxesha singaboni abahlobo besikolo abawela kwenye indawo - umntu utshintshile, indlela yakhe yokuziphatha kunye nendlela yokunxibelelana iye yahluke. Kodwa ukuba sithonyelwa yendalo, ngaba sinokutshintsha thina, sifuna nje? Iingcali zengqondo zithi ziyakwazi ukuzaliseka, kodwa kuphela ukuba umntu unqwenela ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba utshintsho olunjalo. Ngaphandle koko, kungakhathaliseki ukuba uzama nzima kangakanani, lo mdlali akayi kuphucula.
Ungatshintsha njani umgca wakho?
Ekubeni umlingiswa womntu ubunjwa bonke ubomi bakhe, kunene ngokwenene ukutshintsha umsebenzi wakhe, nangona kungenjalo kulula njengoko kubonakala ngathi kuqala. Kuya kuthatha uxanduva olukhulu kunye nokunyamezela ukubuyisela ngokukhawuleza ukunyamezela ngomonde. Ngako oko, into yokuqala yokuyenza ithi "Ndifuna ukutshintsha isimilo sam!" Kwaye uqonde isizathu sokuba unqume ukutshintsha. Yinto enye ukuba ucebise ukuba utshintshe umlingane ngokukhawuleza, ukuchaza ukuba intombazana enjalo ukungavumelani yodwa iza kuzisa ingxaki. Kodwa ngexesha elifanayo wena ngokwakho awunayo iingxaki kwaye uhlala kwi-clover. Yaye yahluke ngokupheleleyo, ukuba uyayiqonda ukuba kuzo zonke iingxaki eziwela kuwe ngoku kutshanje, uhlamvu lwakho olubi lubeka ityala. Kwimeko yokuqala, umntu onokuxabisekileyo kufuneka akhuselwe, kwaye imeko yesibini idinga utshintsho kwisimo sokuziphatha kunye nemikhwa.
Ewe, akunakwenzeka ukutshintsha ngokukhawuleza, kuya kuthatha ixesha lokuba usebenze ngokwakho. Kwaye ukuphucula ngokwakho kwakulula, kufuneka uzimisele wena ngaphambili komsebenzi. Ukwenza oku, bhala phantsi kwiphepha zonke iimpawu zomdlalo wakho ongathanda ukutshintsha. Emva koko ukhethe uhlobo olubi kakhulu lomlingiswa wakho, ngaphezu kohlengahlengiso oza kuqala ukusebenza ngalo. Ngoku sifuna ukucacisa ukuba lo mgca ubonakala njani, iingxaki ezivela ngenxa yezenzo ezimbi.
Ungatshintsha njani iimpawu zakho zobuntu? Ehlabathini kukho ukungafani nayo yonke into: okuhle-okubi, phezulu-phezulu, ngasentla-nantsi, njl njl. Ngoko ngohlobo lwethu, kuyo yonke into embi ongayifumana. Ngoko kufuneka uzame ukubuyisela emacaleni akho amacandelo ngezinto ezintle. Ngoko konke kwiphepha elifanayo, bhala indlela oya kuphendula ngayo ngoku okanye kwimeko. Ngokomzekelo, ucinga ingxaki yakho eyintloko yokuba nomsindo ogqithiseleyo. Chaza ityala lokugqibela, xa lo mlingiso ucebile. Kwaye kwakufuneka njani ukulungisa imeko. Emva kokuba umbhalo obhaliweyo ulahlekile entloko, unokwazi ukuthetha ngokuvakalayo izihloko, into ephambili ayinikezi
Kananjalo senze ebomini, funda ukujonga imeko kwaye uzibambe ngexesha ngexesha lokubonakalisa izinto ezingadingekile zomlingisi. Musa ukwesaba, ukuba akukho nto eyenzekayo kanye, akukho nto iyingozi, into ephambili akuyi kubuyela phantsi kwaye uqhubeke usebenza kuwe. Xa enye impawu engalunganga iyanqotshwa, qhubela phambili. Into ephambili ayikulinda ixesha elihle, ukuthembisa ukuqala yonke into ngoMvulo okanye emva kweeholide, kodwa uqale usebenze ngokukhawuleza. Ndizixhomekeke kuni iingcamango ezinjengokuthi "Ndibuthathaka kakhulu, andinakwenza nantoni na," kuba akunjalo, wonke umntu unokutshintsha, ufuna nje.