Sisebenzise ukuba abantu bahlala befihla iimvakalelo zabo, becinga ukubonakalisa kwabo njengobuthathaka. Kodwa le mpawu iphakamisa ukungathandabuzeki, ngaba abantu bayaxhalaba? Mhlawumbi abayidingi kwaye ayifumanekanga kumava anjalo, kwaye size sibuze kubo njengaleyo?
Indlela yokwenza umntu alahleke?
Okokuqala, kufuneka uqonde xa siqala ukukhathazeka. Kucacile ukuba, oku kwenzeka xa ulahlekelwa ithuba lokufumana into ebiza. Wonke umntu ulahlekelwa ngabazali babo, abantwana abangakhathali, isilwanyana esithandayo, njl njl. Loo mvakalelo unjalo kuwo wonke umntu, ngoko umbuzo ukuba ngaba abantu bayaphuka okanye akunjalo. Ukuba uyintanda kumntu okhethiweyo, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kulinda iintlanganiso kunye nawe, alindele ngamnye. Nangona ukuqonda indlela yokwenza umntu alahleke, akulimazi. Ngokukhawuleza kuya kuba nesidingo sokunceda wakho umthandayo ukuba abe nelivakalelo?
- Ngokuqhelekileyo, amantombazana azama kanzima ukubonakalisa uthando lwabo ngokoqobo ukuba angavumi ukuba indoda ibubule. Zama elinye iqhinga, uyeke ukumbiza ngeyure nganye, uneminye imisebenzi. Sebenzisa ixesha lokusebenza kunye nezinto ezithandwayo, nangona ngoku ubiza kwaye uzibuza ukuba wenza ntoni.
- Ukuba awuhlali ndawonye, ngoko uhambo olulandelayo oluya kumntu ukhohlwe into evela kuye eyakunikhumbuza. Ewe, ukuba ucinga indlela yokwenza umntu otshatileyo akhathazeke, le ngcebiso ayiyi kusebenza. Ukuba umfazi ufumanisa into eseleyo, umthandi uya kukukhumbula, kodwa kungekhona into yokuba lilizwi elihle.
- Ufuna umntu alahleke? Sebenzisa kunye naye ixesha elide, eligcwele umdla kunye neziganeko ezikhunjulwayo. Emva koko imemori nganye inxulumene nawe ngokungabandakanyeki.
- Ukuba ucinga indlela yokwenza indoda esatshatileyo ishushu, ngoko kuya kufuneka udibanise izakhono zokuhlalutya. Cinga ngento engayifumananga ngayo: isondo, ingqwalasela eyisiseko, izitya ezizithandayo, udumo. Zama ukumnika oko akufunayo, kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo uya kukukhumbuza kwaye akuphosakele kwisimo sengqondo ekhethekileyo angenakukufumana ekhaya.