Xa ibhinqa lijikelezwe ngqalelo kwisini esahlukileyo, kunokubonakala kuwumsebenzi onzima ukufumanisa iinjongo zomntu. Amehlo ayisibuko somphefumlo womntu, kwaye kwesi sibuko unokufumana ukubonakalisa isimo sengqondo soqobo. Ukubukeka komntu othandana nomfazi akunakudideka nantoni na.
Ukubukeka komntu othandana nomfazi - uyintoni na?
Wonke umfazi ufuna ukuthandwa nokudibanisa ubomi bakhe nomntu onokwethenjelwa. Iingcali zengqondo zithi nawuphi na umfazi unako ukuqonda ukuba ngubani ummeli wesondo oqinileyo. Ukuze ungakhange uchithe ixesha lakho ngeze kwaye ungadideki ekugqibeleni, ngelixa uxoxisana nekwenkwenkwe yakho, kufuneka ubeke ingqalelo kwihambo yakhe. Ukuba umntu ubona kuwe kuphela into yesini, emva kwe-80% yexesha lokunxibelelana, uya kujonga ukubonakala kwakho, kwaye amehlo aya kujonga ukudlula. Indoda edlala ngothando ayigxile ngokupheleleyo kwiqabane. Ngokuqhelekileyo ngethuba le ncoko, uphazamiseka yimpembelelo yangaphandle: iimoto ezidlulayo, abanye abantu njalonjalo.
Indoda enothando iziphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Iimpawu zenkwenkwe ngothando zinganqunywa ngokujonga. Izaliswe ngokufudumala nokunyamekela. Nangona ukuthanda ngamehlo kunomdla kwaye kunomdla, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo kubanda.
Indlela yokujonga ngokujonga umntu ukuba uyamthanda?
Uninzi lwabasetyhini bathanda amagama amahle kunye nokuncoma kwidilesi yabo, kodwa musa ukufumana nayiphi na izigqibo kule ndawo. Uninzi oluninzi lunokumisela ukuba umntu uvakalelwa njani ngokwenene.
Ngoko, makhe sijonge kwiimpawu zendlela ekhangelwe yindoda:
- Ummeli wesilisa okhunjulwayo ukhangeleka amehlo. Ujolise ngokupheleleyo kumlingani kwaye akayi kuphazamiseka yihlabathi langaphandle.
- Iingcali zengqondo zithi ukuba uqhagamshelwano lwamehlo lu malunga ne-85% yexesha elipheleleyo lokuthetha, ngoko ke lo mntu akachasani.
- Indoda ethandwayo igxininiswe ekunxibelelaneni. Uphulaphula ngenyameko, ucela ukucacisa imibuzo. Amehlo anomdla ngokwenene kwincoko, nangona kunjalo, ngokwenene, malunga nantoni na.
- Xa umntu efumana ukuphazamiseka kwengqondo, abafundi bakhe bathuthukela ngokungenakuzibandakanya. Ukuba uyaphawula oku kusuka kwi-interlocutor yakho, oko kubonisa ukuba iimvakalelo zakhe kunye neenjongo zakhe zinzulu ngokwaneleyo.
- Ukongeza, kwindoda enothando, unokuqaphela ukuba ukhanyisa emehlweni akho, kunye nokukrakra okukhulu.