Ukuvuma ukuthanda akulula, kodwa kunzima ukufumana amagama athetha ukuyeka ukuthanda. Emva koko, ngokuqhelekileyo, isigqibo sendima sifike engqondweni yeso sibini, kwaye ke umnqweno wokuqalisa ubomi obutsha, ukukhumbula okulungileyo, inceba kunye nokwesaba-konke oku kudibaniswe kukudideka okukhulu, ukuxutywa kwamatye entliziyweni. Kwaye ke abantu abaninzi banquma ukubhala ileta, kuba ngoncedo lwayo unokuphepha iimvakalelo ezingadingekile kwaye uzikhusele kumagama angaphawulekanga. Awukwazi ukubuyisela oku, kodwa unokuyilungisa. Ngokuphathelele ukubhala incwadi kumntu othandekayo malunga nokwahlukana, okanye ukuba ubhale ntoni emva (ukuba incoko iphelela ngamanqaku amathathu okanye ukuhlambalaza), siya kuthetha namhlanje.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ndifuna ukubhala incwadi enhle yokubhaliweyo, kodwa khumbula ukuba ufuna ukuxelela umfana malunga nokuhlukana, kwaye umntu onothando uyakwazi ukubona ukukhanya kwithemba kunoma yiliphi igama elifudumeleyo. Ngoko okokuqala kufuneka umvumele aqonde isizathu sesigqibo sakho. Ngoko, masibhale into efana nomyalelo wokubhalwa kweleta yokuhlaziya:
- Okokuqala, uphonsa zonke iimvakalelo. Vela ukubonisa iphepha, ukuthululela kuye nentlungu, kunye nentukuthelo, kunye noyiko. Musa ukubamba - kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele iimvakalelo zakho ukuze ubuyisele umyalelo kwiingcamango zakho nakwiingxabano zemizwa.
- Yeka le leta yokuqala elele ngasemva. Ukuba utshintsho olutsha luya kukhawuleza, unokongeza (kule meko, ngokuqinisekileyo, kulula ngakumbi ukudala umbhalo wekhompyutheni). Buyela kuye xa uxolo kwaye uzihlalutye.
- Emva kwexesha elithile, hlalani phantsi ukubhala incwadi endiyithandayo - ixesha lokumxelela malunga nokuhlukana. Beka ingqungquthela yangaphambili phambi kwakho, kwaye ucinge malunga noko wabhala kwasekuqaleni ufuna ukuxelelwa kwangaphambili.
- Cinga: nokuba loo leta ifuna iimangalo. Ekugqibeleni, ukuba isizathu sokuphuka sisimo sakhe sengqondo esingalunganga, ngoko unokuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo oku, kodwa ungamangaleli umntu kakhulu-akakwazi ukuphendula okanye ukuchasa oku kuhlaselwa. Kukho nawuphi na, phelisa ngegama malunga nokuxolelwa.
- Khangela ukuba ngaba isizathu sokuhlukana sichazwe ngokucacileyo. Kufuneka kucaciswe kwaye kuluhlu, ukuba, ngokwenene, ufuna ukwahlukana, kwaye ungazami ukuxazulula iingxaki eziqokelelweyo.
- Ndiyabulela loo mfana kuzo zonke iimeko ezilungileyo eziphakathi kwakho. Ngokukodwa xa ubhala incwadi yomntu emva kokuhlukana. Cela ukuxolelwa kwaye unqwenele uvuyo.
- Ukushiya iteksi yesibini kunye neyokuqala. Buyela kuye ngosuku okanye ezimbini. Ngaba iimvakalelo zakho ziyinyaniso? Ngaba uyamxolela kwaye unqwenela ulonwabo kumntu wangaphambili? Ukuba akunjalo, ngoko awuziqondi kakuhle. Mhlawumbi uza kwenza oku kamva, ngoko uzame "ukulungelelanisa" iimvakalelo zakho kwileta, kwaye kungekudala.
- Yitsho ngokucacileyo ukulahlwa kwileta kunye nomntu owayesithandayo. Ungaziqwalasela ukuba ufumane impendulo kwaye ususe yonke imigca ebonisa ingxoxo. Ngaphandle koko, ileta yokwahlukana iya kujika
kwintsebenziswano phakathi kwabathandekayo. Kwaye kuya kuba nzima kuwe ukuwuphelisa. - Ukuba ufuna ukuphula umlingane osemthethweni, ngoko ulungiselele ukuba incwadi yokuhlukana ayikukusindisa wena nomyeni wakho kwiintlanganiso ezilandelayo. Ngoko ke, zama ukufana nokuqonda, ukungahambisani nokuzimisela kunokwenzeka. Akuyimfuneko ukufumana ubudlelwane kunye nokuvuma ngokuqhawula umtshato - njengabantu abadala, kufuneka nixoxe ngale fowuni.
Xa uthumela ileta, ungalindeli impendulo. Musa ukuhlalutya kwaye ungaqiniseki. Ucele uxolo kwaye uxolelwe. Ngaphakathi kwakho ngoku unakho inkululeko kunye neenkulungwane zeendlela ezivulekileyo ukuze uhlangabezane nesiphelo sakho.