Ukuzalwa komntwana kukuvuyisa kakhulu intsapho. Ummangaliso wakho omncinci ngowona obalaseleyo kwaye uyingqayizivele. Umntwana ukhula, kwaye abazali baqala ukuphawula ukuba sele sele eneempawu zakhe, ezinye zazo azikho kakuhle, umzekelo:
- isonka esilisayo;
- ukufaka izipikili;
- ukuthabatha ekhaleni;
- ukudonsa okanye ukuboya iinwele.
Kutheni bevela?
Iimbangela zemikhwa emibi kubantwana zininzi. Ngamanye amaxesha bavela nje kwisifiso esingenalwazi lomntwana ukuxelisa umntu. Ngoko ke, kufuphi nomntwana kufuneka kuqala kuqala ukujonga imikhwa yabo kwaye ungamniki umntwana isizathu sokukopisha ukukhetha kwakho ekhaleni okanye ukubetha izipikili.
Ngokutsho kweengcali zeengqondo zezingane, yonke imiphumo emibi yabantwana ivela ekungabikho kwengqwalasela kumntwana kwintsapho. Iimvuthu zashiywa ixesha elide zodwa, zincinci zithatyathwa kwiipenki, zisuswe ngethuba lokusuka kumama wam, alukhathazi, zibuhlungu kwaye zatshitshisa. Ukuze bakwazi ukuzimela ngandlela-thile, umntwana ufuna isinxephezelo kunye nenduduzo kwiimvakalelo eziphathekayo ezifumaneka kuye-uyamlisela umunwe, agwebe indlebe yakhe, athathe inamba, edlala kunye nezitho zakhe zesini.
Umntwana usetyenziselwa ukuzithoba ngezizenzo ezinjalo, okwenza kube yinto eyingozi. Ekuqaleni, umntwana, ngoko, uzibhokoxa ekungabikho komama, kwaye ke, nangona umama esondele kuye, sele esenomdla wokwenza ngokwakhe. Imikhwa yokunyamekela yenziwa kubantwana, eyanceda umntwana emini, ambeke ebusuku, ancede aphelise ukwesaba.
Ngokuqhelekileyo loo mkhuba owonakalisayo, njengokutshiza ngomunwe, uvela ekungagcini kwama-biorhyth of the brain. I-reflex yokusondla isebenza ngokuphuhliswa komntwana kwaye ukuba yayisisusululisile ukutshatyalaliswa, ukunwa ngomunwe okanye ukunciphisa iminyaka engama-3-4 kuthathwa njengesiqhelo kubantwana abanjalo.
Kwiimeko ezithile ezinzima, ukufumana ukwesaba, ukuxhalaba okanye ukukhathazeka, umntwana unokunxulumana nento enye okanye i-toy and not to share it, ukufumana induduzo nokuthuthuzela kuphela ngokubamba into ezandleni zakhe. Ngokuqhelekileyo oku kwenzekayo xa umntwana eqala ukuhamba kwi-kindergarten, kwaye unina akazungeze, kwaye kukhona abantu abangaziwa. Kancinci, umntwana uyazi kakuhle abantwana nabangqongileyo kunye nabo, ukuba ubudlelwane obunobungane bubekwe nabo bonke, ke bengaqapheli kwaye imfuno yokudlala "into" yakhe iyaphela.
Abantwana bokuqala esikolweni banokuhlakulela imikhuba emibi, leyo ingaba yindlela yokuziphatha:
- ukugubungela iinyawo zakhe ehamba;
- ukugubha phezu kwesihlalo;
- Ukusetyenziswa kwamagama-iipasisiti;
- ukumbamba umnxibelelwano nge-sleeve okanye iqhosha;
- gesticulation ngokweqile;
- kude kwamehlo omnxibelelwano.
Akukho nto abantu abayithethayo: uhlwayela umkhuba - vuna umlingisi. Iimpawu ezinobungozi kubantwana zivela ngeendleko zemfundo kwaye, ukudibanisa omnye nomnye, zenza iimpawu zomntwana. Ngoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhusela imikhwa emibi kubantwana. Ukuqhagamshelana nomntwana, inzala kuyo yonke imicimbi yakhe, isiqhelo esingenakuqonda kunye nokungaqondakali kwezenzo zakhe - yiloo nto iya kunceda umntwana ukuba agweme ukubonakala kwemikhwa emibi, kodwa ukuba sele sele ivele, iya kubancedisa.
Indlela yokujongana nemikhwa emibi kubantwana?
Ngokungaqinisekanga unokuphendula ukuba isijeziso kunye nokuthintela akunakukuncedwa apha. Ukulahla imikhwa emibi akulula kwaye ixesha linokuthatha ininzi. Ngoko ke, abazali kufuneka babe nesineke baze bathengise ngokuqinisekileyo umntwana ukuba kunobungozi ukugubha izipikili kuba ubuninzi bomhlaba obuncwane kunye neengqungquthela ziqokelela phantsi kwazo, kwaye konke oku kungena emlonyeni wakhe. Umntwana omncinci angacinga ngento yamagama ngomntakwabo-ntombazana, intombazana ukuba ixelelwe ukuba izandla zowesifazane ozayo kufuneka zihle kwaye zilungele kakuhle. Ukuba umntwana unomunwe, ke ukuhlwaya nokumgxeka akuyiyo ingqiqo - akukho nto iya kunceda, uya kuyisela ngasese. Kungcono ukumnika ingqwalasela enkulu kunokwenzeka, ukumphazamisa ngemisebenzi enomdla kunye nemidlalo, okanye nje ukunyanzelisa imvumba. Ukuba umnwe womntwana uhlala empumlweni, oku kungabonisa ukuba i-mucosa yamanzi iyomisa kwaye oku kumnceda. Kufanelekile ukubona ugqirha ngcebiso.
Ewe, ndimele ndithethe ngeengxaki ezinjalo "ezinkwantya" njengengqondo yokunyula umntwana. Abantwana abaninzi ebuntwaneni babandakanyeka kulo "lo" kwaye wonke umzali uyaxhalaka xa ebona indlela umntwana wakhe ezithinta ngayo "khona." Kodwa ngokwenene kunzima thina kuphela ngabantu abadala, kwaye umntwana omncinci akayiqondi ngokupheleleyo. Ukuze imvumba zihlolisise izidalwa zazo zofuzo zendalo njengento ethinta izandla, imilenze, indlebe. Kodwa abantwana abakhulileyo banokuzichukumisa ngokwabo ngokucokisekileyo, kunokubanceda. Kwaye ngaba abazali bafanele baqaphele: musa ukuvumela umntwana ukuba ahlale embhedeni ixesha elide, ukuhlamba akufanele kube nzima, ucoceko oluqhelekileyo lwezitho zangasese ukuphepha ukucaphukisa.
Musa ukumgxeka umntwana, mxelele ukuba oko akwenzayo yendalo,
Kwintliziyo yazo yonke imikhwa emibi ebantwaneni yinkinga yengqondo. Ukuchasana nabo kukulwa nokungakhuselekanga komntwana, ukuxhalaba kwakhe. Abantu abakhathazekile bayakhula bevela kubantwana abathandana nabancinci ebuntwaneni, bekhathazekile kwaye banenkxalabo ngabo. Ngako oko, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ube noluxolweni olunokuthula, oluxhamlekileyo luthando nokuvisisana ekhaya, kwaye ngoko uya kunqoba naluphi na ubunzima.