Ngelishwa, namhlanje intsapho engenabantwana ayiqhelekanga. Kodwa ngaba le ngxaki kubasetyhini banamhlanje: siya kumisa ihashe size simise umntwana emncintiswaneni, kwaye siza kubeletha umntwana ngaphandle kokususa isihlalo sikhokeli, kwaye siza kukhula umntwana oxabisekileyo, ngaphandle kokulibala ukugcina abaphantsi kwethu kwizandla ezivuyiweyo. Eqinisile, namhlanje abafazi banako ukufumana izinto ezininzi, kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba akukho ntlukwano phakathi kwentsapho engenabawo kunye nosapho olupheleleyo. Ukuze uqaphele le ntlukwano, kufuneka uqonde ukuba yintoni indima kayise kwintsapho, yiyiphi imisebenzi eyabelwe yona, kuba uluntu lwangoku alufunanga ukuba umntu abe ngumgcini wesondlo kwaye abeke enye inkathazo kulo mfazi.
Indima kayise kwintsapho yanamhlanje
Ingxaki yobudlelwane phakathi koobawo nabantwana kwintsapho ihlala ikhona, kwaye akukho ndawo yokuphuma kuyo, izizukulwana ezahlukileyo ziya kuhlala zijonga ngeembono ezahlukeneyo kwiimeko zobomi. Kodwa ukuba iingxaki zangaphambili zazibangelwa yimpembelelo eninzi kayise kubantwana, ilizwi lakhe lalingummiselo malunga naluphi na umbandela, kodwa namhlanje kukho ukulahleka kolawulo lwabazali kwintsapho. Kukho izizathu ezininzi, eyona nto ingundoqo yokukhululwa kwabafazi. Ndiyabulela kuye, imodeli yomphathi weentsapho yatshatyalaliswa, kwaye omtsha wayengakabi nexesha lokwenza.
Ngoku abantu bacinga ukuba azinyanzelekile ukuthatha uxanduva lweentsapho - ukulingana emva koko konke, kwaye akuyona into ebesilisa kunye ne-rattle kufuphi nomntwana ukuhlala. Ootata beentsapho ngoku baninzi emsebenzini, kwaye xa befika ekhaya abafuni ukuphazamiseka, ingakumbi umntwana kunye nemibuzo yabo yobuwula. Ngenxa yoko, abantwana bafumana ukungabikho kwempembelelo yendoda, apho isikolo asinakukwazi ukwenza, kwakhona, uninzi lwabafundisi besetyhini balapho. Ukuba umntwana engaboni uyise, abanalo uxhumano lomzwelo, akukho ntlonelo yokumhlonela umdala. Yaye xa umntwana ekhula, uyise uqala ngokuzibuza ukuba kungani ilizwi lakhe lithetha umncinci kumntwana, kutheni abantwana begijima neengxaki zabo kunye novuyo kumama.
Kodwa le ndlela yezemfundo iphakamisa ezinye iingxaki ezininzi: abantwana abayazi indlela umntu afanele aziphathe ngayo, abanalo imodeli yendlela yokuziphatha. Ukusuka apha sifumana abantwana abancinci kunye nabangqineli, kwaye ekuqaleni abafazi abangenakonwaba ebomini babo - abayilindele (kwaye ngamanye amaxesha abayilindele, kaninzi abayifumananga) akukho inkxaso evela kwesini esahlukileyo kwaye bathatha umthwalo oqaqambileyo wokuzicwangcisa ubomi babo, ukukhulisa abantwana babo njalo njalo. Ngako oko, kubalulekile nje ukukhulisa abantwana kwintsapho epheleleyo, kodwa nangenxa yokunciphisa indima yobawo ekufumaneni imali. Ukuba sithetha ngokulingana, ke inxaxheba kwimpilo yoluntu (zombini kunye nezinto zokomoya) bobabini abazali kufuneka zilingane.
Ukusuka kumama, abantwana bafumana izifundo zokuqala zobubele, kubangele ekuphuhlisweni kweempawu ezifana novelwano kunye nobubele kubantu, ukukwazi ukwazisa uthando nokunika abanye. Umama ufundisa abantwana abanonophelo kunye nobuntu. Ukusuka kubaba, abantwana bayafumana amandla, amandla okukhusela umbono wabo, ukulwa nokuphumelela. Ubawo ufundisa isibindi nokuqina kwiingxaki zobomi. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba unothando kangakanani ubaba nomama onesibindi, ukuba kukho umzali omnye kuphela, umntwana uya kufumana imfundo eyodwa. Umntu ogcweleyo angenziwa kuphela phantsi kwefuthe lobabini nonina.
Intsha yintsapho kababa
Kuthekani ukuba utata washiya intsapho, zama ukumbuyisela kwisihlamba esithambileyo ngamandla akhe onke, esaba ukuba umntwana uya kufumana imfundo engaphantsi? Zama ukubuyela, ewe, unako, kodwa kulungile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba oku akusoloko kukhokelela kwiziphumo ezifunwayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo "abathunywa" abanjalo banokuphelelwa ngumdla kubomi bentsapho kunye nokukhuliswa kwabantwana, kwaye emva kwakho konke umntu ohlala endlwini "akuyiyo ifenitshala"
Kodwa musa ukuthatha inxaxheba enkulu yobunzima be-biological, njengobulumko bendoda, upapa akayena owamkhulayo, kodwa nguye owakhulisa. Indoda kufuneka ibe ngumcebisi omkhulu kumntwana, umxhase (izinto eziphathekayo, ezempilo kunye neemvakalelo), konke oku kunokukwenziwa nguyise owamkelayo. Ngoko ke, ukuba utata kababa akafuni ukuthatha inxaxheba ebomini bakhe, akufanelekile ukugxininisa, kodwa akukho nto iya kuvela kuyo. Ubulungile uyise onothando onothando kunotata ongenandaba.