Ekubeni, kukho imeko apho umntu angenza impazamo, elandela emva kokuzisola kakhulu. Ukuba oku kwenzeka kuwe, mhlawumbi ucinga ngendlela yokubuyisela ukuthembela komntu othandekayo. Into ephambili ekufuneka ibone kule meko kukuba ayiyi kukwazi ukulungisa ngokukhawuleza imeko. Tune kuyo umsebenzi omude kulwalamano.
Indlela yokuphinda ulahlekelwe ukuthembela kubuhlobo?
Kuninzi kuxhomekeke kwisizathu sokulahlekelwa kwethemba . Ukuba uthe waxoka kwaye ubuxoki bakho bengafunyanwanga - le nto enye. Ukuba uziphatha kakubi kunoma yintoni na imeko - ihluke. Yaye ukuzithemba kwimeko kukubi nakakhulu, ukuba utshintshile, okanye udibene nomnye umntu.
Umntu ngamnye uyasabela kwiimeko ezixinzelelekileyo ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo: abanye baqala ukumemeza nokuhlenga ubudlelwane, abanye bavalelwe ngokwabo, abanye ngokubanzi bazama ukusalala ukuze bazilungiselele. Naluphi na umgaqo womntu wakho wokuziphatha, umntu makamkele.
Zama ukuthetha, uchaze indawo yakho, sitshele ukuba kutheni wenza okufanayo njengoko wenzayo xa uqaphela ukuba wenze iphutha. Ukuba awuxeleli konke oku ngokwakho, umntu ngokwakhe uza kuza kunye nayo yonke into, kwaye undikholelwe, oku akuyona ndlela enhle.
Indlela yokubuyisela ukuzithemba komntu emva kokugwenxa?
Okokuqala, sigqibo sokuba ngaba ufuna ngempela ulwalamano lwakho, ukuba sele sele uthathe isinyathelo esinqumayo? Uyazi ngokugqibeleleyo ukuba ukuthengwa kwakho kuya kuba buhlungu kakhulu kumlingane, kodwa oku akukuthinteli ekubeni uthathe isinyathelo sokukhawuleza. Okokuqala, ziqonde ngokwakho, kwiinjongo zokuziphatha kwakho, uze uthathe amanyathelo angaphezulu.
Kwintliziyo yokubuyela kobudlelwane yintetho ethe tye. Kuphela ukuba uthethe konke (kungekho nakwinkcukacha) kwaye uyavuma ukuba unetyala, unokuqhubeka.
Ngoku ufanele uqonde ngokukhathazeka kwakhe, vumela ulawulo, soloko ushumayela apho ukhona kunye nabo. Musa ukugqithisa kakhulu, ukunyamezela ngokukhawuleza nokuhlaselwa. Thetha kumntu kwaye uthi unokuba kunye, ukuba ngaba uya kuxhasana kwaye ubalekele okwenzekayo. Akukufanelekanga ukuhlaziswa, njengokwenza ngokunyanisekileyo. Lapha ufuna ukuqonda, ukuqonda nokuqonda - kuphela kule meko kukho ithuba lokubuyisa ubuhlobo .
Kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba ulwalamano luya kuba lunye lufana nolunye ngaphambili. Umthwalo wesitampu obeka kuzo uya kuba nexesha elide.