Ubuhlobo obonwabileyo bubakhelwe ngokukhawuleza, kodwa oku akuyona indlela elula. Ngoko abanye benza ubomi babo bulula njengoko kunokwenzeka, ukhetha indima yomthengi olula. Kukholelwa ukuba ukuziphatha okunjalo kuqhelekileyo kubasetyhini, kodwa abameli bezesondo eziqinileyo benza isono. Nento enokuyenza xa umntu engayithandi, kodwa esebenzisa wena, uyayiqonda njani, yiyiphi impawu ekumele uyibeke ingqalelo ukuba ungabanjwa kwiwebhu yobudlelwane obunjalo?
Indlela yokuqonda into umntu ayenayo engqondweni: uyayithanda okanye isebenzise?
Ngokomgaqo, umba awukho nzima, kodwa kuphela xa ukhangelwa ukusuka kwicala. Ekubeni abafazi abathandwayo abazange bawubhale izinto ezibonakalayo, okanye bayonwabile ukuzibandakanya ekukhohliseni. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngamanye amaxesha akubhekiselele ekuziphatheni okubi kwamadoda, kodwa ekulindelekeni kwamantombazana okanye ukungaqondi kakuhle kweenjongo zomnye ngenxa yokwesaba ukuxubusha, kodwa ngoku akunjalo. Ngoko, ziziphi iimpawu zokuziphatha eziza kubonakala ukuba umntu akayithandi, kodwa usebenzisa nje umfazi?
- Zizimeleyo . Akanomdla kwimbono yakho nangayiphi na into, unokushiya ngaphandle kwesixwayiso, aze abize emva kwexesha ebusuku kwaye adibanise ukuba sele esesangweni. Akayikhathaleli ukuba yeyiphi into eyenzekayo eyenza ukuba enze izinto ezinjalo, ekubeni umsebenzi ufezekisa kuphela iminqweno yakhe.
- Awuzalisekisi izithembiso . Ewe, ininzi amadoda ebudlelwaneni bebantana iyaba ngabadlali beendaba, ngokugqithiseleyo bafaka iimpawu zabo, kodwa ukuzikhusela kwamabhinqa ngokuzenzekelayo ukwahlula konke okuthethwe kuthiwe kwi-10, ngoko akukho nto ingozi kuyo. Kodwa ulala kwizinto zokuqala kufuneka uqaphele. Ngokomzekelo, uhlala etshela indlela alahlekileyo ngayo, kodwa akanalo ixesha lokufumana intlanganiso emfutshane. Uthembisa ukuza, kwaye xa ubiza ukuba ufumene ukuba kutheni uhlala, uva ibali malunga nabahlobo abangalindelekanga abaya kuba nobusuku naye.
- Akunandaba . Kucacile ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuvumelanisa ngokupheleleyo neemfuno zomnye umntu, wonke umntu unomnqweno wakhe, onokungafani neembono zeqabane. Kwaye oku kulandelelaniswa kwezinto, ukuba kuhlale kunye kunye, ukukhathala kubumba ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa xa kungekho nto ingqalelo kwinqanaba lokuqala, elibonakalisa kwizinto ezincinci, kuyafaneleka ukucinga. Umzekelo, ugxininisa ekuqhubekeni kokuhamba, nangona ungeke usakwazi ukuhamba ngeentendelezo eziphakamileyo, ezigqoke ukuzonwabisa. Okwenzeka ngokukhawuleza xa uva ukuba ubambe ubanda ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ukubuza malunga nentlalo yakho.
- Imvakalelo embi . Iqabane lihlala lisesimweni esibi, xa ekhuluma nawe kwifowuni, kwaye ngexesha leentlanganiso uzama ukunciphisa unxibelelwano kumncinci, ngokukrakra ukuphendula kuzo zonke iinzame zakho zokuthetha ngandlela-thile.
- Imfihlo . Ukuba indoda ayithandi kwaye isebenzise, uya kukukhusela ngokukhawuleza ekuhlanganisaneni nabahlobo bakhe kunye nabanye abantu abasondeleyo. Konke kunengqiqo: ithoyilo yokulala okanye umthombo wemali engenayo ukuvumela ukuba ubomi bakho bungabalulekanga. Le ndlela iyakwazi ukuthetha ngokukholiswa kobomi bobabini, engathethi nothando olukhulu.
- Uxhomekeka . Ungasebenzisa umntu kungekuphela nje ukuxazulula iingxaki zezinto eziphathekayo okanye ukuxhaswa ngokwesondo, kuyindlela enhle yokuphucula ukuzithemba kwakho . Ngokuqhelekileyo kule njongo bakhetha amantombazana angakhuselekanga akulungele ukuqaphela ukubaluleka komlingane kuyo yonke into, kwaye amjonga ukuba ungumxhamli wokumamela. Ngoko ukuba umntu uhlaselani ekuhloliseni imizamo yakho, uhlala esithi ungenza ngcono, mhlawumbi uyazama ukunyuka kwiindleko zakho.
Ukuba ebomini bakho kukho imiqondiso emininzi, ke lixesha lokuhlalutya ubudlelwane, ukuthetha kunye neqabane, mhlawumbi, ukusola ukungaqondi. Uninzi lunokulungiswa yizo ngxoxo. Ukuba akukho iingxoxo, okanye izenzo ziyakwazi ukukholisa umntu ukuba kufuneka ubaleke naye, ngaba kukufanelekile ukuqhubeka ulwalamano olunjalo ? Ukuba kunye nabani na, ukuba akukho nanye, ngaba ufanelekile ukuhlaziswa rhoqo kunye nokuphazamiseka kwemihlaba?