Xa ulwalamano luya kumisa, kwaye elinye iqabane liyeka ukuvakalelwa ngabanye, lihlala lixinzelelekileyo kwaye ingakumbi ibhinqa, kuba iyaqonda ukuba ayithandwanga kwaye ayifuni indoda yakhe. Ukuqaphela ukuba umntu owe ngothando kunzima kakhulu, kodwa kuba abanye baqhubeka bedlala ngobudlelwane obuhle baze bakhohlise. Kodwa kungekudala okanye kamva kuya kufuneka sijamelane nenyaniso. Ukuba indoda ayithandi ibhinqa, ngoko yintoni na iimpawu ezibonisa oko - kweli nqaku.
Uyakuqonda njani ukuba indoda ayithandi?
Enyanisweni, nokuba ngumbuzo wothando lomlingane ngumqondiso wokuqala. Emva koko, akuzange kuvele kungento. Ngoko, kukho izibonakaliso eziphazamisayo ukuba le ntokazi ibanjwe intuitively kwaye yaqonda ukuba into ebudlelane nayo yayingalunganga. Ukuba indoda ayithandi umfazi, ngoko uyawuqonda ngoku zilandelayo:
- iqabane liyeka ukunikezela ibhinqa kwizicwangciso zakhe. Akaqhagamshelana naye kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba avumele ukufikelela kwi shishini lakhe. Uyeka ukwabelana ngezinto ezenzeke emsebenzini, ukufihla incwadi kwiintanethi zentlalo , njl.;
- Uzama nje kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukutyelela ekhaya. Uya kuza nezizathu zokuhlala emsebenzini, ngeveki ehamba kunye nabahlobo bokuloba, ukuzingela, ukuya kwindawo yokuhlambela, njl.
- Ubeka iminqweno yakhe ngaphezu kwemfuno yentsapho, umntwana kunye nomfazi. Okokuthi, indoda ayifuni ukuba nexanduva labo abasondeleyo kwaye babe yinyama ethembekileyo kubo;
- ukuba umntu akayithandi, kwaye uyonwabile, ke uphawu olucacileyo lwalo luhlobo lomthengi. Oko kukuthi, uba ngumthonyama kunye nothando kuphela xa efuna into ethile. Xa ufumene okanye ungayifumanga into efunwayo, kwakhona uqala ukungahoywa nomlingane wakhe;
- Indoda eyekile ukuthanda, kungekhona nje kuphela ayitshoyo ukuthi uyayithanda, kodwa kunye nokuhlambalaza, nakuyo yonke into, kwiinkcukacha zonke, kwaye iqalisa ukuphawula iimpazamo zokubonakala kunye nokubalathisa;
- akukho mnqweno wokuthintela, akasayi kukhwaza, kumanga, ugweme iintlanganiso ezintle;
- uyeka ukulandela amagama akhe kwiimeko eziphikisanayo, unokuhlambalaza, ukucaphukisa okanye ukubonisa ukungahloneli.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu onjalo uyeka ukubona iqabane elikuye kunye nayo yonke imbonakalo yakhe nokuziphatha kwakhe kubonisa ukuba akanandaba nendlela aphila ngayo nendlela aphefumula ngayo, nokuba unayo impilo. Akakhathalele ngempilo yakhe, intuthuzelo yengqondo nangokwenyama kwaye akabi nomona, ngenxa yokuba akanako ukulahleka. Yonke le miqondiso ngokukodwa okanye ngokungathanga ngqo ibonisa ukungabi naluthando, nokuba yintoni enokuyenza ngayo-ukuba uyingxenye okanye uzama ukugcina ubudlelwane, ngamnye umfazi uyazikhethela.