Ngokudabukisayo, kodwa phakathi kwabantu abasondeleyo kubakho ukuxabana kunye nezikhalazo. Akufanele siwasindise, kodwa sisombulula ingxabano kwaye uxolise.
Kuya kwenzeka, ndonwabile kwaye kwintetho yombambano ndathetha kakhulu. Musa ukulinda ukuhlambalaza umama kufinyelele kwisiqhamo sayo. Kulula nje, xa izinto ezinqwenelekayo zincinci nje (mhlawumbi zingabangela ukuxabana), uthi: "Ndiyaxolisa, mama, ndiphosakele". Okanye: "Ndiyonwabile kukuba ndikucaphukise, ndiyaxolisa, andizange ndifune."
Ukuba usetyenziselwa ukugcina izikhalazo kuwe kwaye ungayazi ukucela ukuxolelwa kumama wakho, ubhalele ileta okanye i-SMS, uze wenze okuthile okulungileyo kuye. Hlela umonakalo ongalindelekanga, uthenge iintyatyambo, umzekelo.
Ngamanye amaxesha siyakhohlisa ngisho nabasondeleyo, nangona oku, kufuneka ukuba kugwenywe. Kodwa ekubeni oko kwenzeka, indlela yokuxolisa kumama ngenxa yokulala-kunele ukuchaza izizathu ezenze ukuba oku kwenzeke. Nangona isizathu, kubonakala kuwe, asiyi kuqatshelwa njengentlonelo, ngoku akukho mfuneko yokuxoka. Zama ukuchaza iimvakalelo zakho. Umama uya kuqonda, ngoko yena nomama.
Ukuba awukwazi ukuba ucele njani ukuxolelwa kumama wakho, khumbula le migaqo emibini:
- Ungahambi ngokukhawuleza kwiintlawulo ("Kodwa wena ubeka uxanduva lokungenisa kule nto!")
- Awuvumelani nomama wakho, ukuba awuvumelani ngokwenene, oku kuya kuqubuzela ingxabano kwixesha elizayo.
Ndingacela njani ukuxolelwa kumama ofileyo?
Sifanele sithandazele, ukuba sithetha ngabantu abakholwayo, sibeke ikhandlela, silungiselele kwibandla lokukhunjulwa.
Ngoku kuya kufuneka ukuba ndikhumbule le mpazamo ebomini bam bonke, kodwa ndingayihlambalazi. Emva koko, bonke abantu bayiphutha ... Zama ukuthatha njengesifundo uze ucele ukuxolelwa ngexesha.
Iimonki, ngokuhambelana neZibhalo, zicela ukuxolelwa ngokufanayo ngaloo mini ukuba ingxabano yenzeka, ngokuchanekileyo kuba abafuni ukuthatha isono esingakumbi emphefumlweni. Mhlawumbi, kwaye awufuni? Ukuxolisa ngokukhawuleza, ngokukhawuleza ukuba uqaphele ukuba uyiphutha. Oku kuza kusindisa zonke iingxaki ezingadingekile.