Ngokuchasene nobandlululo oluqhelekileyo, ubuhlobo besifazane buqinileyo kwaye buxabiseke kakhulu. Ngako oko, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngubani omele uxhatshazo, icala ngalinye lifuna ukubuyisela ubudlelwane ngokukhawuleza. Kule ngqaku, siza kufumanisa ukuba sithetha ntoni okanye senze ntoni, kwaye sizenzele, kwaye singabi nengozi yokuzithemba.
Indlela yokudibanisa nomhlobo wakho omhle, ukuba uyayimangalela?
Kufuneka ukuba uqale ngokuqaphela ukuba umntu omnye akanakunetyala le nto. Ngoko ke, nangona uninzi lwezityholo lilele kumhlobo-ntombazana, kuyafaneleka ukuvuma iimpazamo zakho. Emva koko, kudla ukuba kwenzeka ukuba ukuziphatha kakubi kubangela ubugwenxa, ukucaphuka kunye nomnqweno wokuphindiselela kumhlobo , ongenakunceda ukubuyisela ubuhlobo. Thatha isinyathelo sokuqala uthi: "Ndixolele, ndifuna ukuyenza" kunzima, ngakumbi ukuba akukho nto yokuxolisa. Kodwa ngokuchanekileyo esi sikhundla sifaka ubungqina bomelele kunye nokusetyenziswa komntu ngamnye. Ukongezelela, ngenxa yamagama anjalo, intombazana iya kuqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba uthetha ntoni kuwe, kwaye, mhlawumbi, uya kucela ukuxolelwa.
Ukuba uxolo lulethwe kuwe ngaphandle kwezikhalazo ezide, akufanele ubenqabe kwaye uqhubeke nombambano. Yamkela ukuguquka okunyanisekileyo komntu kwaye ungaphinda ukhumbule le meko. Ungayi kungena kwiimbangela zokuxabana kwaye ufumane iinkcukacha ezingadingekile, khawule ingqalelo kumazwi athetha ukushisa, kunye nezwi lezwi. Zonke ezi zinto zizithelekisayo xa zithelekiswa neemeko ezintle zobungqina obuqinileyo.
Indlela yokudibanisa emva kokuxabana nomhlobo omhle-ezinye iingcebiso:
- Mxelele ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani kuwe, yiyiphi indawo ethatha ubomi bakho;
- ukubandakanyeka kwishishini lemihla ngemihla: hambisa ukuthenga, tyelela indawo ozithandayo;
- Musa ukuthetha ngeempazamo zentombi yakho kwamanye amalungu enkampani, musa ukumbamba ngokukhanya okubi;
- Musa ukukhumbuza intombi yakho yeephosiso zakhe, ungamangaleli esidlulileyo;
- ulinde ixesha elaneleyo lokubuyisela nokuqinisa ubuhlobo, ngokukhawuleza ubuyisele ubuhlobo obudlulileyo abuyi kusebenza.
Indlela yokuxolelana nentombi, ukuba akayi kubeka ityala?
Ngokuqhelekileyo, umoni lowo uvakalelwa kakhulu. Emva kwakho konke, kungekhona nje ngenxa yamazwi okanye izenzo zakho eziphosakeleyo, uhlala wedwa, ngaphandle komhlobo ongcono, ukuzithemba ngokufanayo kunciphisa kakhulu. Ingqiqo yecala kunye nokuqwashiswa kokungcoliswa komntu kubanzi. Ngoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungalibali ukuxolelana, kodwa uzame ukubuyisela ubuhlobo ngokukhawuleza. Ungesabi ukucela intethelelo - umhlobo oyinyaniso uya kuhlala esamkela uxolo ngaphandle kwamagama angafunekiyo kunye nokuhlambalaza. Kucetyiswa ukuba uthethe ngokwabo, ukwenza uxolo nomhlobo ngoncedo lwe-SMS okanye umnxeba umnxeba akunakwenzeka, kuba ngale ndlela awukwazi ukujonga phakathi kwamehlo kwaye uxoxe ngazo zonke izinto ezingaqondakaliyo.
Indlela yokuxolelana nabahlobo kwinkampani?
Xa kwenzeka ukuba ingxabano ivele kwinkampani yabantu abangaphezu kwembini, kunzima kakhulu ukulungisa ingxabano. Wonke umntu unamathela kwimibono yabo kunye neendlela zabo zokuziphatha, ngamanye amaxesha bazama ukuyibeka kwabanye. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, kubalulekile ukufumana ukulungelelanisa okuya kuhambelana nabo bonke abahlobo kunye nexesha elifanayo singathinteli iimvakalelo zabo. Kufuneka ukuba ukhumbule
- Musa ukuhlula inkampani;
- Musa ukuhleba ngahlobo malunga nabahlobo onobudlelwane kunye namanye amalungu enkampani, ungasebenzisi ulwazi oluxelwe kuwe;
- Ungazami ukuchukumisa ngokukodwa iimvakalelo zabahlobo xa udibana;
- Zama ukuqokelela ndawonye kunye nokufumanisa isizathu sokuxabana;
- Xoxa ngamabango elungu ngalinye lenkampani komnye nomnye;
- kuthetha ngeendlela zokusombulula ingxaki eya kuhambelana nayo yonke into.