Abantu abaninzi kakhulu banelungelo lokwesaba okugqithisileyo, ezininzi zazo ezingenangqiqo. Ukutsho ukuba yintoni na ipesenteji yabantu abadala abesaba iindile okanye ukuphakama, akunakwenzeka, kuba abaninzi bayifihla. Kodwa ukuba le nto iqala ukuphazamisa ubomi obuqhelekileyo, umntu ngokuzikhethela kufuneka anqume indlela yokulahla ukwesaba okukhulu .
Ngaphandle kokuba sithetha ngento yokuba urhulumente wesantya sele sele engumngcipheko, umntu unokususa ukwesaba okukhulu. Iingcali zengqondo zicebisa izivo ezikuvumela ukuba uqonde indlela yokulahla iingcamango ezingcolileyo kunye nokwesaba.
Kufuneka uvume ukwesaba kwakho. Wonke umntu unelungelo lokwesaba into ethile, akukho mntu uhlukile. Abantu abaninzi babesaba into ethile, into eyintsipho. Ngokomzekelo, uNapoleon wayeyika amahashe. Ngako oko, ukwesaba abantu izibungulu akubi kakhulu kwaye akukho bhetele.
Ingxaki ayikho yokwesaba, kodwa ngobunzima bayo. Ukuba umntu umemeza, xa i-Wolfhound ikhupha ngokukhawuleza kuye nge-snarl, ayikho into. Kubi xa ehlala eyika ukuhlasela iPekingese. Kuyingozi kakhulu, ukuba ngenxa yokwesaba abantu bawela kwi-stupor kwaye ngezinye iimeko zenzeka, umzekelo, kwisitalato esityebileyo. Emva koko umbuzo wendlela yokukrazula iingcamango ezinzulu kunye namazwe kubalulekile.
Udinga ukuthatha isiqwenga samaphepha uze ubhale ukwesaba kwakho (umzekelo, ukwesaba izinja okanye ukuthetha kwintlanganiso). Emva koko uphendule ngokubhaliweyo imibuzo efanayo: Kwenzeka ntoni ukuba kwenzeka into endiyikisayo? Kunokuba undisongela? Ndingayenza ntoni ngoko? Emva koko unokubona ukuba yonke into ayisoyikanga.
Akukho mfuneko yokuba nethemba lokuba unokukrazula ukwesaba. Oku akunakwenzeka, kwaye akuyimfuneko. Kufuneka nje ukunciphisa ukwesaba kwaye uthathe phantsi kolawulo.
Fumana indlela yokukrazula iingcamango eziphosakeleyo entloko yakho - ukuphazamiseka. Cinga izandla zakho, izihlangu, amaqabunga emithini, amafu esibhakabhakeni. Gxininisa into ethile imfuneko kamva okanye ibaluleke kakhulu.
Kwenzeka ukuba iingcinga ziqhubeka zibuyela ngokufanayo. Into yokunyaniseka ayinokwesaba nje kuphela, kodwa inomdla. Ulwalamano olusisigxina, apho umntu angakwazi ukusinda nangayiphi na indlela, ngumzekelo wenkinga enjalo xa ungazi ukuba ulahlekelwe njani ukugqithiswa okubi ngokuphila okungaphumeleli, ugcwele usizi kunye nesizungu ngaphambili, njalo njalo.
Indlela yokukrazula iingcamango ezinzulu malunga nendoda?
- Ungaziphefumleli ukuba kukho ukukhanya komda odibeneyo. Akukho nto yohlobo! Kukho bhetele kunokuba yena, kwaye kulunge ngakumbi.
- Ukuphazamiseka yiloo nto eyenzeka ngaye. Bhengeza: nantsi intlunkulu ehleli emgodini, nantsi umntwana uhamba ngendandatho ...
Ukuphazamiseka, ngoko kuthetha, jikelele: yenza uncedo, ube yivolontiya. Ukubona kolunye uxinzelelo lwabanye kunceda abantu basinde ubomi babo: luncedo ngamanye amaxesha ukukhumbula ukuba kukho abantu ababi kakhulu.
Indlela yokukrazula iingcamango ezinzulu malunga nokufa?
I-Thanatophobia yinkathazo enzima, kodwa inokuthi ithathwe phantsi kolawulo xa ungayinikezeli ukuthanda kwakho. Kubalulekile ukucinga malunga noko kubalulekile ngoku ngoku. Zama ukubuyela kumava ezahlukahlukeneyo. Ukubandakanya inceba.
Kukho enye indlela, efanelekileyo kule meko. Ngelinye ilanga, ehleli ekhaya, zama konke okusemandleni akho ukuba ndive. Nokuba ukhale. Chaza ngeenkcukacha zonke izinto ezibuhlungu oza kuba nazo. Ubungakanani bentshiseko emva kokuba oku kuya kulahleka: umntu njengomntu "uyasusa" ininzi.
Ukuba ukwesaba kunye nokugqithiswa akudluli, isizathu sabo sinokuxinezeleka. Ukuba imeko enjalo iyaqhubeka, kulungile ukuthetha nodokotela kwaye unyango lwexinzelelo. Omnye kufuneka akhumbule: ukwesaba kuyonakalisa impilo.