Iingcali zengqondo zithetha ukuba iziganeko zingatsho ngakumbi ngeemvakalelo zomntu kunamazwi akhe, kuba sisoloko sikwenza ukunyakaza komzimba kungenakucacisa, kumatshini, ukungeniswa kwangaphakathi, kwaye asikwazi ukuzilawula rhoqo. Ngoko ke luncedo ukwazi ukuba kuthini ukuthatha iziganeko, umzekelo, izandla, ukuze uqonde ukuba unxibelelwano onyanisekileyo wakho, uvule, uzinzile okanye ujabule, njl.
Yenzani ukuzithoba kwezandla kunye neentende?
Izandla zomntu zisoloko zibonakala. Kwaye bahlala bebanake ingqalelo kwiimeko zonxibelelwano. Ukuba umchasi wakho uxinzelelwe yimvakalelo eqinileyo, ke izandla zakhe nezandla zakhe akunakwenzeka ukuba uphumle, mhlawumbi, uya kuguqula into ezandleni zakhe, ukubetha into ethile, izinto ezithintekayo, iimpahla zakhe, iinwele, njl njl. Kubalulekile ukwazi ukuba iziphi izinto ezithathayo ukuthetha ngazo, ukuze uguqule ngokuchanekileyo ukuziphatha komntu onxibelelana naye, ungagxininiseli kuphela kumagama.
Isenzo sokuqala esinokuthi uninzi malunga nomntu kukubambisana ngesandla. Ukuba umntu olawulayo, uya kusula isandla sakhe kuqala, aphendule ngesandla sakhe. Ukufuna ukubonisa intlonelo ekhethekileyo kunye nokukhonza, abantu batyula isandla sabo, bejongene phantsi nombhobho. Ukuthotyelwa, ongeyiphikisanayo kunye neyantlonelo echasayo, inokwenzeka, iya kukunika isandla, iphendukele phezulu. Ngomntu onqabileyo, umntu ongenaluthando, isandla siya kugxininiswa kwaye sigxininise, kwaye ukuxhaphaza isandla kubuthathaka.
Olunye uhlobo lwesandla kunye nencazelo yalo:
- Abantu bahlala besasaza izandla zabo emacaleni kwaye babonise izandla zabo - unyanisekileyo kwaye uvulekile ukuthetha;
- ukuwela iingalo kunye neentende, ngokuchaseneyo, uthetha ngokuqapha kwaye ungakulungeli ukudibanisa;
- Iintendelezo zinyathelwa omnye komnye zithetha malunga nokuzikhukhumeza komdlali;
- izandla kwiipokotshi, ingakumbi ukuba umntu uhleli ngexesha elifanayo - uphawu lobudlova kunye nokugwenxa;
- izandla zinyuka, umntu uhlala echukumisa iinwele zakhe, echukumisa ubuso bakhe, njl njl. Uzama ukuthetha amanga;
- Indoda igubungela umlomo ngesandla sayo - ayivumelani nawe, kodwa akayi kukhanyela;
- iintendelezo ezigqityiweyo, ezixinzelelweyo kumnye nomnye - uphawu lwezinto ezinenjongo nolunzima ekunxibelelaneni kwabantu;
- iintendelezo zilele emaphethelweni etafileni - umchasi ulindele ukufumana inkxaso kuwe;
- iibrashi ezinesiqingatha-umgca-mphambano akafuni ukungqubuzana , ulungele nayiphi na ingxaki yokunxibelelana;
- Esinye isandla sithatha esinye isibindi - umntu akaqinisekanga ngezenzo zakhe nangamazwi, kodwa uzama ukuzibamba kunye.
Impawu eqhelekileyo yeminwe nencazelo yawo
Kukho okubizwa ngokuba yizizwe zomzimba, eziqondwa kakuhle ngabantu abavela kwihlabathi lonke. Kwaye bahlala besisebenzisa ukuze banqobe umqobo weelwimi. Nangona kunjalo, kuyimfuneko ukuyisebenzisa ngokulumkisa into ethile ngeminwe, eyaziwayo kumaYurophu, umzekelo, kuMuslim nakwamanye amazwe. Emva koko, apha banokuphathwa njengento engcolileyo.
Ngoko yonke into eyaziwa ngokuthi "Kulungile" - uphawu lwesigxina kunye nesicatshulwa ngomunwe - ngokuqhelekileyo ibonisa ukuvunywa. Kodwa eBrazil nakwamanye amazwe aseArabhu, kuthetha ukuthintana nobudlelwane kunye kwaye kuyacaphuka. EJapan, lo mqondiso kufuneka uqondwe njengombuzo othi "Ngakanani na?".
Inentsingiselo yeminye imiqondiso ngeminwe yakho:
- valiwe kwiminwe "yokukhiya" -kubonakalisa ukungavumelani okungaxelwanga ngamazwi akho, nangona umntu ekhwaza, qiniseka ukuba uya kulahla isiluleko sakho;
- iminwe efakwe kwisibindi - uphawu lokuthintela ulwaphulo, umchasi wakho unokutshatyalaliswa naliphi na umzuzu;
- iziphelo ezidibeneyo zeminwe eyenza indlu - uphawu lokuzithemba komnxibelelanisi ngokwakho, uvakalelwa ngongoma ophezulu, kwaye amazwi akho akhupha ukumncoma.