Indlela yokuphendula ngokuncoma?

Ukuncoma okwenziwe kumntu kunokubangela ukusabela okuhlukile. Abanye baqala ukuba neentloni, umntu uyakrokraza. Kwaye kukho abantu abaqala ukuqinisekisa omnye umntu ochasene naye. Kubonakala ngathi, ewe, uyayiphosa, ndiyabonakala ihlazo namhlanje. Zonke ezi ntshukumo zibhekwa njengempendulo engalunganga kwisincomelo esamkelekileyo. Kodwa ungayiphendula njani kwinconywa, ukuba uyicinga ukuba awufanelekanga okanye ungeyinyani?

Ngaphambi kokuba siye ngqo kwiingcebiso, indlela yokuphendula ngokufanelekileyo ukuncoma, makhe sifunde indlela yokuziqonda ngokufanelekileyo kuqala:

1. Okokuqala, akufanele unqabe ukukholelwa ukuba la mazwi amnandi owevayo afanelekileyo. Zivume ngokwakho kwindawo ephakamileyo yombono wakho. Iingqungquthela zakho zokudumisa ayikho enye yezona ndlela ezikhethileyo zokuphendula ngendlela ekumkelekileyo ngayo ukuphendula.
2. Funda ukuqonda amagama athetha ngokusuka kumbono womntu othethayo. Nangona ungazithembi ukuba uyavumelana, akuthethi ukuba udibaniselwano wakho akakwazi ukucinga ngendlela eyahlukileyo.
3. Impendulo efanelekileyo kakhulu yinto encinci: "Ndiyabonga, ndivuyiswa kakhulu."
4. Musa ukukhawuleza ukuphendulana ngokubambisana. Khetha ixesha elifanelekileyo lokuphendula igama.
5. Ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukufunda amaqhinga, indlela yokuphendula kwisincomeko ngendlela yokuqala, funda ukuziqonda. Ngokuzithoba, yonke into oyithethayo kwidilesi yakho iya kubonakala ibuqhayisa kunye nokuhleka, okuya kuba neyodwa impendulo - ukunyanelana. Kwaye awunayo loo nto.

Ndingayiphendula njani incomo?

Masihlalutye ukulandelelana kwezenzo kunye nokuphendula okuchanekileyo kwinconywa oyenziweyo.

1. Vumela ingqondo engqondweni ingamkeli kwaye ikholwe oko uthethile. Jabulela, nangona uva ukuncoma ngezwi elidumayo. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza umntu akakwazi ukuthetha ngenye indlela. Okanye ngaba uhlazekile? Ukungahoywa okanye ukunganakwa kwakho kunokushiya intsalela engavumelekanga emphefumlweni womnxibelelwano.
2. Khangela amehlo omntu ngokumomotheka. Kufuneka ukuba ukuncoma ngumnqweno wokukwenza uzive ulungile. Ngoko, akufanele nanini uhlale usetyala.
3. Vulela u mbulelo. Ukuba unesiqiniseko phambi kokuba udibanisa umva, ungaphendula ngezwi lokuhleka. Oku kuya kukunceda ukuba uphume kwindawo engafanelekiyo.

Iingcamango ezenziwe ngabantu abangazi ukuba baphendule njani ukunconywa bangakwazi ukuphazamisa ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kuphela, kodwa nolwalamano oluhlala ixesha elide. Musa ukuzithiya uze uzihlalise. Awudingi ukuzithethelela. Musa ukuyihoxisa. Ukwahlukana kungenziwa kuphela ngabantu abangathandekiyo, unxibelelwano ongaziqweneliyo ngoku okanye ngokuzayo.

Kanti kulula kakhulu ukusabela ekunconyeni komhlobo osondeleyo, umntu owaziwayo kunye nabantu abathandana nabo besini esifanayo kunye nawe. Kunzima nakakhulu ukufumana indlela yokuphuma kwimeko, xa ilizwi elihle lithethwa ngumntu, kwaye nokuba unobani na ovakalelwa kukuba novelwano oluncinane. Into ebaluleke kakhulu apha akuyi kulahlekelwa yintloko yakho kwaye ungenzi izigqibo ezingamanga. Indoda inokuba yinto ehloniphekileyo kwaye ibuhlungu kunye nawe, kwaye uya kuzicingela wena uThixo uyazi.

Indlela yokuphendula kumntu oncomo?

Musa ukuncoma xa umfana onobubele. Ngaloo nto awucaphukisi nje kuphela iimvakalelo zakhe, kodwa naye ngokwakhe.

Kuvela ukuba wena ngokwakho uyazicima ukuba ufanelwe ukunyanzela indoda. Ukongeza, nangona unombono ohluke ngokupheleleyo ngokubonakala kwakho okanye umlingiswa wakho, ukuvuma rhoqo ukuncoma kwindoda echaseneyo, wena ngokwakho uya kuqala ukukholelwa kubuhle bakho. Ungayiphendula njani ukuncoma kumntu? Ewe, vele ubonise ukubonga kwakho, ubuncinane ngenxa yokuba uyakunika ukuzithemba ngakumbi.