Ndiyavuma, siphila kwiindawo eziphucukileyo, apho, ngokuqinisekileyo, yonke into mayiyakhelwe ngokuhlonelana. Emva koko, kunye nokuzincama, kwaye abanye bangenzi buhlungu. Kodwa, nangona kunjalo, umngcipheko wokudibana nomntu ongenakho isidingo sokubonisa ulwaphulo lwakhe kunye nokuphazamisa isimo sakho sengqondo sikwanele. Makhe sijonge indlela onokumelana ngayo nokukhwabanisa ngelixa ugcina isikhundla esifanelekileyo.
Yilungile njani ukuphendula ngokunyaniseka?
Ewe, kulungile ukuba ungayiqapheli kwaye uzame ukushiya imeko engozi ngokukhawuleza. Injongo ephambili ye-boor kukukukhupha kwimeko engqondweni kwaye ubone indlela oya kujamelana ngayo nayo. Musa ukumnika olo uvuyo. Ngokomzekelo, akufuneki ukuphikisana nentombazana eyenza ingqalelo engathandekiyo malunga nobude bengubo yakho. Ukuba uzenza ngathi awuzange uve uze uphume ngentloko yakho ephakamileyo, ngoko ke ukuphazamiseka, okunokwenzeka ukuba uya kuba nakho.
Kodwa akusoloko kunokwenzeka ukuphuma kuloo meko, ngamanye amaxesha ufumana ubuso obujongene nobuso ngexesha elide kwaye unyanzelekile ukuba uphulaphule ukucaphukisa kwakhe. Nazi iinqununu ezimbalwa malunga nendlela yokuziphatha ukuze uzikhusele.
- Musa ukuthatha onke amagama omchasi wakho kwi-akhawunti yakho. Ndikholelwe, yonke into eyenziwa yi-boor ayixhunyiwe nawe nonke. Nangona ukucatshulwa kukucacileyo, kuyafana nawuphi na umntu oye wahlala kwindawo yakho.
- Musa ukuhla ukuya kumgangatho we-boor, ungazami ukuhlambalaza ngokuphendula. Wena ungumntu onobuqili, lo mkhuba awuyinto eyinqaba kuwe, kwaye uhlale eziphatha njalo. Ukuba ubandakanyeka kwingxabano, i-boor ifumana uloyiso kunye nokwaneliseka, kwaye unomsindo kuphela kwaye uhlazo malunga nento oyithethileyo.
Yimnandi kangakanani impendulo yokunyaniseka?
Ukulwa nokunyaniseka kuyaphumelela kuphela kwimeko ethile - ukuba awuyi kulahlekelwa ukuzithiba. Kwaye umlindi uyalindela oku kuwe. Kodwa ukuba ibhola liyabona ukuba amazwi akhe ayinayo impembelelo kuwe, iya kumnquba ngaphandle kwenkqubo, uya kulahlwa yimeko. Ngoku kulula kakhulu ukujamelana nayo - ngokwaneleyo ukumangaliswa okanye ukude udibaniswe ngenyathelo elingalindelekanga okanye ibinzana onokucinga ngalo kwangaphambili.
Kwakhona, ukuba uphumelele ngempumelelo, kubalulekile ukuba ucinge ngezizathu zokuziphatha kakubi komdlali. Zingahluka ngokuxhomekeka kwimeko ojongene nayo.
Ukugqithisa emsebenzini. Ukuba unesiqhelo kumntu osebenza naye, oku kuya kuqhathaniswa nokukhwabanisa okuqhelekileyo kwaye kufuneka ulwa nalo. Kodwa xa abaphathi bexhala, nayiphina impendulo ifakwe nemiphumo. Ukuba ufanele ukuxubusha okunjalo-le nto enye, ke kufuneka uphulaphule uze uqhube kwingxoxo eyakhayo. Ukuba, ngombono wakho, oku kwenzeka kwangoko, zama ukuchonga ngokuthe ngqalelo kwiziphathamandla izizathu zesimo sengqondo esinjalo. Mhlawumbi waba yixhoba le-intrigue yeofisi, okanye into ongaqondi kakuhle.
Ukugqithisa ekuthuthweni, njengomthetho, yiyona nto ingabonakaliyo. Mhlawumbi uhamba phezu kwonyawo lomntu, kodwa akumele uphulaphule amabango akhe emva kokuba axolise. Kwaye kwenzeka njalo-wenyuka kwinqanaba lakho kwaye uqalekisiwe. Umbhalo wangempela wabakhonkco. Zama ukucinga ukuba ubomi buvela njani kumntu, ukuba akunakukwazi ukuzilawula. Ukubukela okunesihawu kuya kuphazamisa umdlali.
Ukunyaniseka kwezindlu. Unokuphinda uchithe kwivenkile, kumgca ugqirha nakweyiphi iziko lombuso. Kwimeko yokugqibela, kuyingozi kakhulu ukuba ungalungiseleli intlanganiso. Zama ukuqokelela ulwazi kwangaphambili kwimeko ofuna ukuyicombulula ngayo, ngoko akukho mntu uya kukwazi ukulusebenzisa ngokungazi.
Ukunyaniseka kwintsapho, mhlawumbi, kukuchaphazela kakhulu, kuba abantu abasondeleyo bayazi kakuhle indlela onokucaphukisa ngayo kwaye kwi-fuse ingayisebenzisa. Ukuba uyaphendula ngomoya ofanayo, ngoko konke kuya kugqitywa kwinqanaba. Kusebenza ngakumbi
Buqili. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ubugcisa bukhubekisa umntu ngokukhawuleza kangangokuthi akaqapheli, kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, alitshintshi uhlobo lwalo mcimbi. Ukuba ufuna ukuphendula ngokwaneleyo ukunyaniseka, kuya kufuneka ukuba ibe yincinci kwaye ibe yincinci.