Kwaye iindoda zakudala zathi ivakalelo elingaqhelekanga nelingalindelekanga kunalo uthando. Ezinye zeentolo zakwa-Amur zihlaba ngokukhawuleza kunye nentliziyo, ngoxa abanye, ukuze bazuze isiqingatha sabo sesibini, kufuneka benze umzamo omkhulu kule ...
Kodwa, apha, kwenzeke kanye nawe. Wathandana! Ungowona mhle kunabo bonke, owona mnqabileyo kwaye onothando. Ngelinye igama, nguye kuphela owake wawabona kumaphupha akho ixesha elide, kodwa, alas ... akayi kubonakala kwindlela yakho. Yintoni endiyenzayo? Indlela yokwenza umfana athande nothando naye, ngaphandle kokuthabatha ukuthanda amasiko kunye nemilingo?
- Chaza injongo. Okokuqala, kufuneka uqikelele ngokucacileyo ukuba yintoni oyifunayo kwizinto zamaphupha akho. Uthi, umzekelo, ndifuna ukuthandana nomfana, ukuze ndizibonakalise ukuba ndiyakwazi ukudlala indima yomculi obulalayo. Okanye: Ndifuna ukunqoba intliziyo yakhe, kuba ndiqinisekile ukuba unesiqingatha sesibini, kwaye andinakukucinga nje ngobomi bam ngaphandle kwakhe. Ukusuka endleleni ophendula ngayo lo mbuzo, iindlela ezongezelelweyo zomzabalazo ziya kuxhomekeka. Ukuba lo lulo thando, ngoko ke lufanelekile ukulwa nolonwabo lwakho, ukuba nje ubuthathaka bemizuzu, cingisisa ngokufanelekileyo - ngumdlalo owufanele ikhandlela?
- Fumana amanqaku afanayo oqhagamshelwano. Iingcali ezininzi zeengqondo kumbuzo wokukhawuleza ukuthandana nomfana, ziyacetyiswa, okokuqala, ukuqala ngokukhangela iimfuno eziqhelekileyo. Ukuba usuqhelisile, kuya kuba lula ukuphumeza eli gatya lesicwangciso, ngakumbi ukuba ubonisa ukukhohlisa kunye nobuchule. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba into yokuthanda amava ngumfundi ofunda naye okanye osebenza naye, qhagamshelana nayo nayiphi na isicelo. Ndixelele ukuba unconywe kuye njengomprofeti ophezulu / ingcali kwikhompyutheni / yeprogram / ye-teknoloji yeselula / ingcali kunye nokuchaza ukuba yena kuphela unokukunceda ekuxazululeni ingxaki yakho (cinga oku kwangaphambili). Kwimeko efanayo, ukuba awuqhelanga, xela ukuba uqhuba uphononongo / uphando / ukubhala iphrojekthi yesazi, kwaye uluvo lwakhe lubaluleke kakhulu kuwe.
- Bonisa umdla wakho kuyo. Enye yezona ndlela zisebenzayo ezibizwa ngokuba "njani ukuwela ngothando nomfana?" Uvakala ngathi - umbonise ukuba uyakhathalela. Kodwa kulo mzekelo, into ephambili akuyikuyidlula. Akuyimfuneko ukumjonga ngeenja-njengaye, amehlo athembekileyo, aphinda aphinda athi akulungele yonke into. Mcebisa - ukujonga ngokukhawuleza phantsi kwe-eyelashes, ukumomotheka, ibinzana eliphosakeleyo ngengozi - ukuba unomdla kuwe, kodwa akukho nto. Mbonise kuye ukuba unganamathele kakhulu kule mvakalelo (nangona kungenjalo), okuqinisekileyo kuya kuvusa kuye inzondelelo yokuzingela kunye nomnqweno wokubonakalisa ukuba uyakufanelekela ukunyaniseka kwakho.
- Yasebenza. Unokuthandana njani nomfana ngexesha elifutshane kwaye kunokwenzeka? Kunokwenzeka, nangona kuya kufuna umzamo omkhulu. Kule meko kufuneka kusetshenziswe iinqwelo ezinkulu. Mema ngosuku. Ukuze ithuba lokuba impendulo enhle ibe phezulu, menze umnikelo, apho angeke akwazi ukuwenqaba. Ukuba ungumdlali webhola lebhola, ke uthi ngengozi yenzeke ukuba ube ngamatikiti amabini kumdlalo okanye wena ngelixesha lenkcenkcesha waba ngumnikazi wokubhaliselwa kweenyanga ezimbini kwiindawo zokuzivocavoca okanye iklabhu yebhokisi, kwaye akukho namnye oya kuhamba naye.
Kwaye ezinye iingcebiso, indlela yokuwa nomthandana kunye nomntu omdala ixesha elide.
- ngemihla, soloko uphulaphule ngaphezu kwakho. Mbuze imibuzo, umkhuthaze ukuba athethe okungakumbi ngaye. Ngenxalenye yakho, thintela i-monologists ende kwaye ungalokothi uphazamise;
- inzululwazi eyaziwayo yokukhwabanisa - umbuzo kumbuzo othi "njani ukuwela ngothando nomfana?" icebisa ukunikela ingqalelo ngokukhawuleza kwizixhobo ezifihlakeleyo zokukhohlisa: isenzo, isenzo, ubuso, uchukumisa. Ngoncedo lwabo, zama ukwenza umfanekiso wakho ungacacisekanga kwaye unganakwenzeka;
- akukho nanye ityala. Nangona ubeka iinjongo, thandana nomfana ngeveki, ungambizi imihla ngemihla, uchaze malunga neemvakalelo zabo. Biza kanye, emva koko "ulahlekelwe emehlweni" iintsuku eziliqela, umnike ithuba lokulibala ixesha lakho.
Ukuqwalasela konke oku ngasentla, kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba akukho nto, kwaye impela impendulo echanekileyo kumbuzo othi "Indlela yokwenza umfana athande ngothando?", Njengoko indlela eyona ndlela iphumelelayo yokuphumelela umthandi ukusixelela kuphela intliziyo yethu. Ngoko, musa ukulibala ukuliphulaphula.