I-slang ye-Youth yasetyenziswa ngamazwi amaninzi aseMpumalanga. Nantsi igama eliqhelekileyo lomhlobo womhlobo, eliguqulelwe kwisiRashiya njengengingqi "yabahlobo", luzinzile ngokwayo kwaye lubhekiselele kulwalamano lwesini. Yiyiphi iFrenchzone - kweli nqaku.
Friendzona - yintoni le?
Njengaminyaka emininzi edlulileyo, ngoku kwaye phakathi kwintombazana kunye nomfana kunokuba imeko apho umntu efihlakeleyo okanye ngokucacileyo othandweni, kwaye enye ibona nje ngomhlobo. Umhlobo wezona ziimeko apho umthandi egcinwa khona umgama othile, engafuni ukuhamba, kodwa engasondeli naye. Le ntombazana ithumela kwindawo yothandwa bonke abafana bakhe abangenalo inomdla kuye, kodwa ezi zilandelayo zingenakwenzeka, kodwa zinokuthi zone kunye nokuxhaphaza iimvakalelo zomntu wesini esahlukileyo.
Iimpawu zeengubo zengubo
Kukho imiqondiso ethile kunye neempawu eziphathekayo zokuziphatha kwento yokubonisa uvelwano, okuya kubonisa ngokucacileyo ukuba uyayibona njani umthandana othandana naye. Abo banomdla kwindlela yokuqonda ukuba ungowesiFulentszone, kufuneka uqaphele ezi zinto zilandelayo:
- Ngeeminqweno kunye neenjongo zakho, akukho mntu ubala, kodwa i-caprices yakhe ithande into ebonisa ngokuzithandela. Intombazana inokucela i-ice cream nge-2 am, ngaphandle kokucinga ukuba umfana nje ufuna ukulala, kunye nabameli bezesondo eziqinileyo zesono abayithandayo ukubiza ebusuku "i-podshofe" kunye nokukhala kwi-waistcoat.
- Yiyiphi i-Friendzone kwaye nokuba ukhona kuyo kulula ukuyiqonda ngendlela into enomdla ekukubona ngayo nento itshiyo ngayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntu unokuva amagama anjengokuthi: "Wena ungumhlobo omkhulu", "Uza kuthatha umntu kunye nesithandwa / intombi", "Unobumnandi, unobumnandi, unomusa, unesihawu", njl njl.
- Xa uhamba ngokuzithandela "ngomhla" - kwi-cafe, i-movie, i-theater, kodwa xa uzama ukusondela, bayakunqumla, banciphise yonke ihlaya, bahumushe isihloko kunye nokukhululeka kwabo bavumelayo-ukubamba esihlathini.
Indlela yokwahlula i-frendzonu kwivelwano?
Xa abantu bathandana ngokwenene kwaye banomdla komnye nomnye, oko kukuthi, bavelana, bayabelana. Umntu akasisebenzisi umthandi kuwo ngenxa yeenjongo zobugovu kwaye akawusebenzisi kakubi isimo esinjalo. Imvakalelo yakhe kunye neminqweno iyaqwalaselwa, umdla uboniswa kumacala omabini. U-Friendzona ebudlelwaneni obuhlukileyo novelwano ngento yokuba uthando aluqwalaselanga iimvakalelo zabanye kwaye unokukwazi ukumlimaza, ukuxoxa naye ngabantu besini esahlukileyo, isidima sabo kunye neziphene. Intombazana / inkwenkwezi iyazi ukuba bayamthanda, kodwa ibonisa ukungakhathali.
Friendzona - kulungile okanye kubi?
Ukususela kwimbono yento enothando, oku kulungile, kuba kukho ithuba lokufumana uncedo lwamahhala, "ukukhululeka" ukuchitha ixesha elikhululekile kumaziko okuzonwabisa, kwaye ungaziva unesizungu. Indawo ekhutheleyo iya kuba yintlekele yangempela kumthandi. Umntu uhluphekile, uyabuhlungu, kodwa akalindelanga ukuphula le lamano, kuba lonke ixesha unethemba lokuba baya kukhula baba yinto engaphezulu. Uyaqonda ukuba uyasetyenziswa, kodwa akukho nto enokuyenza ngayo.
Indlela yokuziphatha kwiFrenchzone?
Enyanisweni, akuxhomekeke kumthandi, kuba i-fiddle ephambili ebudlelwaneni idlalwe kwicala eliphambene. Ukuba umntu uthandana okwenene, uya kunyamezela yonke into, athwale, azalise i-whims aze alinde umzuzu xa umfana / intombazana uya kuwuqonda. Kulabo bacela ukuba benzeni ukuba uFrenchzone, unokuthi yonke into iya kuxhomekeka ekubeni umthandi ulungele ukufunda inyaniso okanye nokuba kungcono ukukhohliswa nangakumbi. Oku kuya kukwenza izenzo zayo.
Awukwazi ukungena kwiFrenchzone?
Awukwazi ukuyalela intliziyo, kwaye uthando luza ngaphandle kokubuza, kodwa kukho uhlobo olunjalo lwabafana kunye namantombazana apho abantu abangenabuhlungu abaye bangena kwi-Friendzone bahlala bephosakele. Njengomthetho, zikhangeleke kakuhle, zigqoke imfashini kwaye zihlala zihlaziyekile. Ngomphefumlo wenkampani, bajika ngokulula nabantu, kodwa ngelo xesha bayazibonakalisa ngokuzikhukhumeza, ukuzingca, i-narcissism, ize.
Ngaphantsi kaninzi umntu uziphatha ngale ndlela kuba "utshiswe" ebomini kwaye uyesaba ukuphindaphinda ubudlelwano obuhlulekile. Ukuze uqonde ukuba ungangena njani intombazana entombazana, kufuneka ukhangele ngenyameko kwaye ufumanise ukuba yintoni eyenza ukungafuni ukuhambelana. Mhlawumbi nje ulindele ukubonakalisa ngokucacileyo nangokuvulekileyo iimvakalelo zakhe, ubungqina obwenene bokuthandana nothando.
Indlela yokuphuma kwikhondom?
Kukho iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuvumela umntu obathandayo azi ukuba awuyiyona into yokudlala kwaye unelungelo lokuthandana kunye nolwalamano oluqhelekileyo. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, oku kungcono kunokungazi kwaye uthuthuke, ubandezeleka, uqaphela ukuba usebenzisa nje iinjongo zakho. Indlela yokuphuma kwinqanaba le-touchdown ayidluli, kodwa ikhupha umthandi, inika ithuba lokuziva ukhululekile kwaye uvule ubudlelwane obutsha.
Unokuphuma njani kwintombi intombazana?
Abameli bezesondo ezifanelekileyo bangazama iindlela ezilandelayo:
- Yeka ukuphendula kwiifowuni zobusuku, kwaye ukuba uthatha ifowuni, ngoko nje ukuba uthe wedwa kwaye awukwazi ukuthetha.
- Umbuzo obalulekileyo, indlela yokuphuma kwiFrenchzone , unokucetyiswa ukuba uzame ukulinganisa iinjongo zomntu othandekayo. Sele usufunde kakuhle, uyazi oko kukulindele kubasetyhini. Unokubonisa izakhono zakho zokutya, uthando lwabantwana, ukunakekelwa. Kukho onke amathuba ukuba intsha iyakubheka ngamehlo ahlukileyo.
- Shintsha ukubonakala kwakho. Ukutshintsha i-hairdress kunye nesitayela seengubo, ukukhula kuncinci, ukuba kukho ubunzima obunzima.
- Yiba ngumntu ongaqondakaliyo, umama, ongenakufumaneka. Ukuze ihlale ihluke - into evukile kwaye ijabule, ngamanye amaxesha ixakekile kwaye icinge.
- Ukuphuhlisa nokukhula. Kulo mntu akazange akhathazeke nawe, kufuneka ufumane izihloko ezintsha zeengxoxo. Funda incwadi uze uxubushe intsingiselo ngayo, ubhalisele isangqa okanye uthathe izifundo. Kumele aqonde ukuba uthatha ibalulekileyo, kodwa akuyona indawo yokuqala ebomini bakho. Kufuneka ube neenjongo zakho.
Unokuphuma njani kummandla onobungane kumntu?
Ukuze ube nokuqala ukuthanda ukuphatha njengentombi, kufuneka wenze oku okulandelayo:
- Yiba ngumntu wokwenene-ukwanelisekile nokuzithemba. Musa ukugubha, ungagxininisi, ungakhangeli isihloko kwincoko. Bonisa iimpawu zakho ezilungileyo, bonise izakhono, ngakumbi ukuba uyazi ukuba intombi yakho iyabaxabisa.
- Ukucela ukuba uphume njani kwi-friendlyzone uze uqale ukutshatana, unokucebisa ixesha elithile kwintsimi yakhe yombono, vumela into enqwenelekayo ukuba ucinge ukuba uthetha ntoni kuye kwaye ulahlekelwa njani. Inokusebenza, ukuba kukho uM Friendzone emva kwesondo. Umhla wokuqala osondeleyo udla ngokukhawuleza, ngokukodwa ukuba umfana wayekhathazekile.
- Ukuthi i-frendzona yindlela nendlela yokujongana nayo, unokuzama ukwenza umona kwintombazana. Ukutsho ukuba badibana neyona nto, kwaye xa kunjalo, kuboniswa ngokucacileyo ukuba nobudlelwane bomntu onelungelo.
- Funda ukuthetha kakuhle, kuba abafazi bathanda ngeendlebe zabo. Kwaye izazi zengqondo zithi indoda eyakwazi ukumenza ihleke, lo mfazi uya kufikelela ekupheleni kwehlabathi. Ukuphuhlisa umva .
- Ukuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo into enomdla kwaye ufumane yonke into. Le ndlela ifanelekile kubafana kunye namantombazana.
Iimifanekiso ngeFrenchzone
Umxholo wothando olungathandabuzekiyo udla ngokusetyenziswa ngabafilimu emhlabeni jikelele. Imizobo edumileyo iquka:
- "Ungenakufumana" umlawuli uJuri Chulyukin . Ifilimu evelele yeSoviet. Umlingisi oyintloko wabamba ibheyili ababini osebenza naye kwivenkile, ababefuna ukukholisa intombazana enhle, kwaye wayethanda enye.
- "Ngenye imini" elawulwa yiLone Scherfig . Frendzona kwiifilimu ezenziwe ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Kulo mfanekiso, isibini sasihlala sihlobo iminyaka engama-23, satshata. Yaye nangona ukuphela kwefilimu kuyingozi, uyasifundisa ukuba singayeki kwaye sikholwe ukuba uthando luya kunqoba zonke izithintelo kwanokufa.
- "Ngaphezu kothando" olulawulwa nguNigel Cole . I-protagonist kunye ne-heroine baqhelana kwi-cabin ye-moya kunye neminyaka emininzi banxibelelana, baxhasana, bahlala behlobo. Kamva, bayaqonda ukuba badibene nento engaphezu kohlobo nje.