I-Bachelor, oku akuthethi ukuba umntu unesizungu, hayi, unokuthi abe nolwalamano, kodwa umelane ngokupheleleyo nomtshato. Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko, kuba onke amantombazana aphupha ngokugqoka iingubo ezimhlophe ezimhlophe kunye nokuba ngu-mfumukazi kusihlwa.
Okokuqala, mhlawumbi awuzange ucinge nangalo mbuzo, kuba konke kulungile, hlalisa kunye kunye nesitampu kwipasipoti ayibalulekanga. Kodwa ixesha lifikile xa umbuzo othi "Umtshato uphi?" Kusuka kubahlobo kunye nezihlobo zivakala ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuthi "Uphi na?", Kwaye ibonakala ilungele ukuba uyakuthanda kwaye ufuna ukuhlala nawe ubomi bakhe bonke, kutheni engena emadolweni akhe Ungathethi othanda kakhulu "Woza kum"? Yonke into yokuba intanda yakho iyinto eqinisekisiweyo, kodwa kusekho ithuba lokuyitshintsha.
Izindlela ezidumileyo kunye nokusetyenziswa
- Indawo yokuqala kule ndlela yokulinganisa iyindlela "engcolileyo" yokukhulelwa. Ngesizathu esithile, abaninzi abafazi bacinga ukuba le ndlela ibe yinto elula, kodwa nanko kunethuba elikhulu lokuva amazwi anelisayo kuwo onke amabhinqa: "Thatha imali kwaye wenze isisu" okanye, unokuthi ukubonakala komntwana akuyi kuphazamisa nayiphi na isigqibo sakhe malunga lomtshato. Ngenxa yoko, umntwana uyipropati yokuxhaphaza, kungekudala ulonwabo olulindele.
- Emva koko enye indlela ethandwayo iyisimboli. Kodwa apha konke kuxhomekeke ekucingeni kwakho. Yonke into ingaqala ngento encinci "Musa ukutshata ndize ungalalani ngesondo" okanye "Musa ukutshata ndifumane omnye," ngokubanzi, sebenzisa zonke iindlela ezikhoyo, kodwa khumbula, into ephambili apha akuyikuyidlula. Kwaye ke, zonke iifasitelithi ezinjalo kufuneka zihambisane ne-hysteria kunye neinyembezi. Le ndlela ifanelekileyo kwabasetyhini abangenandaba nokuzikhukhumeza kwakhe , kuba indoda kufuneka ifune ibhinqa, kwaye ingeyona nto.
- Ngamanye amaxesha umntu uvalwe kuphela ngobuvila , akabonakali engqondweni ukuqinisa ubudlelwane, kodwa akafuni ukulungiselela ukubhiyozela nonke. Kule meko, uya kuncedwa ngesibambiso sokufunga sokuthatha yonke intlangano ngaphandle kwaye ungekucela uncedo.
- Abaninzi bazama ukufumbathisa umntu omthandayo ngezithembiso zokuthi, umzekelo, abazali bakhe baya kuthenga indlu yabo okanye banokuthenga imoto abaye bayiphupha iminyaka emininzi. Le ndlela izakuchaphazela kuphela amadoda abanobukrakra okanye i-gigolos, kwaye abanye bayakukhubeka ngoku.
- Zama ukuya kude. Kwamanye amaxesha, kumxelela ukuba kuya kuba kuhle ukuthatha njani umtshato, kodwa oku kuthethwa ngako konke kungekhona. Ngoko, kufuneka uqhube umthandi wakho kwisinyathelo esibalulekileyo.
- Mnike umzekelo wabangane abatshatileyo. Makhe abone ukuba bayonwabile ngokwenene emtshatweni kwaye ngandlela-thile isitampu kwipasipoti yabo ayizange ithinteke. Ngaloo ndlela, umzekelo womhlobo unokumqhubela kwisinyathelo esinqabileyo.
- Enye indlela ephumelelayo kukubonisa ukuba awunayo yonke into, ukuze yena ngokwakhe afune ukuthatha le nyathelo. Udinga ukugxila kwinto yokuba ungumfazi okhululekileyo onelungelo lokwenza oko akufunayo, umenze umona. Hamba
phuma kunye nabahlobo, hamba eholide, ngokuqinisekileyo ngaphandle kwakhe, mvumele ahlupheke aze acinge, mhlawumbi unomdla ngomnye umntu. Ukuba uyayithanda ngokwenene, kuya kubandakanya "indoda" kwaye uya kufuna ukuba ube yedwa kunye nobomi.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuba akalungele ukutshata, ngoko akukho mfuneko yokukhawuleza. Umntu ngamnye unomnqweno wokwakha intsapho, awona maninzi aphikisana naloo nto, kodwa kungekudala okanye emva koko imvelo iya kuthatha yona kunye nexesha elingaze likulindeleke lona liya kuba ngamadolo elinye kwaye ekugqibeleni licele isandla kunye nentliziyo. Kule meko ukuba uya kuziva ulonwabo ngokwenene, njengoko uya kukwazi ukuba wakwenza ngentliziyo ehlambulukileyo, kungekhona ngenxa yokuba wayeva isongelo kunye nosuku.