Wonke umntu uye wabhekana nanini okanye othandweni, okanye umva wothando. Kodwa kukho izihlandlo ebomini xa uzibuza "indlela yokuqonda ukuba uyayithanda" kwaye uqale ukugqithisa ilayibrari yonke, uzama ukufumana inkcazelo kwimfundiso yeengqondo kunye nefilosofi.
Masizame ukuqonda indlela yokuqonda ukuba uyamthanda umntu, ukwahlula uthando nothando.
"Andiyiqondi - uthando okanye akunjalo?"
I-Psychoanalysts, izazi zengqondo zifuna ukufumanisa iimfihlelo zombini kunye nomzimba womntu, ukuqonda kwayo uthando.
Ngaphambi kokuba uqonde ukuba uyamthanda umntu, kufuneka ufune ukuba yintoni uthando nothando.
Ngoko, uthando luyakwazi ukuba luphantsi okanye lendalo. Kubomi bomntu wonke, kwakukho uthando lwendalo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kwakukho ngexesha lomntwana wobomi, xa uthanda uontanga okanye isithixo. Kwixesha elidala, uthando luhambelana nefantasy, amahomoni abantu malunga nokukhangwa kommeli wesini esahlukileyo. Into ebangel 'umdla kukuba umntu unokuthandana iminyaka emininzi.
Uthando, olwaluhlobo lomgangatho ongaphantsi, luphelisa intando yomntu, ingqondo yakhe. Ingqondo enamandla kangangokuthi ingazisa umntu ngothando lwezifo zengqondo, nangaphezulu - ngaphambi kokuzibulala.
Hayi, kodwa akukho sisayensi yothando. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba abaninzi abasandul 'ukutshata babengenalo ixesha lokuvumela uthando lwabo ebomini babo, babecala ukuba baqhawule umtshato, kodwa abazange bagxininise ukuba babengazi lutho ngothando.
Uyakuqonda njani ukuba uyamthanda umntu?
Igalelo ekuphuhliseni ulwazi ngoluthando, olungaqhelekanga njengoko lunokuzwakala, kodwa izazi zezinto eziphilayo, ezenza imisebenzi ehambelana nokufunda ngeengxaki zokuziphendukela kwemvelo. Bathetha ukuba kubantu abathandana ngokwenene, abantwana banempilo kwaye banokuphelela. Kwaye oku kubonisa ukuba uthando luhlobo lwezityalo.
Makhe sinike umzekelo wempawu onokuyiqonda into oyithandayo ngokwenene, ungayithandi.
- Uyazi ngeziphene zomntu wakho, kodwa uyaziqonda kwaye uzixolele.
- Ungavali kwilizwe langaphandle. Oko kukuthi, uthando, ngokungafani noluthando, alusebenzi ngokugqithiseleyo.
- Awuyiki ukuhlukana.
- Uthando luvakalelwa ngolu hlobo.
- Ukhululekile, ukhululekile xa usondelene nomthandayo
- Uthando nosizi, ukuxinezeleka akuyiyo imixholo ehambelanayo.
"Ndaqonda ukuba ndiyathanda"
Kodwa, ukuba kwenzeka njalo ukuba wena, nangona uthandwayo okwangoku, uqaphele ukuba unemvakalelo yexesha lakho elidlulileyo, sincoma ukuba ulahlekelwe umlutha kwiimbongo. Khumbula ukuba kufuneka uhlale namhlanje kwaye uyayixabisa into onayo. Fumana iinkalo ezintle kwindawo yakho.
Ngoko, wonke umntu unako uthando. Ukwenza oku, into ephambili kukuthatha isigqibo sokuvumela uthando kwindawo yakho.