Enye yezona zinto zixutyushwa kakhulu ngamaxesha onke nokuba ngaba ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Bobabini abafazi abancinci kunye nabameli be-half half strong of humanity like to talk about it, kwaye zingaphi iinyembezi eziye zanyulwa xa zizama ukubonakalisa intanda ukuba umhlobo wabantwana ungumhlobo kuphela kwaye akukho nto. Kwaye ngenxa yesizathu esithile, sisiqingatha sethu sesibini esihlala sithembeka kwaye sivakalise ukuba ubuhlobo bomntu nomfazi buhlala rhoqo njengoko kudla ukufumana ukutshabalalisa. Ngaba ubuhlobo obunokwenzeka phakathi kwendoda kunye nomfazi, okanye ingenye enye inkolelo, i-debunking eya kuhamba kuphela ngenzuzo yoluntu? Siphendula iingcebiso kwiingcali kwimiphefumlo yabantu - iingqondo zeengqondo.
Iingcamango zengqondo
Ingqondo yebuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi yinto ebalulekileyo yokucinga, kuphela into yokuba izazinzulu zicinga ngale ngxaki ixesha elide kwaye ngoku zinethuba lokunika impendulo engapheliyo nangakumbi kumbuzo osithandayo: "Ngaba kukho ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi?". Iingcali ziphendula ngathi ubuhlobo obunjalo bunokwenzeka, kodwa amabini omabini kulo manyano aphishekela iinjongo zabo. Kwaye kaninzi siqaphele okanye ayikho, sijonga umngane wethu njengomlingane wesini, uhlehlisiwe "kwindawo egcinwe kuyo." Ngoko umbuzo othi "kutheni umntu enxulumene nomfazi?", Izazi zeengqondo, zininzi, ziza kuthi ubala ngokumisa ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, kunokuba uqhubeke nobudlelwane obungenabugovu. Nangona kunjalo, oomama nabo bashiye kule ntlonipho kubameli bexeshana eliqinileyo lomntu. Singakwazi ukusho njengoko sifuna ukuba umhlobo ungumhlobo kuphela, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo, ubuncinci kanye kanye phezu kwethemba lokudlulisa ubudlelwane kumgangatho ohlukeneyo. Kodwa isigqibo esithathwe njengesiphumo sale mifanekiso sibone uhlobo lwentsebenziswano yethu kule nqanaba. Kodwa konke oku akuthethi ukuba kukho konke ubungqina obungathandekiyo phakathi komntu kunye nomfazi ongenakwenzeka, oku kuqinisekiswa yimpoposho yezenzo ezenziwa. Kwaye, ngokwenene ngubani na ongayiphendula loo mbuzo onzima, njani abantu abaye bahlala kwiimeko ezifanayo?
Kodwa njani ngokwenene?
Uphando lwezenhlalakahle luqhutyelwe kumxholo wobuhlobo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Iziphumo zifanelekela ingqwalasela, malunga nama-70% abantu abaphenduliweyo bakholelwa ukuba ubuhlobo obunjalo bukhona kwaye, ngaphezu koko, bawumzekelo obonwabileyo wobuhlobo. Kuyathakazelisa ukuba abantu abaneminyaka yobudala banokukhutshwa ngokukhawuleza kobuhlobo obunjalo, kunye nabasetyhini, ngokuchaseneyo, kuphela bakholelwa kukho. Kodwa abamele bobabini besini baxabise ngakumbi ubudlelwane obunjalo, kuba uthando luya kuba ngumhla ngemihla, inzondelelo ibe ngumkhwa, kwaye ubuhlobo buya kusenza singatshintshi. Ewe, imbali yebini nganye yedwa, umntu wakwazi ukugcina ubungane emva kokuphela kwendabuko, umntu wayithwele ubomi, kwaye umntu emva kokubonakala kwentsapho engakwazi ukuqhubeka nokuthetha okunxulumene naye, kodwa ukhumbula ezo zihlandlo njengezinye ukusuka kwixesha elifanelekileyo lobomi bakhe. Kwaye abanye, beqala ngobuhlobo, ngoku bakha isiqabane esitshatileyo esitshatileyo, esele, kodwa ke, ngabahlobo abahle kakhulu.
Ngendlela, umbuzo othi "kutheni umntu enxulumene nomfazi?" Wabaza abo baxoxwa nabo ukuba bangabonakali, kodwa emva kokucinga, izizathu zikhoyo. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo abaphenduli baphendula lo mbuzo, bahlula kwiindawo ezimbini - ukuqala kobudlelwane kunye nomzuzu wamanje. Kwaye abaninzi baphendula ukuba ekuqaleni kobudlelwano bobuhlobo, babefuna ukubona umlingane wabo njengomthandi. Kodwa emva kwexesha