Kwimpilo yamantombazana amaninzi, kwakukho umdlalo wolu hlobo: luhle, lukhathalele, lube lukhulu ... kodwa luyalala emva kobusuku bokuqala kunye. Ngezihlandlo ezinjalo, onke amaphupha ayaphazamiseka ngokunyaniseka, kwaye izicwangciso ezingenangqiqo zenza umntu azive ephazamiseke. Siza kufumana indlela yokuziphindezela kumntu owakucaphukisayo.
Ungaziphindezela njani kumntu owawusebenzisa?
Amathuba okuphindezela awaninzi, ukuba uhlala kunye kunye ixesha elifutshane. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba impindezelo yenza uzive ungcono, kufuneka uzame zonke iindlela ezikhoyo.
- Ukuba uyayazi idilesi yekhasi lakhe kwintanethi yezonxibelelwano, ungasebenzisa uphinde wenze i-akhawunti ekhohlisayo yentombazana ethile. Ukusuka ebusweni bakhe, unokubhalela bonke abantombazana abanabo kubahlobo, into eya ku "xhatshaza" kuye: umzekelo, ukuba ungumthwali we-gonorrhea.
- Ukuba uyayazi inombolo yakhe yefowuni, unokumthumela imihla ngemihla kwi-intanethi yeSMS. Gwema ukusongela kunye nokuthuka, kunye nalokhu unokufaka isicelo kumapolisa.
- Indlela ephindaphindiweyo nangaphezulu yokuphindezela ukuqala ubudlelwane nomhlobo wakhe omhle. Kuza kubetha ngaphantsi kwebhanti, kodwa ngokukhawuleza umzamo uthatha kakhulu.
- Ukuba uyazi apho ahlala khona, ungamphonsa ileta ebhokisini yeposi kunye nezinambuzane - zithengiswa kwiindawo zokugcina izilwanyana ezidliwayo.
- Ukuba uyambona kwisitrato kwenye, unokuza uze umxelele ngaye into eya kumenza acinge kathathu ngaphambi kokuba uqale ulwalamano naye.
Izinketho zokuphindiselela umfana oye wakugxotha, kakhulu, into ephambili kukuba ukhethe enye engenzi nemiphumo emibi. Ngendlela, kuyafaneleka ukuphawula ngekamva: ukwenzela ukuba ungayiphenduli olo hlobo lonyango, kungcono ukuba ungayivumi kwixesha elizayo - ukungakholelwa kwiintetho ezithembekileyo nezithembiso, ukuba ungavumeli ukuba ukuxhamla kwenzeke ngokukhawuleza.
Indlela yokuziphindezela kumntu owayengumntu omhle?
Ngamanye amaxesha amabali alo hlobo anqabile. Umzekelo, umfana udibana nentombazana ngomnyaka, emva koko uya kwakuba yinto yangaphambili, kuba kwenzeka ukuba lo mfazi omtsha wayeyindlela yokulibala elidala. Kule meko, kulungile ixesha lokucinga indlela yokuphindezela ngayo umntu, ngenxa yokuba ezi ziqendu ziyeke iilonda ezinzulu.
Nangona kunjalo, impindezelo eyona nto iyona lonwabo . Ukuba ubona ukuba utyumbile ngaphandle kwakhe, unomdla obonwabisayo, ubukeka obuhle kunye nolwalamano oluqinileyo, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuba nokukhathazeka okukhulu kwengqondo kunokuba uthe wawa phantsi kwinqanaba lakhe uze wenze umququ.