Umda woluphi ulwalamano luvavanyo, kwaye abaninzi abadluliyo. Yingakho abesifazana bakhetha iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokufumana umntu ukuba azicabangele ngokwabo ukusuka kude, njengoko eli lihle ithuba lokugcina iimvakalelo kwaye ungalahleki. Omnye ukhetha ukusebenzisa izicatshulwa zengqondo, abanye bakhetha umlingo.
Unokumnyanzela njani umntu ukuba acinge ngawe ukusuka kude?
Njengoko uyazi, iingcamango ezijoliswe kwicala elifanelekileyo, ziyakwenza izinto ezimangalisayo. Umntu othandekayo akayekanga ukucinga, ngelixa, kude kube nzima ukuba wenze umsebenzi olula nsuku zonke. Ixesha elifanelekileyo lixesha apho into yokudumisa ibonakala ilele. Sidinga ukulala phantsi embhedeni, phumula, ususe yonke ingcinga kwaye uqale ukumela umfanekiso wesakhethiweyo. Kubalulekile ukuzama ukukhumbula yonke into kwiinkcukacha ezincinci, kuba, ngaphandle koko, ingqondo yenza indoda icinge ngawe, ayiyi kusebenza. Xa umfanekiso uphelele ngokupheleleyo, kufuneka ucinge ukuba uhamba njani emzimbeni wakhe kunye nokuqonda. Kubalulekile ukumela iimvakalelo zakhe. Isinyathelo esilandelayo kukumthumela ngengqondo imilayezo ecacileyo enxulumene nawe.
Ungalokothi wenze izinto ezinjalo ngexesha lokugula, kuba akusayi kubakho mphumo, kwaye uya kuchitha amandla akho. Ukongezelela, akunakwenzeka ukugxininisa kweli lizwe. Musa ukuxelela umntu malunga neenjongo kunye nezenzo zakho, njengoko akuyi kuba niphumo. Oku kuchazwa yinyaniso yokuba abanye abantu bacinga ukuba batshintshe ubuchule bamandla.
Indlela yokwenza indoda esatshatileyo okanye inkwenkwe icinge ngawe ngoncedo lomlingo?
Sebenzisa olu khetho olubophayo kuphela ukuba kukho inkolelo engaqinisekanga kwimiphumo emihle. Kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo ukuba umlingo unobungozi obunobungozi kwaye xa isetyenziswe ngokungafanelekanga, ngoko kunokwenzeka ukuba umonakalise umntu. Kukho iindlela ezininzi ezibophelelayo. Ngokomzekelo, unokuthatha isithunzi somntu okhethiweyo, apho uboniswa khona kunqeni, kunye nentambo ebomvu. Kulo mfa nekiso, kufuneka ubhale amagama akho uze uyibeke intliziyo kwindoda ngakwesobunxele kwisifuba. Ngethuba le, kufuneka uxoke iqhinga lokufumana umntu ukuba acinge ngawe ukusuka kude,
"I-Privorot, yenza, ngoko undithande, oh (igama lomfana), unyana kaThixo. Intliziyo yakho inxulumene nam nakusasa. Khawucinge ngam, uzive entliziyweni, othandekayo (igama lomfana). "
Esinye isithethe esisebenzayo kukukwenza umntu obathandayo acinge ngawe. Ukuze uphumelele udinga ukunyuswa kwe-melissa - isityalo esisetyenziselwa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuthanda. Kufuneka uvuke ngaphambi kokuntwela kokusa, hlamba ukunyuswa kwakho kwaye uyisele. Ngeli xesha kubalulekile ukucinga ngomntu, kwaye emva koko kubalulekile ukuthetha la mazwi:
"Vuka, vuka, umlilo wothando! Fly kwi-heart beat beats. Makhe acinge ngam, vumela ingcamango yakhe ibe yidbhoni. "