Kubaqalayo, masithi, njani ukungabonisana nabafana (ngokukodwa) kunye namadoda (ngokubanzi).
- Ungazami ukubonakala ukhululeke kakhulu - ukuba awufuni ukubonwa njengento yokukhetha, onokuyenza "ixesha elihle".
- Ungacingi ngokukhululekile ngesondo-unokuthetha ngale nto kunye neqabane lakho xa ubuhlobo bakho sele buqine ngokwaneleyo. Ngoko ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ungakhange uzuze njani isihloko, ukusebenzisana namadoda (ngokukodwa ongaqhelekanga), gcina ulwimi lwakho kwisitshixo.
- Ekubeni sithetha ngolwimi - ebusweni babantu (kunye namadoda) soloko ujonga amazwi akho. Ngabahlobo okanye ngabahlobo onokuzibonakalisa njengento othanda ngayo, kodwa kunenzuzo kakhulu ukuba uxhumane nabafana (kwaye ndigxininisa eli gama) ngokuqhelekileyo ngolwimi lentombazana yaseTurgenev.
- Ungesabi ukubonakala ungcikivo okanye ubuyele kwaye ungacingi ngendlela ofuneka ngayo ukunxibelelana namadoda ukuba ufumane ingqalelo. Yiba ngowokuqala ukukhokelwa nguwe ngokwakho kunye nentuthuzelo yakho yokomoya kwaye uziphathe ngendlela engokwemvelo. Ngoko uya kuzinyanzela ukuba uhloniphe - isiseko esomeleleyo sobudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi akakwazi ukufumaneka.
Indlela yokufunda ukunxibelelana nabafana?
Ubungqingili bezakhono zobuntu nabesifazana bufana no-18% kuphela. sisabela ngokungafaniyo kwisiganeko esifanayo, cinga ngendlela eyahlukileyo kwaye uve ngokuhlukile. Ngoko ke, ukuba unomuvo wokuthi awukwazi ukuthetha kunye nabafana - makungabikho ukuphazamiseka kombuso, kuba uvakalelwa ngamawaka (kungabi ukusho - izigidi) zamantombazana kunoma iyiphi ikhonkco yoMhlaba.
Njani kwaye ndiyakwenza ntoni ukuthetha ngokuchanekileyo nendoda okanye umntu? Ngokuqinisekileyo, ukhetho oluvuyayo kukuba ube nesangqa sakho umntu ohlakaniphile (kungakhathaliseki ukuba uyindoda okanye umfazi). Naluphina umnxibelelwano naye unokuba nesifundo esihle kwindlela ekuhle ngayo ukuthetha kuphela nomfana, kodwa kunye nabantu ngokubanzi.
Mhlawumbi ulazi naye ohlala uguqulelana amagama? Ungabi namahloni ukumbuza malunga nendlela, ngoluvo lwakhe, amantombazana kufuneka adlulane nabafana? Buza uhlobo luni lwamantombazana (kunye nantoni) abahlobo bakhe baphatha ngentlonipho, kwaye (kwaye ngesizathu sini) baye bahlanganiswa "kwiintlobo ezimnyama". Ukwenza kube lula kuwe ukuba uqale le ngxoxo, qhubeka ukhumbula oku kulandelayo: kuboniswa ukuba amadoda achitha ixesha elingakumbi ekuhlekeleni kunokuba ngabafazi.
Ukuba ungevila, funda iincwadi ezilula malunga nokusebenza kwengqondo yabantu - kuya kukukunceda uqonde indlela yokunxibelelana nabafana. Ingcamango ilungile, kodwa i-skating uza kufunda kuphela xa uhleli kwezi zikhuphe. Kule meko, ngokuqinisekileyo, ukugwema nokuwa-ngamanye amaxesha kunzima kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, sithe satsho ukuba unxibelelwano, njengawo nawuphi na olunye isenzo, luphuculwe kwinqanaba lokuqeqesha ngokuqhelekileyo (ngokungathi le binzana alizange lisike iindlebe zethu).
Ngoko endaweni yokucinga malunga nendlela yokunxibelelana nabafana, kufuneka uqale uqale ukuthetha nabo - kwezo ndawo apho kunokwenzeka ngaphandle kwengozi yokungaqondwa kakuhle. Khangela yonke ingxoxo kunye nomfana njengoluhlobo loqeqesho kunye nekhono lokuphoqa ubuchule bokunxibelelana ngokuthe tye-akukho.
Ungaqala njani ukuthetha nomfana?
Ukumcela nayiphi na enye (ngaphandle kwentsingiselo!) Umbuzo - njani enye? Uya kufunda ukuthetha kunye nabafana (kunye nabantu ngokubanzi) xa ufunda ukubuza imibuzo enokuthi ibe yintetho engakumbi ingxoxo. Kwakhona-nokuphendula imibuzo enjalo.
Ukuba ngumbuzo wendoda oye waqalisa ulwalamano oluthile - ungaba neentlonelo zokumncoma ukuba udibanise ukuphazamiseka kokuthula. Ungumntu ophilileyo, ngoko ke mshiye ngokufanelekileyo ukuba naye abe neentloni, unwabe kunye nokudideka, kwaye uncede enze ukuba uqhagamshelwano lwakho lube lula.
Kungcono kakhulu ukunxibelelana nomfana?
Njengomntu, kunye nantoni na ngokubanzi, kufuneka udibanise ukuze aziva ukuba kukho umfazi phambi kwakhe. Awunakholwa kum, kodwa mhlawumbi kukuhle kukuchazela indlela yokunxibelelana nomntu ofanelekileyo, ugogo wakho unako.
Kutheni ndibhalela oku? Ngenxa yokuziphatha kwabasetyhini okanye amantombazana kukho izinto ezingenamsebenzi ezingapheliyo kangangokuba namhlanje zibanomdla amadoda afana nekhulu kunye nesiqingatha esidlulileyo. Ukuba unxibelelwano nogogo kunoma yiyiphi isizathu kunzima, mhlawumbi awuyi kuba novila ukuphinda ufunde ukuqala kwinqaku?