Ubundlobongela bentsapho ngumjikelezo oqhubekayo wokuxhatshazwa kwesinye iqabane phezu kolunye ubudlelwane obusondeleyo. Iyakunakunakwa kwaye ixesha elithile libhekiselele kwimiba emibi okanye impawu embi yeqabane, kodwa ukuba liphinda liphindaphindiweyo - lixesha lokulila i-alamu.
Into ebalulekileyo yombono wobundlobongela bentsapho kukuba yiziganeko ezininzi zeentlobo ezahlukeneyo zokuxhatshazwa. Ubundlobongela, ngokungafani nongquzulwano lwentsapho, luyi-systemic. Kwintliziyo yongquzulwano yinkxalabo ethile ekufuneka isombulule, kwaye ukuhlaselwa kwenzeka ukuba kulawulwe ngokupheleleyo kwiqela elimele. Nangona umxhaphazi angabiza ngezizathu ezininzi okanye ezingaphantsi kwezizathu zokwenza kwakhe, ngokwenene ukhuthazwa ngumnqweno wokubeka ngokupheleleyo ukulawula kwelinye lamalungu entsapho. I-Victimology yobundlobongela bentsapho ibonisa ukuba abafazi nabantwana baxhoba lobundlobongela bentsapho kaninzi. Yiloluhlu oluqhelekileyo alinalo amandla kunye nomlingiswa wokukhusela umtyholi kunye neengcinga. Ngelishwa, ngokuqhelekileyo umntu onjalo ungumyeni wesintu kunye noyise.
Iintlobo zobundlobongela basekhaya zingabelana ngezigaba eziliqela:
- Udlame loqoqosho. Isisombululo esizimeleyo semicimbi emininzi yemali, ukungavumi ukuxhasa abantwana, ukufihla imali engenayo, inkunkuma eyimfuneko yemali.
- Ubundlobongela ngesondo. Ngeyure yoxinzelelo lweentsapho, abayeni bahlala benomsindo ngesini nobudlova kumfazi okanye abantwana babo. Olu hlobo lobundlobongela luquka: uxinzelelo lwezesondo, ukunyanzelisa ubulili obungavumelekanga, ukunyanzelana ukuba nobuhlobo obusondeleyo nabantu abangaziwayo, abantwana nabasetyhini phambi koobuntu besithathu.
- Ubundlobongela bemvelo (ukubetha, ukucwenga, ukuphonsa, ukuphalaza, ukuxosha, ukubamba, ukulawula ukufikelela kwiinkonzo zonyango okanye zentlalo).
- Ubundlobongela beengqondo (ukuhlambalaza, ubundlobongela kubantwana okanye kwabanye ukubeka ingozi yokulawula, ukwesatshiswa ngogonyamelo ngokwakho, izilwanyana zasekhaya, umonakalo kwipropati,
ukudibanisa, ukunyanzelisa kwizenzo ezihlazo). - Ukusetyenziswa kwabantwana ukulawula ixhoba elidala (ukunyanzeliswa kwabantwana ngenxa yobundlobongela obungokwenyama, kwengqondo phezu kwexhoba elikhethiweyo, ukuphathwa kakubi nabantwana).
Amaxhoba obundlobongela bentsapho akufanele alinganise imeko enjalo. Nangona ukuzithemba akukuvumeli ukuba unqwenele ubomi obungcono, kufuneka uhlale ucela uncedo kubahlobo kunye nezihlobo. Kwaye kwezinye iimeko, arhente karhulumente kuphela anokunceda abo bawela phantsi kwengalo yomtyholi.