Kukho uluvo lokuba amadoda ayithandi abafazi abahlakaniphile. Nokuba ukwesaba kwabo, bayaziphepha kwaye abafuni ukuba nantoni na efanayo. Yingakho bakhetha amantombazana angalunganga. Kodwa phi ukufika kwabasetyhini abahlakaniphile kwaye ngaba kunjalo kunjalo? Masizame ukufumanisa.
Izifundo zibonisa ukuba inani elincinane labantu (malunga ne-35%) lucinga ukuba ingqondo yabesifazane ibe ngumgangatho omuhle, ngoxa ngexesha elifanayo ligxininisa ukuba abafazi babo kufuneka bahlale benokuthobeka kwaye banako ukuphulaphula umbono womyeni. Ukuba ucinga ngako, ngoko ngenxa yazo zonke iintshukumo ezikhoyo zamabhinqa, abafazi bahlala behlupheka kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba bafuna ukulingana namadoda, oku akunakwenzeka ukuba bancede bani na. Ngokomlando, umntu uzalisekisa umsebenzi wakhe, kwaye umfazi wakhe, ngokumelene nendalo, akakwazi ukunyathela, njengoko besithi. Umzabalazo oqhubekayo wendawo phantsi kwelanga kuholela ekudakaleni kwamacala omabini.
Kutheni abantu besaba abafazi abahlakaniphile?
Kulula kakhulu - ukwesaba ukungahambelani. Owesifazane ohlakaniphile uhlala, yonke indawo kunye nantoni kwinqanaba: umsebenzi, intsapho, ubomi. Kwenzeka nje ukuba abafana bafune ukuziva bephakamileyo kwaye kuyacaca ukuba xa eziva engakhululekile kwintombazana, ngoko akayivumeli kwilizwe lakhe. Ngako oko, abantu ababuthathaka kuphela babesaba ngabafazi abahlakaniphile. Kwaye kuphela abafazi abazizithulu-bahlale bezenza ukuba bahlakaniphile kakhulu. Ingqondo kule meko ayikho inkcazo yobulumko, kodwa kunoko ubulumko.
Indlela yokuba ngumfazi onobuqilileyo nobulumko?
Ngokuqhelekileyo intombazana ehlakaniphile inoxanduva, ayizivumeli ukuphumla, ihlala igcina yonke into elawulwayo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba nokuba ummeli ohlakaniphile kunabo bonke kufuneka abe nobuthakathaka obuthathaka: ngamanye amaxesha anikezela iimvakalelo kwaye ahlale esenza kwisicwangciso. Kwaye ke, ukuba umfazi ufuna indoda eselula yaye ikhululekile kunye - iya kunika iimbombo zolawulo kwizandla eziqinileyo zamadoda, kwaye ayiyi kubanga indawo yokubaluleka. Intombazana enjalo iya kumdumisa umntu akhethiweyo, ncokola naye, musa ukugxeka abantu, uzive umlinganiselo kwizinto zonke kwaye uzinelise.
Ibhinqa elumkileyo, ngaphezu kwayo yonke into, ibhinqa elumkileyo. Yaye loo ntokazi iya kuhlala ifumana ukuvisisana phakathi kwengqondo kunye nobubudenge.