Umlingiswa wendoda "enye iplanethi": kaninzi kunzima ukuqonda iimvakalelo zalo "mfokazi", ingakumbi ukuba uyazifihla. Nangona kunjalo, usenokuqonda, kuba kukho iimpawu ozithandayo umntu.
Ungayiqonda njani into oyithandayo?
Iingcali zengqondo zithi kukho impawu emininzi, kunye nabanye bethu siza kwaziyo:
- umntu othanda wena, unesidingo soqhagamshelwano ngaso sonke isikhathi, uqaphele iingxaki kunye neengxaki zobomi bakho kwaye unike uncedo ekuxazululeni;
- Ukuba awuhlali ndawonye, lungela "iintlanganiso" ezikufutshane nomnyango, indawo yomsebenzi wakho okanye isifundo;
- Ulungele ukukunika izipho "njengaye," ukuzalisekisa iiminqweno zakho kwaye unikele ngeendlela zokunxibelelana, apho unokuba yedwa ixesha elide kunokwenzeka.
Ubomi bethu buhluke, kwaye kwenzeka ukuba uqala ukunikezwa amanqaku okuqwalaselwa ngumntu otshatileyo. Ewe, akusibo bonke "zhenatiki" abakuxelela ukuba unconywa okanye uphonsa umlilo emva kokuthandana nawe, kodwa kukho imiqondiso yokuba uyathanda indoda esatshatileyo.
Nangona etshatile ...
Kufuneka kuqatshelwe ngokukhawuleza ukuba le miqondiso iza kuxhomekeka ngqo kulowo mntu ngokwakhe:
- Ukuba lo ngumntu owaziwa ngumfazi okanye, njengoko besithi nje, umfazi womfazi, ebusweni bakho uya kuzama ukujonga ngokugqithiseleyo, ehlekisayo, onobuqili. Kungenzeka ukuba uya kwenza ezinye iziphakamiso ongazithandiyo, ukumemema kwi-cafe, kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo-ukumema ukuba utyelele ngaphandle kokucingela ubudlelwane obukhulu ;
- ukuba ngumntu onzulu, ke kukho ezinye iimpawu ozithandayo umntu, kuquka nomnye osebenza naye. Uya kusebenza ngokukhawuleza ekuncedeni ekusebenzeni komsebenzi wakho, ukulala kunye nawe emva kokuphela kwenkonzo, ukulindela, ukubonisa umnqweno wokukubona ekhaya, ukunikezela ngeentyantyambo, ngelixa uzama ukufihla ngokucacileyo iimvakalelo zakho.
Kukho nezinye iimpawu eziza kukunceda ukuba uqonde ukuba uyamthanda umntu, ezi zenzo. Ubungqina bokuba awukhathaleli kuye, ukuba uyaphinda, iikopi zakho ezizithandayo okanye zendabuko, ukhangeleka entloni xa uzama ukubheka ngqo kuwo, uzama ukuthabatha isandla sakho kwaye uyigcine yakho.