Ungabuyisela njani umntu?

Efunyenwe rhoqo ngenxa yokuzaliswa kobudlelwane ukuba bahlale behlobo, ingakumbi umphumo ongenakwenzeka, ukuba ukuphulwa kwenzeka ngenxa yokunyaniseka. Yaye yintoni ehleliyo eyenzekayo, ukuba ungabuyiseli njani umntu owayengumntu wokuqala, ngenxa yentlungu ebangelwa kukungcatsha? Hayi, ewe, kukho enye indlela - ukuxolela nokukhulula, kodwa kubonakala kuthi kuthi kaninzi asivumelekanga, ngakumbi xa intukuthelo kunye nentlungu egazini.

Ngoko unokuziphindezela njani kumntu oyekayo? Okokuqala, kufuneka unqume ukuba ngaba unomnqweno wokuwubona ebomini bakho okanye ulwaphulo olupheleleyo kulwalamano. Ukuba kukho ithemba lokuvuselela ubudlelwane, ukuphindiselela akuyi kuba yindlela engcono kakhulu yokuphuma, ngoko uya kuqinisekisa ngakumbi ukuba umntu ochanekileyo kwisigqibo sakhe sokuphula kunye nawe. Kwaye wathini ukuba ugqibe ukuba awuyi kuba nekamva eliqhelekileyo, kwaye ukuba umnqweno wokuziphindezela ukuphikisana akalahlekanga, ngoko siyilungiselela umntu wokuqala "ubomi obonwabileyo."

Izindlela zokuziphindezela

1. Ukubetha kwixabiso eliphezulu kakhulu. Wonke umntu unayo "amathoyizi" athandwa ngokukhethekileyo entliziyweni yakhe - ikhompyutha, imoto, intandokazi. Yintoni enokuyenza nabo siza ngokuzimeleyo, kodwa sikwenza ukuze ukubonakala kwento kungekudala.
2. Mhlawumbi i-ex yakho ikhutshwe ngumsebenzi kunye negama lakho? Ngoko kulungele ukutshatyalaliswa. Ngokomzekelo, ukuthetha intliziyo ngentliziyo kunye nentombi yetiyane ukuxelela zonke "ezimbi" ezifihlakeleyo zomthengisi. Okanye wenze iifoto zakhe kwiindawo ezinxulumene noluntu ngokubanzi.
3. Ngaba wakho umhlobo unokuba nabahlobo? Ngoko mhlawumbi kuyafaneleka ukumnciphisa omnye wabo? Hayi, kungekhona ngokupheliswa komzimba, yintanethi kunye nomhlobo wakho omhle mhlobo.
4. Ngaba uyayazi intshisekelo yangoku yesoka lakho kumntu? Uyakwazi ukuthetha naye ngokubhinqa, uvelwano, njengomhlobo osibi. I-pier, indoda enhle kakhulu, kodwa sele ibuhlungu ngokungekho ngokwaneleyo kwaye ithathwe, ngokukhawuleza xa intombazana entsha ibona, ngoko akunakwenzeka ukugcina nayiphi na imikhosi. Emva koko, kubuya, uphenduke, kodwa ngezinye iinkalo kubangelwa, kuba ngokwenene bahlukana. Ewe, ewe, nguwe owayengumqalisi wekhefu, kwaye akazange akushiye.
5. Ngaba akukho nto inqwenelekayo yokubonakalisa ubuhlobo obusondeleyo kunye nomdlalo omtsha weqabane lakhe? Emva koko sifuna ukubamba umzuzu apho baya kuba kunye, ngokukhethekileyo kwindawo ephakamileyo, kwaye bazise ngokukhawuleza malunga nokungcoliseki kwabo, njengabantu (kanye kanye ngexesha, kwaye kaninzi akudingekile).

Ewe, ufumene njani indlela yokuba ube yinto enhle okanye ingaba yinkohlakalo ukuphindiselela kwintombi yangaphambili? Hayi, mhlawumbi intlungu kunye nokuxhalaba sele kuye kwahamba kancane kwaye uyakwazi ukucamngca ngokucokisekileyo? Khangela, zonke iindlela ezi ngasentla ziyakwazi ukunikela umoni wakho ixesha elibi, kodwa akakwazi ukukubeka ekukhanyeni. Ewe, kunye nenombolo enenjongo yokuphindezela, akunakwenzeka ukuba akulethe imvakalelo emihle, mhlawumbi uya kushiya emva kobukrakra nokucaphukisa ubuwula kunye nokunyamekela kwakhe. Ngaba kuyafaneleka ukuba uziqhekeze, mhlawumbi uzame ukuhlala ngaphandle kwalo mntu? Kwaye ukuze uphile kangangokuba ngokukhawuleza kwacaca kuye ukuba isenzo sakhe sikhululwe kuphela kwiikhonkco, sikuvumele ukuba ukhululeke. Ewe, kuya kufuneka senze imizamo. Ngokomzekelo, utshintshe umfanekiso, bhalisa kwindawo yokuzivocavoca okanye uzenzele umdlalo oye wahlala unomdla kuzo, kodwa ngandlela-thile izandla azizange zifikelele. Kuya kuba kuhle ukukhetha loo nto yokuzonwabisa, apho unikwe khona nkampani. Ngendlela, ngelixa i-ex-boy yakho yayisondele, ngaba ucinga ngomsebenzi? Akunjalo, ngoko ngoku ixesha. Yaye kunye namantombazana, sele ude uhamba kunye kunye, imihlangano engama-10 ngomzuzu wekofu ngexesha lokuphumla kwexesha lesidlo ayiqwalaselwa. Kwaye, ewe, ungaziphiki olo lonwabo, njengokuba udibana nabantu abatsha. Ewe, indoda enye iziphatha kakubi kuwe, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba wonke umntu unjalo.

Uza kuphi na ukubuyisela? Ngoko indlela enhle kunye nekhohlakeleyo yokuphindiselela kumntu onokugculelwa kukubonisa ukuba ngaphandle kwakhe awuhlali mbi ngakumbi, okanye mhlawumbi ungcono. Ncedisa ukutsala nokujonga kunye neefoto ezivela kumaqela, ezibekwe kwi-albhamu yezithombe zesidlangalaleni.