Indlela yokuhlangula umntu onokulilibaleka?

Kukho amanqaku amaninzi ngendlela enokumthanda ngayo umntu othandekayo, ngoko le nqaku ayikho into.

Apha uya kuboniswa ngeenketho ezininzi ukuchaza indlela yokuhambisa umdla omnandi kumntu ongekho kuphela kwigumbi lokulala, kodwa kwezinye iindawo zobomi bakho kunye.

Uninzi lwabasetyhini, ukungena ebuhlotsheni nomntu, ukunyuka ukuba uhlale naye, khumbula kuphela oko kunye nendlela yokwenza ngayo ubudlelwane obusondeleyo ukuze ugcine umthandi "nabo". Njengoko kufikile ebomini, iingxaki ezincinci zokuhlala, abafazi bahlala bephelile kwaye ngaphandle kokuba izigxeko nezikhalazo azikwazi ukuphuma kuloo meko.

Unokukholisa njani indoda?

Igama elithandekayo kunye nekati lihle, sithini ntoni ngabameli belizwe elinamandla. KwiYiputa yamandulo kwakukholelwa ukuba ukuba intombazana ithanda amakati, indoda yayo iya kuthanda. Ukufana kwendalo kunye nendoda ibonakala. Amadoda, njengamakati, ukuba angenakwenzeka aqinisekisiwe ukungahambi kakuhle kwawo kwaye ukuba umfazi wadalwa kuphela ukunyamekela abo abathandayo. Ibhinqa limele liqonde into efana nomntu kwaye ilawule ngokuqonda. Umzekelo wokuziphatha okufanelekileyo kulo mzekelo awuyi kumkhathaza loo mntu ngekhulu lexesha ngokuba itompu isebenza ekhitshini, kwaye imdumise into enhle eyenzile.

Iseluleko esilandelayo malunga nendlela yokwenza umonakalo ongathandabuzekiyo kumntu unxulumene nayo yonke into eyaziwayo ukuba indlela eya entliziyweni yomntu ilele esiswini. Zama ekhishini ngaphandle kokwesaba, kuba awuthandanga omnye umntu uyazi into enomdla ukukholisa i-getter yakhe. Ngethuba elifanayo, xa kunjalo, kulungele ukupheka into ethile ngokwekreyipi eqinisekisiweyo. Emva kwayo yonke into, ekhitshini, njengawo nawuphi na omnye "worksshop creative", i-fiasco iyakwenzeka, kwaye umntu, kungakhathaliseki oko, uya kulamba evela emsebenzini kwaye kufuneka adle. Kwakhona ukhumbule ukuba ukutya okulula kunye Amanqabunga ayenakwenzeka ukuba ayanconywe ngumthandi wakho, kuba isondo esomeleleyo sidume ngokuba ngumlutha wokutya inyama, i-calori ephezulu kunye nezitya ezinesondlo.

Njengoko sele sibone isihloko esithi "indlela yokuzisa umnqophiso wendoda" akulula, njengoko kubonakala kuqala. Ukususela kwintombazana ukuze kuqondwe olu buchule lunzima kufuna umzamo omkhulu kunye nomonde. Ubudala kwi-bedlala buyinto enhle, kodwa ngaphandle kokukwazi ukudibana kunye nobomi bemihla ngemihla, ulwalamano lwakho aluyi kuba lude kakhulu, ngoko kufuneka uphulaphule iingcebiso zeengcali.