Nangona i-feminization eqhubekayo, ininzi yabasetyhini iphupha ngothando, intsapho, abantwana, ngoko ke abafazi bazama ukuqonda indlela indoda ethanda ngayo iziphatha ngayo.
Umntu onothando omdala uziphatha njani ngobudlelwane?
Abasetyhini bavame ukuza kunye nemimiselo engekhoyo yokuwa ngothando. Uninzi lwabafazi bakholelwa ukuba ukuba umntu uyamthanda, uziphatha njengenkwenkwe okanye intloni. Nangona kunjalo, oku kuyinyaniso kwiimeko ezinqabileyo kakhulu, kuba isondo esomeleleyo sisona simbolo sokuthintela nokumodareyitha ekubonakalisweni kwemvakalelo. Ukongezelela koko, ukunyuka kokugqithisa komntu kuthetha ngokungahlambuluki kwakhe, okukhokelela ekungabikho kwempilo - namhlanje umntu "uyamthanda" omnye, ngomso - omnye.
Kodwa kusekho izibonakaliso zemvakalelo ejulile. Okokuqala, ezi zibonakaliso zokunyamekela ibhinqa. Indoda ethandwayo izama ngamandla akhe onke ukwenza ubomi obathandayo bube mnandi, bube lula, buncwane. Akunakwenzeka ukuba anike ientyatyambo kwaye akayi kuqhuba inqabileyo kwiifilimu (nangona le miqondiso ibaluleke gqitha ngabasetyhini), kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo wenza izipho ezinzulu kakhulu - uthenga umprosesa wokutya, umatshini wokuhlamba, uhlawulela imoto okanye ukulungiswa kweekhompyutheni. Indoda ethandwayo-umntu osebenza naye emsebenzini-uziphatha njengomcebisi nomncedisi: unceda ekuphatheni iteknoloji, uhamba kwaye uqondise.
Ewe, amadoda abathandanayo, abathandekayo abathandekayo abanezityalo, zikhona, kodwa oku kuyinto engaqhelekanga into engasilindelekanga ukulinda ixesha elidlulileyo, ukugatya umntu ongenamnye kodwa onokwethenjelwa. Kwakhona, kuyafaneleka ukukhankanya - umntu akufanele athathe ngokungathí sina ingqalelo kubathandi abathandekayo abatsha. Ukufumana kubo ukuthanda ukuqinisekiswa, ii-sms ezingapheliyo kunye neefowuni, kunokwenzeka, kwaye kuyamnandi, nangona le miva ingeyona nto kwaye iphela.
Umntu omdala uziphatha ngobundlelwane njengomntu onzulu kwaye onomdla. Ufunda umfazi wakhe oyintanda, iimfuno zakhe, kwaye kaninzi uceba ukwenza ubomi obungakumbi kunye kunye neenyanga ezizayo. Umntu onothando uhlahlisa ukuya kwi-whims kunye nezicelo zentombi yentliziyo. Ukuze amkholise, ummemezeli wamabutho omkhosi unako ukuphinde abuke kwi-melodrama yakhe ethandekayo okanye amlethe phakathi kobusuku i-strawberries evela kwi-supermarket.
Isibonakaliso esicacileyo semvakalelo yomntu, ubuhlobo bezesondo. Umntu onothando akayi kubeka isondo kwindawo yokuqala kwaye akafuni ukufunda ngokukhawuleza intanda ethandwayo, unako ukulinda nokubeka iimfuno zesondo zesondo ngaphezu kweyakhe.
Qaphela ukuba umnqweno wesondo ungaba kwezi zilandelayo:
- zonke izenzo zendoda zijoliswe kuphela ekufumaneni "intlawulo" ebhedini;
- Indoda ayinqikazi ukuthelekisa umfazi kunye nabanye, umcebise ukuba alahlekelwe isisindo okanye aye kwi-salon enobuhle;
- umntu okhanga kuphela akathandanga ukukhokela iingxoxo ezinde, ngakumbi emva kwesondo - emva kokufumana oko akufunayo, ngokukhawuleza "uyayikhumbula" ngemicimbi.
Ngokuphathelele iimvakalelo ezinzulu zomntu uthetha ezinye iimpawu:
- Indoda enothando ibonisa ubudlelwane kunye kwaye ayivumeli ukucinga ngeengcamango ezinokukwazi ukucaphukisa kunye nokwahlula intanda;
- Umthandi uyamthemba intombazana yentliziyo, ngoko uzimisele ukuxelela iindaba kunye naye, ukubonisana;
- Indoda enomdla kakhulu ufuna ukwazi ngakumbi ngemicimbi yintanda;
- ububele bomthandayo luya kubini kwizinto eziphathekayo kunye nendawo yokomoya-akayikuzigcina izipho, ixesha, okanye amandla.
Ngamanye amaxesha abafazi banombuzo - ngaba umntu onothando uyabutha ? "Iinqwelo zithetha ukuthi uyamthanda" - le meko iye yathandwa iminyaka emininzi, kwaye namhlanje kukho amadoda namabhinqa abayicinga ukuba avumelekile ukuhlaselwa kunye nobudlova kulwalamano. Nangona kunjalo, ukutshatyalaliswa komntu onothando kuvunyelwe kuphela xa ukhusela intanda yakhe ebuntwini obuyingozi.