Nsuku zonke sifumana iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zabantu. Amadoda, njengabasetyhini, ayingqayizivele kwindalo, isitalelo sobomi, njl. Kodwa kwenzeka ebomini kwaye into yokuba intombi iwa thandana nendoda ezayo emva kokuba ingabi enye ngaphandle kwayo ebizwa ngokuthi "unyana ka-mama". Kwaye olu hlobo lwesimo somntu wesigcisa lungabangela ebomini bakhe ubunzima. Emva koko, ubomi bomntu bodwa buqala ukuphazamisana nomama wendoda ethandekayo, ukuxhaphaza izenzo zakhe kunye nezigqibo.
Ngoko, makhe sizame ukujonga indlela yokuziphatha ngqo kumntu onjalo kunye nendlela yokufundisa kwakhona unyana wakho unina. Iinqununu ezibalwa zabasetyhini ziyakwazi ukufumana amandla okunyamezela ukuba ebomini bakhe phakathi kwakhe nomyeni wakhe baya kuma umama.
Unyana kaMamenkin - iimpawu
Kufanelekile ukunika inkcazo yento ebalulekileyo, ngenxa yoko, unokuzikhusela ekudibaneni nale nhlobo yamadoda. Ewe, ukuba awukabiwo isiseko sobuphi ubudlelwane kunye nalo mmeli wenxalenye eqinile yobuntu.
Cinga uluhlu lweempawu ezisinceda ukuqonda indlela yokubona unyana wenina:
- Isibonakaliso sokuqala sendodana ka-mama siqhagamshelana rhoqo nonina.
- Amadoda anjalo achitha ixesha elikhulu lokunxibelelana naye. Unako, ngaphandle kokungabaza, ukushiya umhla wakho, ukuba, umzekelo, unina unesidingo sokuncedisa ukuthenga kwindlu.
- Kufanelekile ukuba kuqwalaselwe ukuba umntu omncinci akagcini ukudibanisa nonina. Kwimeko apho engayifuni ukugcina ubudlelwane naye, buze malunga neentombi zakhe zangaphambili. Ukuba wonke umntu, ngaphandle kokungafani, akubi, ngoko u-misogynist. Kwaye, ukuba uthetha ngokungahoyiki kwabasetyhini, oko akuyi kuba yinto engathandekiyo xa uyeka ukuthetha nomntu onje.
- Unyana kaMamenkin udla ngokuthetha ngeengxaki zakhe, izihlobo zakhe, athululela udaka kubo ngezwi lakhe elilila, oku kuthetha ukuba unokukwenza into efanayo, kungekudala okanye kamva, nangemva kwakho. Yaye unina, mhlawumbi, ukuba wayezinikele konke okusemgangathweni ukuze enze unyana wakhe ajabule.
- Kwimeko apho indoda ibona yonke into ecaleni kwayo njengembangela yobomi bayo, kodwa kungeyena yena ngokwakhe, ngokuqinisekileyo akayi kukwazi ukuthatha uxanduva lokuphila kwakhe. Kwaye akukho mama ongeke agijime emva kwonyana wakhe ade aphendukele iminyaka engama-40, enyamekele imeko yakhe yentlalo, njl. Kunokwenzeka ukuba umntu onjalo ubuthathaka enentliziyo yomntwana kwaye akanako konke ukudala yakhe intsapho.
Unyana kaMamenkin - ingqondo
Makhe sijonge umphefumlo walolu hlobo lwabantu, zama ukuqonda izizathu zabo zokuziphatha ezingaqhelekanga.
Ngokuqhelekileyo isizathu sokuziphatha kwamadoda anjalo kukuba bahlaselwa yinkqubo yabameli besifazane. Kwaye ngenxa yolu, kwimeko nganye entsha bayazibona izilwanyana ezifuna ukutshata naye, ukuthatha indawo yakhe yokuhlala.
Indoda - unyana ka-unina ebuntwaneni wayethobela, wayekhokelwa kwaye unina wayenesiqinisekiso sokuzithemba, ukhuseleko lwengqondo. Njengomntwana, wakwazi ukuzalisekisa konke ayekufunayo. Into ephambili kukuba uyayithanda. Ngenxa yoko, umama wenqaba ukugxininisa kwinto yokuba umntwana eba ngumntu omdala, kwaye uqala ukunyanzelisa uthando lwendodana yakhe. Amadoda anjalo athambekele ekubeni entle emehlweni abanye, afuna ukuqaphela kwaye avunywe emehlweni abo. Oku kubangelwa kukuba unina, ngoncedo lokudumisa kunye nokunyanzeliswa, ehleli kuye, ukususela ebuntwaneni, nje indlela yokunxibelelana yokufumana unolonwabo kulolu hlobo lwamadoda.
Indlela yokulungisa unyana ka-mama?
Ukuba umntu ngokwakhe ufuna ukuzimisela kude nonina, ingqalelo yakhe ebomini bakho, ngoko kufuneka uqiniseke ngokusisigqibo sakhe, kuba
Ukuba umyeni akafuni ukutshintsha isimo sengqondo sobubele kumama, ngoko uphuhliso oluqhubekayo lobomi bakho buxhomekeke kwisigqibo sakho. Kodwa khumbula ukuba ukuba umyeni wakho akafuni ukucinga kwakhona ngemibono yakhe, unina uya kuthatha inxaxheba ebalulekileyo kwintsapho yakho.
Ngoko, kunye namadoda - oonyana baka-mama, umntu kufuneka aqikelele, kuba ngokubonakala ngathi banokuthabatha, kodwa ezininzi izigqibo zabo zilawulwa ngunina.