Akumangalisi ukuba bathi uthando lubi, kuba akukho mfazi okhuselekile kwinto yokuba ngelinye ilanga akayi kuba nomdla kulabo sele sele benomlingane. Ukuba unesimo esifanayo, unako iindlela ezi-2 kuphela, okanye uzame ukulibala into enomdla wakho, okanye uthathe icebo lokuthatha umntu otshatileyo.
Ndingathabatha njani indoda esatshatileyo kwintsapho?
- Uvavanyo lwimeko. Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuthatha isenzo, okokuqala into yokuyiqonda indlela umfana oyithandayo ekuphatha ngayo. Ungayifumana impawu engqalileyo, okokuqala, qaphela ukuba umntu ukhangele ngamehlo anomdla, nokuba unomdla ukuba akhulume nawe, okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, uyakukuphepha. Zama ukuvavanya le meko ngokwenene, ukuba kunokwenzeka, cela umhlobo osondeleyo ukuba akhangele impendulo yento enomdla kuwe. Le ndlela izokukunceda ngokucacileyo ukuba umntu uya kukuphatha njani. Ngokusekelwe kwingcaciso efunyenweyo, yenza utshintsho kumfanekiso wakho, umzekelo, uye kwipylistla okanye uthenge iimpahla eziza kugxininisa isidima sakho.
- Khangela ukunganeliseki. Emva koko, kuya kufuneka ufunde okungakumbi malunga neentsapho zekwenkwenkwe yakho, njengoko kuyaziwa, akukho mtshato uphelele, kwaye akukho myeni onokuyilungiselela indoda kuyo yonke into. Kufuneka uqonde ukuba yiziphi iinkalo zobomi obatshati indoda engayithandiyo, into ayithandayo ukuyitshintsha. Ingcaciso enjalo ibaluleke kakhulu, iya kukunceda, ukutsala umthandi, uthathe umntu otshatileyo. Kufuneka uqwalasele konke ukunganeliseki komntu kwaye utshintshe ukuze ube yinto efanelekileyo emehlweni akhe. Umfazi uxakeke ngomsebenzi kwaye akafuni ukupheka? Mkhulu! Dlala ngokungafaniyo, uphathe umfana ophethe ipayi. Umfazi akayithandi izinja, kwaye indoda ingathanda ukuba nenjabulo yemvu? Ngokumangalisayo, mxelele ukuba ungathanda ukuba nenja endlini, qhagamshelana nomxholo wezilwanyana, uthethe ngeempawu zoqeqesho. Kungekudala emva koko umthandi uya kuqalisa ukuthelekisa wena nomfazi wakhe, kwaye umphumo uya kuba kukuthandayo.
- Ukukhwela inethiwekhi. Ngoku into eyona nto ilukhuni, ukuba ube ngumntu osondeleyo kumntu, ngaphandle kwalokhu akunakukwazi ukukhokelela indoda esatshatileyo, kwaye ugcine ubudlelwane. Mamela uphinde uxhase umthandi wakho, musa ukukhawulela inkululeko yakhe kwaye ungayifaki iincoma. Ukuba umntu uya kubona ukuba wabelana ngemibono yakhe, uya kuqala ukukuthemba, kwaye oku kuyisiseko sobuhlobo .