Ubuhlobo phakathi kwendoda kunye nentombazana ayisoloko ihamba kunye nenwabe kunye novuyo. Ngamanye amaxesha kukho izihlandlo ezibangelwa yimvakalelo emibi okanye ibanda kubangela ubudlelwane. Nangona ezi zixesha elincinci kakhulu, kodwa zinceda ukuqonda kakuhle ubudlelwane kwaye zizenzele izigqibo.
Amantombazana ayedla ngokuxhalabisa ukuba umfana waqala ukuthanda ngaphantsi kwexesha. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba umfana sele ehlile, imiqondiso iya kubonakala kwangoko. Baza kukwazi ukubona kuphela intombazana ngokwayo, kodwa kunye nabantu abajikelezile.
Ungayiqonda njani ukuba umfana ukhulile?
Ngokuqhelekileyo, amantombazana agweba malunga nolwalamano lomntu. Kubonakala kuye ukuba ukuba umfana uyamthanda, ngoko uya kuhlala ebonisa iimpawu ezifanayo zokuqwalasela kuqala. Nangona kunjalo, kufuneka kuqondwe ukuba ulwalamano alukwazi ukuhlala luhlala phezulu kwiintando. Kwaye kuyinto evamile ukuba umfana ayeke ukulila ikhulu ngeentsuku kwaye unike izimbali zeentyatyambo imihla ngemihla. Kungenzeka ukuba wafumana ukuzithemba kulwalamano waza wabuyela kwimicimbi ebalulekileyo.
Ukupholisa iimvakalelo kubonisa enye into. Inyaniso yokuba umfana sele ehlile ngokugqithiseleyo kunokuthetha ukuba ulahlekelwe ngumdla kwintombazana, akafuni ukuchitha ixesha kunye naye kwaye adibane.
Iimpawu zokuziphoyisa kwi nxalenye yalo mfana unoku:
- ukungafuni ukudibana, ukuxolisa, ukuba ukhathele, uxakekile, akanalo ixesha. Kwaye izizathu ezinjalo zivela phantse yonke imihla, kwaye loo nto ayenzi nto ukuze ahlangane;
- Ulahlekelwe ngumdla kubomi bentombazana, akhathalele ukuba wayichitha ixesha lonke imini kunye nodibana naye;
- kwintlanganiso, unokukhawuleza ukuba nesidlo, abe nesondo aze alele okanye ahambe;
- akayi kucwangcisa ikamva elizayo;
- iingxoxo kwifowuni zazikhawuleza kwaye ziqhelekileyo;
- xa uzama ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo umntu onokuqala ukugxeka intombazana leyo, engamniki ithuba lokuthetha nantoni na.
Ukuba iimpawu zengxaki sele zibonakala zibonakala, ngoko ke kufuneka uqikelele into enokuyenza xa umfana sele ekhulile. Nangona kunjalo, ngenxa yale nto kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba akunjalo ukuba ubudlelwane buye lwafudukela kwinqanaba elikhululekile, okanye umntu, eneneni, unenkinga emsebenzini.
Kuthekani ukuba umfana sele ekhulile?
Amantombazana amaninzi ayayazi into enokuyenza xa uvakalelwa kukuba umfana ukhulile. Ngako oko, abamele isigqibo esihle sabantu baqala ukusazela kwaye benze iimpazamo, kunokusondela ngexesha lokuhlukana.
Ukuba kukho ukukrokra ukuba iimvakalelo zomfana ziyancipha, kufuneka:
- Yeka ukulawula loo mntu. Amadoda asemvelo akhululekile ukuthanda. Bacaphukisa xa umntu ehlala ebabheke.
- Musa ukunyanzelisa. Amadoda abazingeli, ngoko kufuneka siwanike ithuba lokubiza okokuqala, ukuthetha amagama abalulekileyo kuqala, ukwenza i-aphoyintimenti kuqala. Musa ukufikeleleka lula kwaye uvumele ukuhlangana nanini na imini okanye ebusuku. Umfana kufuneka abe nokubaluleka kwakho kunye nokuba ungekho kuye kwaye unokunyamalala ebomini bakhe nanini na.
- Kufuneka ukuba ube mnandi kwaye ube mnandi. Iintlanganiso ezide akufanele zibe sisizathu sokuyeka ukuzijonga. Kufuneka
soloko ikhangeleka, ibonakale kwaye ibonakale. - Musa ukuthetha ukubeka onke amachashaza phezu "kunye". Ukuba umntu ubalulekile kuwe, kungcono ukuzama ukubuyisela ubudlelwane ngononophelo kwaye unobtrusively. Ngamanye amaxesha umfana akayiqondi into ayithandayo. Kule meko, kukho nonke ithuba lokuzibamba kunye kunye nokuwunqoba umthandayo.
- Yenza konke ukuchitha ixesha kunye: yenza izinto ezithandwayo , sebenzisa ixesha kunye nabahlobo bakhe kunye nosapho.
Kuthekani ukuba umfana sele ehlile kude?
Umgama uvame ukucima uthando olungaphiliyo. Kunzima kakhulu ukulwa uthando kumgama. Nangona kunjalo, apha ungayisebenzisa imithetho engentla: musa ukunyanzelisa, ukubonelela inkululeko, ube nomona.