Mhlawumbi, phantse wonke umfazi ebomini bakhe wacinga ukuba kuya kuba mnandi ukuva ixesha elide iingcamango zabantu. Emva koko, abafazi kunye namadoda, njengokungathi zivela kwiiplanethi ezahlukeneyo, baneengqondo ezahlukeneyo kunye neembono kwizinto ezifanayo. Ndivuma ukuba ndifuna ukwazi ukuba abantu bacinga ntoni ngabasetyhini , bathi, kwaye yintoni umbono wabo wokwenene, omuhle. Emva koko, ezininzi iinkxalabo eziqhelekileyo zibini zenzeke, kwindawo yokuqala, ngenxa yeengcamango zenye yeqabane.
Kodwa, ngokwezibalo, amadoda ayelona gwenxa kunabesifazane.
Makhe sibone ngokubhekiselele kwinto ethethwa ngamadoda angatshati kunye nabatshatileyo malunga nabasetyhini.
Ukuqala, ngexesha lothungelwano lwe-Intanethi lizele ezininzi iifom zeesayithi kunye namasayithi, apho wonke umntu unokufumana oko abantu bacinga ngomntu okanye into ethile.
Ngoko, kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba amadoda ayifuni ukuba kubalulekile ukuxoxa ngokubonakala kwabafazi. Bona, ngendlela, bafumana iqabane lamanye ama-gram angaphezulu, nokuba i-coloring okanye ifake iingcambu. Ngaphandle koko, ukuba into enomsindo kakhulu okanye ibangelise kumfazi, abayi kuluyeka ukuba banikele inxalenye yesikhathi sabo samahhala kule ngxoxo.
Kuluhlu lwezinto ezixhalabisayo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha zingenakuqondakala kubantu, ezi ziqhagamshelwano zabasetyhini ezingenanto kwaye zingenazo ikhefu. Ngelishwa, akubona bonke abantu abaqaphela ukuba kubafazi abathile le ngxoxo ayiyikuchitha ixesha, kodwa indlela yokukhupha ingqondo yengqondo.
Uluhlu olufanayo lunokudibaniswa kunye nelokuba ukugwetywa abameleli besondo esomeleleyo bathetha ngalabo baxhalabele kakhulu ngokubonakala kwabo, belibale ukuba kukho imfucuza ekhitshini, kwaye ishati yomntu ilinde iiveki ukuyihlamba. Ungakulibali ukuba imfashini yokwakha into eyakhiwe kuphela, iyabalisa amadoda. Ubume bendalo njengabalulekayo, kwaye kuya kubaluleka kubantu.
Abantu bathi ntoni ngabathandi?
Amadoda asasazi ngokubanzi ngobomi babo bobabini. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukwesaba ukuvuma kubo, bawela kwiingalo zenye intokazi, ngokukhawuleza. Amadoda ngamanye amaxesha noloyiko bacinga ngeendlebe zabo, akunakwenzeka ukuba umntu onjalo ufuna ukushiya intsapho yakhe yangoku kwaye abe nabantwana benkosikazi.
Kuthi ukuthini amadoda ngamabhinqa aphantsi?
Okumangalisayo kukuba, nangona abaninzi abafazi baphupha ngesisu esisisigxina, amadoda adibana nesisu esincinci. Amadoda athetha ngabasetyhini abagciniweyo njengabesifazana ngamabele azintlu, apho baziva ngathi emva kwodonga lwamatye. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele ukuba abantu bacinga ukuba aba bafazi bayilungisile.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ingcamango enkulu ukuba ukwazi ukufunda iingcinga zabantu malunga nabasetyhini, kodwa ukuba ufunde inyaniso malunga neengqondo zesintu , akuyi kuba yinto engathandekiyo xa ufumana iimpendulo kwimibandela enomdla evela kumntu oqhelekileyo.