Kutheni sifuna abantwana?

"Kutheni sifuna abantwana?" Ngaba ngumbuzo ongaqhelekanga kunye nobunzima obunzima ukuba amaqabane amancinane athile acele omnye. Uninzi lwabazali bexesha elizayo babeletha abantwana, ngokupheleleyo bengacingi ukuba bafuna ntoni. Nangona kunjalo, ezinye iimbini ziqhutywa ziinjongo ezithile, esiza kukuxelela ngazo kwinqaku lethu.

Kutheni kufuneka ndibe nabantwana?

Emva koko, sinika iimpendulo ezithandwayo kulo mbuzo, onokuyivakala kwiintombi nabasetyhini abaselula:

1. Ngokuqhelekileyo, isiqabane, xa sibuzwa isizathu sokuba bafune abantwana kwintsapho yabo, bathi: "Hayi, luhlobo luni lusapho olungenabantwana?" Abazali banjalo banquma ukuba nomntwana ngenxa yokuba kuyimfuneko ukuba akukho mntu uyamgwebayo, kunye nezinye izizathu ezifanayo. Ngelishwa, ngamanye amaxesha omama abancinane kunye nabazali abakulungele ukuzalwa kokuqhubeka kwabo, kwaye musa ukuthatha umntwana ngokuzalwa ngokukhawuleza. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwimeko enjalo, umntwana ukhuliswe ngabagogo, kwaye abazali ababonisi kakuhle abantwana babo.
2. Ngethuba lokufunda umbuzo, kutheni abantwana befuna umntu, impendulo ethandwa kakhulu kukuba: "Njalo umfazi". Abantwana abanjalo bathatha ukuzalwa komntwana ngokungenanto, musa ukuba kuyimfuneko ukujongana nosana kwaye uphewule ngokupheleleyo konke ukunakekelwa kweemvumba kumlingane wabo. Kwixesha elizayo, ezo ntsapho zihlala ziphulwe ngenxa yokungabikho kokuthatha inxaxheba kobazali ekukhulisweni komntwana.
3. Ekugqibeleni, umbuzo wokuba kutheni abantwana badinga umfazi, unokufumana inamba enkulu yezimpendulo ezahlukeneyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, intombazana encinci ikhetha ukuzala umntwana, ukuze kubekho umntu onokunyamekela, ukunceda umntu osemdala kunye nokunye. Enye yezona ziqhelekileyo kwaye, ngelo xesha, izizathu eziyintsipho ngumnqweno wokugcina intsapho kwaye ugcine umyeni. Kwiimeko ezininzi, iintsapho ziyahlukana, kungakhathaliseki ukuba zinani labantwana kuzo, kwaye umfazi uqala ukuxinwa ngokuzalwa komnye umntwana.

Impendulo yalo mbuzo unzima ingahluka. Wonke umntu omdala uyazikhethela ukuba ngaba abantwana bayamdinga okanye akunjalo, kwaye ukuba kunjalo, kutheni. Kodwa ngaba kuyimfuneko ngempela ukubuza umfuno wokuzala? Akukho mntu uyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba ngaba ubomi emva kokuphila, ngoko kubalulekile ukushiya ukuqhubeka - abantwana bakho. Emva koko, nayiphi na imilinganiselo yezinto eziphathekayo ayifani nxamnye nobomi obutsha.

Kwaye, ngaphezu koko, umntwana kufuneka ahlanganyele naye ubomi bakhe obude kwaye obonwabileyo. Ukukwabelana naye kunye nemihlali encinane, ukubonisa umhlaba apho uya kuhlala khona. Ukumfundisa ukuba ahambe, akhulume, afunde, abale, avelise abazalwana bakhe. Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ukuva okubalulekileyo: "Umama noTata, ndiyakuthanda!", Ngenxa yokuba akukho nto iyakuthi ithathe indawo yolu lonwabo.