Kwimihla yakudala, batshata baza batshata ngaphandle kokucela imvume yabantu abatsha, ekhokelwa ngumgaqo othi: "Uya kuba nomonde - uya kuthandana," kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo abo bahamba phantsi kwesithsaba abazange bazive ngeemvakalelo zabo.
Ixesha litshintshile, kwaye umbuzo wothando lwababini uphinde ucacile. Kodwa indlela yokuwela ngothando nomntu ongaziva ngayo iimvakalelo ezinzulu, kwaye nokuba ufuna ukuziphoqa ukuba umthande.
Uyandithanda, kwaye mna?
Imeko umntu ayithandayo ngokwenene, kunye nezinye iimvalelo ezinokufudumala iimvakalelo ezifudumeleyo, akuzona ezitsha, kodwa izazi zengqondo zithi akuyikho ithemba.
Indlela yokuwa ngothando nomntu, ukuba ungamthandi, kodwa uyonwabile kwaye usondele emoyeni? Ukuziva uthando ngaye kuya kuzalwa ukuba uyayifuna.
Ayikho imfihlo yokuba uthando "luthando lwaseAfrika" lushisa ngokukhawuleza, kwaye lushisa ngokukhawuleza. Ubudlelwane obude obude buzalwe ngenxa yobuhlobo kunye nentlonipho. Ukuba umntu onothando nawe, uyithande kakhulu, konke kuya kuvela.
Ndifuna ukuthanda!
Ukuthanda umntu onithandayo, izazi zengqondo zithi, akunzima kunzima:
- uzame kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukuba ube kunye: kuya kunceda ukwazi ngokujulileyo umntu onothando nawe, kwaye kuya kwenzeka ukuba uya kuba "amanqaku oqhagamshelwano" aqhelekileyo;
- Musa ukukhawuleza ukwenza isigqibo esithile malunga nommangali wakho: ukukhawuleza apha akukho nto, kwaye ingqiqo kunye nesineke kuya kunceda ukubonela izibonelelo kunye nokungahambikiyo njengokungathi zivela ngaphandle;
- ungathandabuzeki ukuba ungamthanda umntu ngokuhamba kwesikhathi: amava obomi abonisa ukuba oku kunokwenzeka, ngakumbi ukuba iintlanganiso kunye naye zikunandipha, kwaye unomdla kuwe. Zama ukubona kuyo yonke into enokwenzeka, ukuba ungabalulekanga ngokubalulekileyo kwiintsiphu ezincinane kunye nokusilela: emva koko, emva kwakho konke, awunayo ingelosi okanye umzekelo.
Nangona kunjalo, ukugqiba ukuba ungayithanda umntu ngexesha, musa ukuziphoqa ukuba uthande umntu ongathandeki kuwe, okanye ongafanelanga uthando lwakho. Ubundlobongela ngokwakho kunye namaxhoba abukho kwindawo apha: ukuba akukho mfudumalo kunye nemvakalelo emihle, ayiyi kunyamezela kwaye ayiyi kuthanda.