Wonke umfazi ufuna indoda yakhe imxabise kwaye imxabise. Kuphela kule moya uvakalelwa ukuba uyimfuneko kwaye uyintanda. Ubudlelwane obufudumele kwintsapho kunika umfazi wamaphiko omnceda akhulise abantwana, axhase umyeni wakhe, alonge indlu aze enze neminye imisebenzi emininzi.
Nangona kunjalo, ngamanye amaxesha kukho imeko apho indoda ihlazisa kwaye ihlazo. Akunakwenzeka ukuba ibhinqa lihlale lihlelekile ngokomzwelo kwaye lisebenze ngomoya ololo hlobo. Unako ukunyamezela ixesha elithile kwaye uthemba ukuba umyeni wakhe uya kuqiqa. Kodwa ke konke kuya kufumana umzuzwana xa izitya ziza kunika, kwaye umfazi uya kuqala ukukhangela isiphumo esivela kwiimeko eziphuhlisiweyo.
Indoda ihlambalaza kwaye ihlazisa - iingcebiso zesazi sengqondo
Inyaniso yokuba indoda ihlambalaza kwaye ihlazisa umfazi wayo, kunokukho izizathu ezahlukeneyo:
- Indoda ayizivezi ngomsindo ngomfazi wayo. Akubona wonke umntu oqonda ukuba uthando kufuneka lusekelwe. Ngoko ke, kuzo zonke iintsapho kuza ixesha lokuzilalisa. Ngeli xesha, kubalulekile ukuzama ukugcina iimvakalelo ezikhulayo kunye nokusebenza ukuqinisa ubudlelwane . Ukuba abafazi abayiqondi le nto, iingxaki zingaphakama kwintsapho.
- Umyeni wam unenkosikazi. Ukuba indoda ihlambalaza ihlazisa umfazi wayo, inokumnyanzela ukuba ayeke ukuziphatha okunjalo, ukuze umthwalo wesigqibo sokuqhawula umtshato unomfazi wakhe.
- Umyeni ulahlekelwe intlonelo kumfazi wakhe. Kukho izizathu ezininzi zezi zinto. Ngokomzekelo, umfazi waya kummiselo, wayeka ukuzinyamekela, waba ngumdla ongenakulinganisayo, odibeneyo, othakazelisayo. Kwimeko apho, unokuqala ukumcasula, kodwa yena ngokwakhe akayi kuqonda into eyenzekayo.
- Indoda inexabiso eliphantsi, ngoko liphakamisa ngenxa yokuthotywa komfazi wayo.
- Umfazi uvumela ukuziphatha kakubi kuye, engafuni ukunyusa ulwalamano olusele luhleli.
- Umfazi ulawulwa ngamandla ngumyeni wakhe, oko kubangelwa yinto engalunganga kuye.
Indlela yokuphendula umyeni ngenxa yokuthuka?
Ngamanye amaxesha abasetyhini bacinga malunga nokuba bahlambalaza indoda. Kukho impendulo engacatshanganga kule nto: omnye akufanele akhangele naluphi na ukuthuka komyeni. Musa ukubhala ukunyaniseka ukuba ukhathele okanye ulambile. Kufuneka kuthi ngokukhawuleza ithoni epholileyo: "Nceda ungathethi nam ngeli dilesi, mhlawumbi kufuneka siyeke ukuthetha."
Kungakhathaliseki isizathu sokunyaniseka, kufuneka uxoxe nomlingane wakho kwaye uthethe ngeemvakalelo zakho ngazo. Cacisa ukuba ulungele ukutshintsha, ukuba kukho ingxaki, kodwa inxalenye yakhe kufuneka ube nobulumko. Ukuba umyeni akafuni ukuva nantoni na engakulungele ukusebenza kuloo meko, ngoko kuyimfuneko ukuthatha amanyathelo amaninzi: ukuhlukanisa ixesha okanye umtshato.