I-Orthodoxy inomusa kakhulu kubafazi abakhulelweyo. Amakholwa acinga ukuba isibeleko somama singcwele xa kukho umntwana kuwo. Namhlanje, siya kuthetha malunga nokuba ngaba kunokutshata ukukhulelwa, nokuba ngenxa yesizathu esithile isibini asizange sibe nexesha lokwenza ngaphambi kokukhulelwa kunye nokukhulelwa .
Icawa nomtshato
Umtshato womtshato awuvunyelwanga yiphina umfundisi, icawa iyavuma kuphela ubuhlobo obhalisiweyo ngokusemthethweni. Ukuba usuneminyaka engumyeni nomfazi, ke kulo mcimbi umtshato ngexesha lokukhulelwa awuyi kwahluka kumtshato oqhelekileyo. Kodwa akusoloko umama ozayo emtshatweni womthetho, okwenziwa ngemilinganiselo yesonto kuthathwa njengesono okanye ubuhenyu. Nangona kunjalo, xa ibhinqa lisesikhundleni, phambi koThixo, uhlambulukile. Ngoko ke, umfazi okhulelwe unokutshata. Ukukhula ngaphakathi kwintsana kuthetha ukuba uThixo wabasikelela eso sibini waza wabanika ubomi obutsha. Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukutyelela icawa rhoqo ngangokunokwenzeka, ngakumbi ukuba umtshato uphambi. Kungcono ukwenza oku kunye nomlingane.
Umtshato wesifazane okhulelweyo
Nayiphi na imitshato eqala ngobudlelane kunye nokuvuma. Umlungiseleli wecawa uya kufunda imithandazo emininzi, kwaye mema abo bafazi ukuba bavume. Ukuba awuzange ulumkise umbingeleli malunga nokukhulelwa, yenza oku ngoku. Akunakukwazi ukufihla oku. Umtshato ecaweni yowesifazane okhulelweyo uya kuthatha malunga neyure, ngoko kufuneka ulungiselele oku kwangaphambili. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi abakhulelweyo banomxhesho ophantsi wegazi, abavumiyo okanye iincamiso. Ukuthintela amaxesha amnandi kunye namahleko ngexesha lo mthendeleko, sitshele malunga nokuphila okungabalulekanga kayihlo, thabathe imithi efunekayo, uphuze itiye yokuthoba. Umfazi okhulelweyo kufuneka atshate, kodwa kwiimeko ezinqabileyo zivunyelwe ukuhlala phantsi.
Ngokuphathelele izicathulo, khetha iintoli eziphantsi. Oku akuyi kuququzelela kuphela inkqubo, kodwa iya kuba yinto efanelekileyo ebandleni. Izambatho zomtshato zabasetyhini abakhulelweyo kufuneka zikhululeke kwaye zide, zivale amahlombe nesifuba. Kulungele ukuba ngaba batyunjwa kwiingubo zendalo: ikotoni okanye ifilokisi. Inyama emtshatweni imbopheleleko, njengoko ihlanganisa intloko yowesifazane.
Ethempileni emva kweofisi yokubhalisa
Inketho ekhethekileyo iya kuba ngumtshato ngexesha lokukhulelwa emva kokubhaliswa komtshato kwi-ofisi yokubhalisa. Kule meko, yonke into iya kwenziwa ngokwemigaqo ye-Orthodox. AmaKristu akholwayo okwenyaniso akholelwa ukuba ukuzalwa kwabantwana ngaphambi komtshato kuyisono. Ngoko ke, ukuba ungenayo ixesha lokutshata ngaphambi kokuba ukhulelwe, yenza emva koko. Umtshato kunye nokukhulelwa akuchaswanga. IBhayibhile ithi umama otshatileyo uya kuhlambuluka xa ezalwa. Oku kuthetha ukuba ukuhanjiswa kuya kuba buhlungu kakhulu kwaye umntwana uya kulungile.
Ukukhulelwa emva komtshato kuthatha intsikelelo kaThixo, ukususela ngoku kwintsana kunye nabazali bakhe babotshwa ezulwini ngeentambo ezingcwele. Kuze kube sekupheleni kwekota, ibhinqa lifanele liye etempileni, ngaphambi kokuba kuzalwe kuyinqweneleka ukufumana intsikelelo yombingeleli, ukuvuma nokufumana intlanganiso. Kwiintsuku ezingama-40 emva kokuvela komntwana, unina osemncinci akanakutyelela icawa. Kukholelwa ukuba ngeli thuba yonke ikhefu emva kokuphuma kwimizuzu ihamba. Kuphela emva kokupheliswa kwabo, unokuphinde uwele umnqamlezo wetempile.
Kutheni ungatshatanga ukhulelwe?
Umtshato kufuneka ube ngokuzithandela. Kukho iimeko xa ibhinqa elikhulelweyo lifuna ukugcina isram, kodwa indoda iyahlukana nayo. Umtshato oqeshweyo awuyi kuhamba kakuhle, kuthathwa njengesono. Kuphela isigqibo esivumelanayo somtshato siza kusenza umtshato ube namandla kwaye uvuyo. Akukho mithintelo yomtshato womfazi okhulelweyo.
Le nkonzo yasendulo iye yasinda nanamhla, kwaye ayizange ilahlekelwe yinto ebalulekileyo kuyo yonke into. Ababini baqhubeka bephethe izibophelelo zabo phambi koThixo, ngokuqhelekileyo (nangona, ngelanga, ayisoloko ikhona) ibonisa isimo sengqondo esibi malunga nomtshato wesizukulwana esincinane.